My girlfriend is pregnant,but we aren't yet ready for this.what should we do?
She want to keep the bebe...im not sure...whats the best thing to do?
Answer:
To start with if you weren't ready did you ever hear of birth control?
The choice to keep or not to keep or abortion is both of your choices, but with so many social programs everything an expecting mom needs is available and even after the baby is born there are programs, like here it's called WIC and they furnish all the formula and food for your baby. Your local health department has all that information.
You will manage though and have a beautiful son or daugther. Time to find a steady job though cause children need a lot of things.
You're 29! Enough said
Consider adoption. Adoption is not abandonment, it is giving your child a real chance to make it. It is loving this child more than you love yourself. I was adopted and know that God had a plan for me way before I was born and HE put me where HE wanted me to be.
In the end it is up to you, but try to get a better job in the mean time, one that will give her health insurance at least if she doesnt have it already. Is marriage an option here? If so, I would go see a minister, or whatever is your discretion. They can probably help you. If you love her, you will support her decision to keep the baby.
Where there is a will, there is a way.
When in doubt, don't! Don't have an abortion, don't talk about adoption, don't make any choices until you are both ready!
Good Luck...talk to a professional about what choices you have...
I've known a lot of families where the start wasn't financially sound... but it all worked out in the end. If she wants to keep the baby.. then keep it and support her.
DONT GET AN ABORTION WHATEVER YOU DO! you will regret it. you have 9 months to get your lives straightened out. if a 8 months you still dont feel ready, adoption is always an option. Just remember, You have probably like 7-8 months before the child arrives. Thats plenty of time:) C'mon DADDY.
As for medical insurance she can get pregnancy medical through the state. Look into it because your child can stay on it after delivery
what do you mean? you have made your choice. You are both adults and she is carrying a child.
No-one is ever truly ready for the way a child changes their life. If you really do love each other as you say then be prepared to fall overwhelmingly in love with your child.
Knuckle down, get proud. you are somebodys daddy.
You don't have any say in the matter anymore. It's her decision. If you suggest killing the baby and then she decides to keep it, you're screwed. Because that baby will find out that you had wanted to kill it. I would never support baby killing, because I believe in the rights of babies. Work harder, get a better job, and handle your responsibilites. The baby shouldn't have to suffer because of your mistakes.
Talk to a counselor. You are both "old" enough to have a child and raise it. I am pro-choice when it comes to abortion, but it's not the choice for me. Abortions are very hard on women, and it could cause a much bigger strain on your relationship than having the baby would. You could also check into adoption. There are several people who long for a child, but can't concieve one on their own. It's a very tough thing, but you and her need to make a decision that you can both live with. I wish you the best of luck.
one of the above answers says its up to you. but the fact is its not. its up to her but shes right in that if u love her you should stick by her and try to get a stable job with benifits
You're 29 years old and she's 24. If you don't have a stable job that is something you need to work on regardless of if you have a child... more than linkely a child is going to motivate you to do so. When you have a baby you aren't the same person anymore. I have my first child when I was 17 and it gave me just that... motivation to do better for my child.
If she wants to keep the body ultimately you don't have any options, only she does. Forcing her to give up the child when she wants to keep it is going to be very detrimentle to her the rest of her life, where as it's not really going to make a difference for you.
All in all, I think you are both old enough to have and care for a child and it's probably going to be good for you. If I dind't have my daughter when I was 17 I wuoldn't have ever graduated high school or gone to college. She gave me a reason to.
you must convince her.that she must tokeep the baby.and think very good before make any steps in your life.and iswear that your heart will tell you what to do.
I know its tough. I think that if you chose abortion it may haunt you forever.
I would suggest that you try real hard to get a stable job with health insurance like the lady suggested.
I hope you have a support system of a good family and friends to help you.
You could consider adoption, but if she wants to keep the baby, and you love one another very much, I think this story is going to have a happy ending ;-)
Good Luck!
I think abortion or giving the baby up is a very personal choice BUT since you are asking the general public i will give my two cents worth.If you aren't ready then why are you pregnant? You are not 15 years old. I feel a baby is a gift from God and i think you should follow your instincts and not what others tell you to do But what you feel is the right adult thing to do,it sounds like the baby was created from love so i think you should follow your hearts
your going to have to wait to see what she does.
No matter what you say or do her mind is set already.
Only advice I could give is. Stop being so loving and showing her your there.
She see that and sees a family
not good advice,but if you don't want it you cant force her, so trick her into beliving you won't be there.
If she does keep it you have to step up tho
you are 29!
if people wait until they're "ready" to have kids, there wouldn't be any. i was soooo freaked out when my wife got pregnant.(and we were actually trying to.) but i never told her how "un-ready" i was. it was mostly my fear, but God knows what we want even when we don't.
Thou keep the baby! And quit those jobs and three jobs trust in the?
It is time to grow up and become a man. You can no longer think about you or what you want but the life you have created needs a father and a role model. BE ONE. good luck
i think you should support her most guys still aren't sure after they are dads lol your 29 if you want kids it seems like a good time
Ok first off don't panic. It will be ok. I know you feel like you have just been hit by a mac truck but think this through. She wants to keep it right? Well you have already begun the talking process. Don't jump into the marriage thing just because she is pregnant. Wrong move. You have just known each other 3 mths. And divorce is on the rise so why marry then divorce later, so sad.
Start looking at websites try: http://www.noah-health.org/en/pregnancy/... That will help. Also start looking for couselors around your area that will help you and her communicate and help you through this time. you are going to be a dad. be thankful...
Be responsible for the new life that you made. If you're going to play you are going to have to pay. If all of us waited until we had good paying jobs before we had children, the human race as we know it would probably be extinct. If you really don't feel that either of you can take care of the baby properly, there is always adoption. If you choose to keep the child, and you and the girlfriend break up, you still will be responsible for the childs care and well being. Don't have the sex if you don't want the results of it.
Do not kill your baby by abortion, if you love her, then you love the baby that is part you and part her. Adoption is another way to go, my friend has 7 kids, the last 5 are adopted and they are much better off than the homes that they came from. She shouldn't worry about getting another/different job right now, but you should. Go to an adult school and get some training, many classes aren't very long, (6 weeks to 6 months) you could graduate and have a good job before the baby even comes. There is financial aid available, so don't let that stop you. I have 6 kids, and they are a blessing, each and every one. You'll know what I am talking about when you see your baby for the first time on the ultra sound machine, and when you hold your baby for the first time in your arms.
hey, _noone_ is ever really ready for their first baby. if you love your girlfriend as much as you say you so, then keep it. youll regret it if you get an abortion (imagine what it do to your gf emotionally) but if you must get rid of it, adopt it out. its a life changing experience (mine has been for the better) so think carefully, please.
i think u should have the baby
don't kill a little creature
& u & your gurlfriend r old enough to have a kid
may be for few days u won't be ready but after awhile u'll be all set
you can do this.life is what you make of it and you can maker this work for the best. kids are great even when unexpected trust me
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