Does he want to be with us?
Now we hadnt seen each other in about a month, but the other day I went over to his to drop some of his stuff off. We got talking and I ended up staying there. He seemed so much better about the baby although he still doesnt know what he wants to do. Up until then he'd always refused to feel the baby kick, but this time he seemed keen to feel it and when I showed him this pair of baby booties you should have seen the soppy smile on his face. He even spoke about baby names.
I'm sure he still loves me but is just scared. He kept saying how much he'd missed me and missed being with me/talking to me. He was so snuggly all weekend and barely let me out of his arms. He went away to start his training with the marines this week. We've decided that I'll give him till october to make his mind up and after that I wont wait around for him, but I dont think he'll even need that long. He said to let him know when the babys born and he'll come up and see us both when he gets leave. Do you think it sounds like he's starting to come around?
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if he was that big of a jerk he wouldnt of spoken too you at all, yea, to me it sounds like hes coming around. som guys its takes a while foe something like this to set it. being a parent is a very big responsiblity
He sounds like a jerk, hunny! (asking you to have an abortion at 15 weeks?!) 15 weeks is WAYYY over the limit to even think of an abortion! ( I think legally the cut off point would be 12 weeks!)
Sure it feels good to be in his arms, hug him and kiss him. but when the baby comes, you won't have very much time together to do that type of stuff, and it'll freak him out and he'll probably wind up cheating on you (with someone who doesn't have kids). He does not sound like he is ready to settle down and be all *domestic* with you and a baby. :-(
I'm sorry to be so blunt, but I think you need to forget about him. And sue him for child support (when the baby is born)so he will take care of responsabilities.
Good Luck and God Bless.
Make good decisions for yourself and your baby, and don't allow any stress in your life. Your MAIN FOCUS needs to be the baby, not to please that jerk-off!
I think it's something only he can answer for himself. It is such a huge life changing thing and you really need to communicate your feelings to him and he needs to do the same to you.
Before the baby is born you really need to know where he stands. There would be nothing worse for the baby, then having a Dad who bounced in and out of their life and not knowing if you were ever truely wanted by your father.
I'm sorry but no he don't seem like he wants to settle down at all why would you give him till Oct? you should move on and get on with your pregnancy if he wants to come back he will but I'm sorry i wouldnt hold your breath best of luck to u x x
No I think hes not so great. One thing I came on here to remind you of is that if he is going into the marines then make sure you request child support thru the marine corp services agency. Then the money will come right to you every month and he still gets his pay.
It is possible that he will come around but usually this doesnt happen - a man that scared of responsibility usually wont. But because he is going into the marines -that may grow him up a lot and he may change in many ways before your very eyes.
You shouldn't give him the upper hand you are the one pregnant he should let you know before the baby is born. You or that baby don't owe him anything he owe you. Just be prepared for anything and I wish you the best for you and the baby. Please dont stress over it.
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