Honestly how much more experience can an older woman have...?
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Let me explain a little senario. I was 18 when I had my daughter. I had been living with my fiance for 6 months when I had gotten pregnant. Now during this 6 months before I had gotten pregnant, my younger brother lived with us for a total of 3 months. There were 3 different times he had moved in with us due to my father having financial difficulties. My younger brother is also Epileptic. He is now 18 and has been diagnosed as epileptic since he was 5. Thirteen years I have been there seeing things that some people never experience in their lives. Do you know what it is like seeing someone you love dearly convulsing on the floor and all you can do is hold their head up to stop it from "bouncing?" Anyways, I had been there when I was younger. I had to grow up really quick and it wasn;t just when I got pregnant; it wasn't when I moved out of my mom's house. I was 10 years old the first time he had a grand mal seizure. That's one of the scariest things I have ever seen. My mom is another example; I was 12 when my mom had to have an emergency biopsy because of breast cancer. My dad was working a lot so it was me who was taking care of my mom after she had her right breast removed. It was me who helped her wash her back because she could hardly move. I'll be 21 next month. When my girls are old enough to move out, I'll still be young. I will finally be able to have the "me," time that I didn't get to have when I was younger. I don't blame my mom, my brother, or either of my unplanned daughters for what I've been through. I'm just glad my girls have a grnadma that's still alive, and they have a loving uncle. Their father and I are not rich by any means, but they still have adorable clothes, great toys at christmas, and they have what they need most; two loving parents.
by the way, sorry this answer is so long...
just go to the developing/third world countries. girls/boys as young as 10 or even 9 are better parents than some of these older parents in the western hemisphere. they can look after whole families for heaven sake because they have embedded self respect and sense of responsibility. Alot of it comes down influence more than experience, in Indian/eastern families like myself, there always a close bond between members due to the extended families. they all Chip in to do the work. kids see this from an early age and it kind of filters through without even anyone actually physically sitting down and showing them the ropes.
You talking of women.. I am not married, nor have kids of my own, however I have got over 30 nephews and nieces .. I am a great father to them and I or my siblings have never sat down and told them here is how we do parenting. The older kids naturally look out and parent the younger kids even without our knowledge.
Similar kind of thing can be seen throughout the asian eastern and middle eastern territories. I mean they dont need books on parenting for heven sake.
You hit the nail on the head as far as I am concerned. age has nothing to do with how mature you are. I am not saying that a 16 year old is mature enough to have a baby by any means. Babies do not need to have babies and chances are she isn't near mature enough to raise a child. So, maturity does not necessarily come with age, in my opinion. AND, I am 23 and resent being called "older"... my feelings are hurt ;-)
It's just a rash generalization that the longer you live, the more patient you are and the better situated emotionally and financially you are to have a child.
I think it really depends on the person. Some people who wait have become rather set in their ways and selfish. I agree with you.
-I am an "older" mom, I am 33.
A lot of that has to do with the stereotypes of young others who pawn their kids off on other children, are high school drop outs, and leave their kids in dumpsters. Which is so not true of a lot of young mothers.
I know I had my first at 18. I worked my butt off to graduate. (I took 6 weeks off my senior year until my son could go to daycare and came back with 6 days left of the school year). I also had a supportive fiance who is now my husband and we had our own home. We struggled a lot, but we pulled through. It's harder when you are younger. But it is possible to do and some young parents are better parents then middle aged parents.
I know my neighbors next door are at least 10 years older then us and they neglect their poor kids. :(
First of all, it's only partly about maturity. Secondly, who are you to judge the amount of life experience someone has?
Older people usually just have more emotional, financial, and realtionship stability than younger people (on average - individuals vary, of course).
Also, development does play a part. Did you know that until a person is in their mid twenties their brain hasn't totally developed? Of course, most of it has, but the part that hasn't is the part that controls foresight and planning. What I'm getting at is that biologically speaking, teens and very young adults do not posess all the tools to make good decisions about their futures or to consider the long term consequences of their actions that older adults have, so statistically speaking, they are at a disadvantage.
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