I am 3 months pregnant and I need help! Sincere answers only please...?
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You are lucky you have a supportive and understanding fiancee. I know for sure that i will never forget my first love, I think it is fine to think about the past and have him in your thoughts once and a while. You just have to remember that you cant live in your past, if you do, you will never have a future. If your fiancee is so supportive of you and this pregnancy then i suggest you let the past go and live on. Things never turn out the way that you want it to but it always happen for a reason. all i can say is good luck in whatever that you do.
Your emotions are going to be all over the place because you're pregnant. It does not make sense to be thinking about someone who wants nothing to do with you. Concentrate on your fiance's good points, and take care of yourself and your baby!
You really can't. Maybe you love your fiancee, but in a different way. You can't forget about the father of your baby, he has just as much of a right to your child and it's life as you do. You can't just forget about him and shut him out of your life. Maybe you should speak with a counselor.
You can't and maybe you should think twice before you marry someone else.
Face the truth. I think you are confusing between the meaning of love. I think you still have not have a closure with your child's father that you are carrying.
You need meet a therapist and dicuss your feeling about this child is born. It is not fair for your current boyfriend who is in love with you and is supportive of your pregnancy while you think of your ex.
Face up with the reality ....Be strong and deal with your feeling....
by growing up and being more interested in the welfare of your baby and not yourself.
put your child's interests before your own. if your fiance is willing to be a dad to your child and the natural father is not...
time for childish wants are over for you! you are going to be a mom. no one will look out for your baby if you don't!!!!!!!!
It's the bond of knowing you are carrying his child. You need to sit down and talk to you fiancee about your feelings so it doesnt damage either of your futures. If the father wants nothing to do with you, that should be efficient enough to know there is no future with him. Let the past be where it is at.the past and look forward to a future with your fiancee..There are not many men in this world that would over look such an obsticle and still want to be with the woman...be grateful and let old feelings die. No matter what, he will always be a part of your life. You have been first mates and have a baby. but thats it..thats where you have to draw the line. Good Luck in your decision. I hope you make a fair one for you both and the child too!
one question. Does your fiancee know that he is not the father and that this other guy is?? If not that is probably why you can't stop thinking about the other guy. You feel gulity that's why he keeps going through your head over and over again. If your fiancee does know he is not the father and the other guy is. You have a great fiancee for one. And for two the other guy was your first love, and first loves are always hard to get over. When you do get over him.since he is being such a jerk get child support and suck him dry for all he is worth. A guy shouldnt be mean to a pregnant chic!
You need a new definition of FRIEND. If this guy knocked you up and then skipped out on you, that is not a friend and he is a terrible lover. The reason he hung out with you for so long is he was waiting to have sex with you, now that he got what he wanted he don't need you any more.
Do your fiancee know that the baby is not his? If he do and he is sticking with you, He is a lot better man then the Jerk who got you pregnant. So do him a favor stop thinking about the jerk who knocked you up (except for Child Support), and treat your boyfriend the way he should be treated. Like a really good man.
Well you will always have a child to remind you of him. But to have a loving relationship the love has to go both ways. In this case three ways because of the baby. If he wants nothing to do with you than you have no choice but to accept that and move on. It is not about him anymore- it is about your child now. Your child's happiness also depends on your happiness.
Forget about the baby's father if he doesn't want to be with you. Think about your fiance and decide if you really love him. You cannot make anyone love you just like you can't make yourself love anyone. Whatever you decide, you need to walk away from the ex. It is only natural that you feel like you love him because you are carrying his child. Talk to him about the baby and whether he is going to be there for his child. Then concentrate on your boyfriend. It sounds like he really cares for you if he is willing to still stick around when you are pregnant with another man's child. Good luck!
you are going through a lot of emotions right now.many that are not too logical.
stick to your fiancee because he is one in a million! when your baby is born and you are with your fiancee, you will forget the child's father as you really may not love him.it is the knowledge that you are carrying his baby that is causing all these emotions.
eventually, when you see your fiancee pick up your baby and love your baby, you will forget the other guy because in your mind your fiancee will be the one you would want your baby to have as his father...
you'll be fine.trust me!
I want to answer this by saying first that I am a stepfather as well as a father. I think that your fiancee is going to be your childs father, not your ex. A real father is the one that helps raise you. Any man can father a child, but a real man can raise it. I know that it must be hard for you to be going through this but. I am sure thta your fiancee will help you with anything he can
You need to talk with a profesional councelor to sort this out. Are you sure old friend is the father? What kind of father is he if he wants nothing to do with his childs mother. Sounds like he was in this for the fun and doesn't want the responsibility. If you are not sure if you really want only your fiance don't mary him or you will ruin 3 lives at least. Do you have supportive family? Are you going to have DNA testing and have childs father pay support? Are you and fiance going to have Father have visitation rights? would he be willing to sign off all rights? If his name goes on the birth certificate he will have to be involved every time there is something to sign for like a passport and legal documents. Are Fathers parents goning to want rights to see their grandchild?Best to put father undisclosed. Good Luck and get some counceling so the future doesn't have to be so hard for all of you.
wowie you've been a busy girl!! you got preggo / broke up/ hooked up again/ and got ENGAGED!!?
wow well congradulations on the baby and the engagement,.
but about your question, you will never forget you childs father you may think about him lass and less over time but every time you look at your child.. welll
and i know because i have gone through something similar i was with my daughters father for 4 years but we broke up (long story) for about 2 years... during that time i was with another man and i became pregnant with my son right at the break-up of our relationship, i loved my sons father very very much but well i guess he didnt feel the same... so anyway my daughters father and i got back together wanting to make it work for the second time around. i still think of my sons father and its been a little over 2 years since. so anyway... he will always be a part of you through your child but time will take away any hurt or "obsession" ect. to me i guess its a little comforting to know i have his child even thoughit wasnt meant to be me and him.. LOL okay so hmm i hope i helped!
I'm also 3months pregnant and know that your emotions are all over the place right now!
You need to put the babies needs ahead of your own, who is going to be there to love and support both you and your baby?
Also how can you LOVE someone that gets you pregnant and then wants nothing to do with you?
Also be careful that you don't push your fiance away by feeling this way about another man!
Good luck honey, i hope you make the right decision for you and your unborn child...
You're pregnant and that makes you weak,you're more emotional then ever...You have a fiance who loves you and support you that is one of the thing you need at this time...how to get over it ,just remember that you are thinking about somebody who is somewhere else and does not want to have anything to do with you... He is out there doing his thing ,he moved on ,so just think that you are hurting yourself and your baby by keep torturing you like that...
Please take care ,may God be with you!
u'll always have a place in ur heart for ur babys father cux he help u create ur baby.
im with the daddy to my baby-but when i was around 2 or 3 months i thought (and dreamed) about my x's, all the time. and still do just not as much. i think its just your hormones going crazy (just wait till you hit 6 or 7 months and you think about everyting and everything to do with it. lol. its also like they say the further out of reach the stronger the temptation.but it sounds like you are with a great guy who wants to childs father and be your husband. just think about that. another thing, try doing new activites with your bf now that you and your x didnt do. i kow it'll be hard b/c of the baby but (not to sound rude by no means) your ex just seems like the sperm donar the guy your with now wants to be the father and thats all that matters
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