Why do we congratulate people simply for getting pregnant?
what is the LOGIC behind congratulating them?
especially now with the United Nations warning us to get human population down to below 5 Billion and we exceed 6 Billion...
does it go back to when the church began brainwashing people into thinking that more kids = more favor from good (the church really just wanted to increase its numbers)
does it go back to when the planet wasnt as populated and we wanted more people to help hunt and gather and war and kill other "tribes"?
why congratulate somebody for mearly having sex and concieving? which is something our bodies were mostly designed to do anyhow...
I expect alot of harsh answers.. I will assume those are people who are not putting any thought into it... and probably have loads of kids so are defending themself
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I think it is a very good question. If someone tells me they are pregnant there are 2 questions I ask before I'll consider saying congratulations. Was it planned and are you happy about it?
If one or both are answered no, I do not say congratulations, but ask them if they need to talk about it.
There are some people try so hard to conceive. When they finally do I think congrats is in order, as long as they are financially and mentally prepared for a child.
I have a 19 yr. old niece that recently got pregnant. Her and her bf are living with her mom, not working for several months until he just recently got a job, not married, and she got upset when no one in the family congratulated her for getting pregnant.
I'm with you on the overpopulation even though I have 3 children.
I can say I didn't give it as much thought as I should have before we decided to have kids. But, I would not give them up for the world. I do not plan on having any more!
you are very rude.
I'll bet your parents didn't get congratulated.....hehehe
i think it is because a son/daugther is seen as a joy, a gift... You understand it until you have your own, until is born and you see there is nothing as watching your kid just breathe or laugh. If not, you'll just think that it is just pure cr*p, and just people fulling the world...
Beside that, I understand the body yes, is designed to have babies and etc, but I also know that getting pregnant is not as 'easy' it may seem. There are a lot of ideal conditions needed, and sometimes with some people it just don't happen, never-ever.
I am not thinking about countries or churches, i am just thinking on the merely act of congratulate.
Of course, it may not apply always, as for the tragic cases... don't know!
cheers!
It's just the fact that they get to experience motherhood. I always congratulate pregnant women. For me it's the thought behind it. Giving life to someone is amazing. By the way, I don't have loads of kids; I have 2.
Congratulations is only right when said to a married couple. Married couple do not have sex but they make love and the product (reward) of the bedmatics/gynatics results in pregnacy which is an achievement that deserve recognition. Two joined together to be come one flesh.
That´s your point of wiew, but not the rest of the people think that way, but it´s a good point.
I think that it's a very valid question. Mostly I think it comes from habit. That's just what people say. It's a social thing. I do agree that it probably goes back to the church and less population theory you mentioned.
I think if you KNOW someone has been trying to conceive and you find out they are pregnant that a congratulations may be in order just because you know that they have wanted a baby.
I am certainly going to think of what I say now, though. I mean it IS what our bodies are designed to do and you don't see people giving the big glad handed congrats when someone goes to the bathroom! :o)
Thanks for making me think today. It kinda hurt my head!
lol first of all you think too much so you problably haven't been laid yet also i'm going to assume your a virgin and on that thought i will switch to the matter you ask about..
It's just tradittion a baby is meant to be thought of as a blessing thats it..
and yes studies show people who are egg heads.. and quote unquote thinkers or some might even call them geeks or nerds..
take longer to get any attention from the oppisiote sex thats is why i made that comment...
I understand your thinking about overpopulation. The thought of that and the fact that we could use all of our natural resources is scary! But the fact that we can create another human being in our bodies is just beautiful. Actually think about the process...sperm meets egg, separates into billions of cells, creates something that thinks and moves and feels. To me, that is wonderful. That is why we congratulate people for procreating.
I think you read into things too much...and have WAY too much time on your hands! People congradulate people who are expecting a child...because a child is a blessing from God...and not everyone is priviledged to have children! I am a mother of three...and why should I defend myself to you...I am simply telling you the truth! What you need to do is back off...not everyone will agree with you...and you need to stop thinking that what you say is the truth!!!
Being a woman who knows the heartbreak of infertility I make it a point to congratulate other moms-to-be for the miracle that will soon enter their lives. Whether it comes naturally, IVF, planned or unexpected a woman should feel blessed to be chosen to bear and raise such a wonderful gift - therefore, the congratulations.
If you are concerned about overpopulation just focus on doing your part and leave the rest of us to raise our future oncologists or world leaders (okay, a bit of a stretch but you get my point).
Edited to comment on this statement:
"I expect alot of harsh answers.. I will assume those are people who are not putting any thought into it... and probably have loads of kids so are defending themself "
I have two kids - one is adopted. I'm not sure if you consider my answer harsh but I want you to know how off your assumption can be. I don't have to have 13 kids to disagree with your opinion.
I have one child. I think its appropriate for people to congratulate others on having a child. You get to experience motherhood and parenting. Same as saying congrats on a new job,house,marriage,divorce or whatever.
I'm sure it is more out of habit today than anything. I also think that we like to pretend that all babies are wanted and that the parents are very excited to be expecting. I however do think that it is still appropriate to congratulate a couple if this is something that they have wanted and planned and have had some difficulty in obtaining. You have to remember that not everyone is able to conceive right away. I don't know I could be way off base.
I do have 4 children. I think the reason we congratulate one and another is because some people have a very hard time getting pregnant. Some people try for a long time just for that 1 little one. Sometimes people want you to be SO happy for them that there is nothing else you can think of to say. Hope that helps.
It's a cultural thing. Having a baby is an exciting time and most people consider babies blessings.Offering congratulations is a way of sharing in the joy of the new life. There are other ways of doing it as well like wishing that the baby be born in a good and auspicious time and then offering congratulations after the baby is born.
Babies bring joy to the world!Who a you to not congratulate someone for carrying the person who might find a cure for AID or cancer.You should think about that.
I'm answering your question, not really taking into consideration everything in the body of your post you went on about. We congratulate people simply for getting pregnant because conception is a miracle in itself. I know it seems so easy since thousands of people conceive and give birth everyday. Motherhood and fatherhood is an honor if taken seriously.
you're right in a way it is silly to "congratulate " them.Perhaps for a religious person, a thanks to God is more appropriate. Than a prayer for the couple to get thru the experience intact. Many do not think what having kids means as a responsibility and that the child may not give back all they wish to get from the it-its more give than take. They often resent it after wards and rebel about losing their freedom as a single/or married w/o kids person. That comes out in future divorce and broken families as they finally find out its not that easy nor it is all that rewarding all the time. Its all about me is more the order of the day. Maybe in other societies the burden was shared among family so you didn't give up as much of your identity and time to have /raise kids. Also your kids were more likely to give back in form of family business/farming and care in your old age.
Now is kind of a fad for older (35-50) couples/women to have a kid like its one thing they haven't done yet to keep up with their friends. They often find out it was a dumb idea(though the love is now there and they could never go back) as they get more and more tired and the kid is more demanding. They must have the best for the kid so money starts pouring out. Its all kind of ridiculous. I did have a "larger "family-love the kids of course, but its certainly not what one thinks it will be. Unconditional love can be quite draining and the recipient not always cooperative or grateful . Its an issue that needs more thought.
I believe it is because inspite of all the things going on and the difficulty it poses in their life they have made the decision to be parents.We congratulate them for the journey they are about to take and wish them the best of luck in that endeavor. It may seem ill advised to you but to the people making this decision and bringing a new life into this world it is the biggest challenge they will ever take on. They deserve our congratulations and support whenever possible -not necessarily monetarily but with focus on helping to create a world that is better for the next generation.
Really, I think you typcally "congratulate" a pregnancy when you know the couple has been trying to concieve. Just like if a friend of yours was trying to get a job and if she got the job, you'd congratulate her.
Have you ever really thought about the science behind getting pregnant? It's really quite amazing. I know that it doesn't seem that way because of all the babies you see each day, but it is. Now to answer your question, without judgement. Most people see having a baby as a great event, like getting married or finishing a degree, so that is one reason. And, perhaps it is a habit from the past, when infant mortality rates were low. There is nothing wrong w/your question, however, you could've use a little more tact in wording it.
there are a lot of epople out there that cant even have kids. not everyone is as fortunate as others. i believe that is why we are here in the first place, to repopulate. if everyone only had one kid per marriage, with the rate of cancer and tsds are nowadays there wouldnt be enough people to repopulate.
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