I want to have another baby and I dont know what to do?
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There are lots of other methods of birth control to use other than a tubal ligation. Birth control pill, patch, Depovera shots, condoms, vasectomy. Pick one and start using it. I think hubby is just looking for a committment from you to not have more children - at least not until you BOTH agree.
Don't get your tubes tied. Get on birth control until you decide.
Your 8 year old is in school right? I hope you don't help her with her spelling.
I would explain to him your concerns. Tell him that you don't know for sure if you are done. Ask him if he wants to do something permanent or if he is just using this as a form of birth control? I would also keep in mind that it may be easy to do but undoing it is very expensive. Perhaps if you get the Norplant or something like that he will be OK. Don't do anything you may regret later. And don't do it just because hubby wants you to. Then when you regret it you will be so upset with him for doing it. Good luck
Say, "Hubby I do not want to get my tubes tied at this time. I understand you would like to be done having children but I am not in that place. I'm not saying I won't get there, what I'm saying is I'm not there right now. Let's use a less permanent form of birth control for now."
Communication with a spouse is not difficult. You did a fine job of explaining the situation to perfect strangers. You can do it with a person who have had 3 children with.
Tell your hubby to get fixed. Its less painful and less down time/recovery time for the guys. Or so my doctor says. And he is a male Doctor, so its not like my doc a woman who may be biased on it.
I totally understand!! I am 31 with 5 kids - 2 from my first marriage - 11, 8, 4, 3, and 3 months. I cannot even begin to tell you how many times people asked me with my last pregnancy if I was having my tubes tied! NO WAY! Is my family complete? Who am I to say at this age?? When I was 12, my mother adopted 2 children and had a baby at the age of 45 - all planned!! That made us 7 children. Do not feel pressured by anybody to make such a drastic change to your body that you know you are not comfortable with. Just say NO!
its your body dont feel pressured into doing something your not sure you want to do if you get you tubes tied it should be because thats what you want to do there is birth control out there i would use that until your sure not to be mean but face the facts not every marriage works out and maybe your next husband would like to have a baby with his wife but good luck on what you choose to do.
You could go on BC pills or on of the other non-permanent types for now. Or if he really really wants to be done he can go get his "tubes tied". (I had this done and was very nervous about it but have had no regrets) my wife and I decided to stop at 3.
Good luck
i am also 25 with 2 kids another on the way in just 3 wks, i have a 7 yr old and a 2 yr old my husband thinks we shouldnt have any more either after this one he says he thinks he is done. i know i dont want another one right a way but in 2 yrs who knows so i am just getting merina birth control thing or the patch. i figure i will just take bc that way if i change my mind i can.
ok it sounds like you have this question answered because you said it yourself your not sure if you want kids yet or not and odn't wanna make the drastic change that isn't reversable: so i think that you should do what you think is best for your heart right now
talk to your husband about it! you already have 4 kids at 25.talk to a dr. about birth control options. no b.c. is 100%. if you do decide to tie tubes, you can always get it reversed.
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