Is 20 too young to have a baby and does it really matter if you are not married?
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I guess I will play devils advocate and get thumbs down for my answer. I don't think so. Marriage is just a piece of paper and a ring. Doesn't mean you will stay together. 50% of marriages end in divorce. How can that be better than a committed relationship? And I don't think 20 is too young. If you can provide emotionally, mentally and physically for the child then do it. Whatever you want. Life is far to short to worry about what judgmental people think. Good luck
it doesnt matter if you're married or not, but don't go having a baby willy-nilly with anyone who takes your fancy
20 is not too young, even if you are not married. AS LONG AS, you are stable, ready, able to support it and have a good support system. You could be 35, married and having a baby, but if you're not ready at that age, or you still have a life to live (such as you still want to party all the time), then it wouldn't be the right time.
No, I dont think so. have a baby when you feel ready. I am like you i am 20 and i am not married. Although i have been with my Fiance for 5 years now and we decided we both wanted a baby. so its really up to you! Good luck!
Age isn't the important factor, maturity is. At age 20 why would you want to be a single parent? You have your entire life ahead of you. You have plenty of time to meet the "right" person for you and have a family. Don't rush things!!
NO and....NO
If you are both really ready for that new life !!
It's not too young, but married, or at least in a stable, long term relationship is best. Children deserve to have 2 parents, and babies are expensive and exhausting, so you'll need financial and emotional support, from the dad. If you're only 20, why rush?
It dont matter to me but it may matter to the child who presumably would like a Dad in his/her life.
The age isn't as big of a deal if married, but if you are not married, you are in for a lot of heartache and hard times. Unless you are already independently wealthy, you will be working your butt off most of the day just trying to make ends meet to care for you and your child. I've seen too many of my friends and family make this mistake and it never goes well. This is why society is so against this idea, because society as a whole knows it doesn't work well.
yes to both of your questions
and u have know it too otherwise u wont be asking
20 is so young, but I am not about to say it's too young to handle the responsibility because having a child for most people forces them to grow up pretty quick.
My only advice to you is to wait if you aren't pregnant already. There is so much more living to do and things to see that will for the most part be unavailable to you as a young unmarried mother. There's college, nights out with the girls, dates, etc. - all things that will be infinitely harder to do if you have to find a babysitter for your child in order to go out the door.
As for the married thing, I think we live in a different society than we even did just 20 years ago - it's so much more accepted now than when I was 19. That doesn't mean it's easier though.
Hope this helps.
no,..marriage dosn`t come into it ,,
Yes, 20 is way too young to have a kid . You have to priortize your child above everything. Think about missing out on college or your friends. Go out and enjoy life while you can, there is plenty of time to get married, settle down and then have kids when you are in your late twenties or early thirties.
I was definitely too young at 20! Looking back (I'm 31 now) I was just a child, but this can change from person to person. I always lived a very protected life and depended on my parents a lot...I was not mature enough for it. It all depends on if you really want one and if you can support it mentally and financially. It can emotionally be very difficult to be a one parent family and with financial difficulties even worse. You will need a lot of people around you that can support you and step in when you will need help!
I hope you will make the choice which is best for you...but really think about all the pro's and con's. Remember that you youth will be over and you will also have a more difficult time meeting someone new! You will be second-hand!
It's not too young if the person is ready. At 20 you can work, rent a home and do all the things necessary to support a baby unlike say a 16 yr old mother. It does matter if you are married because why make a commitment like a child to "test" the relationship out? It's a backwards way of doing things. Not enough people are getting married before they plan babies and of course the divorce rate is up as well as the children born out of wedlock. A child is something that bonds you to someone else forever... so make sure that the person you have a baby with is someone you respect and think will be a good parent. If the person isn't good enough to marry then the odds are they won't be a good parent.
age really isnt the issue.. maturity, financial security, these are the issues.. plus you should be married and have a decent place to live. if you are not ready to be married what makes you think you're ready for children?
The age thing all depends on the individual. But from past experience thin about this.. Dont do it alone! It is soooo hard to be a single parent. Its hard enough some days with 2 parents, and when there is only 1, the stress and everything is all on YOU! Dont have a baby now, just to have one. You will regret it in the long run.
Yes it is much too young.
20 year olds don't hole bachelor's degrees or even higher degrees that are needed to get a good job, that's needed to make a lot of money, that's needed to support a baby.
Not being MARRIED doesn't matter, but being in a committed loving relationship does. A real committed relationship with a good, long-term track record (which a 20 year doesn't have unless she's been with the same guy since she was 10). The benefit of being married is that there is more legal recourse if he leaves you.
God's plan for family includes a mother and father for every child. If you are married, I think a baby is a blessing, even at 20. However, being single, 20 and with child would be very very difficult. Babies are fun, but there is so much stress is child rearing, you really need the support of a hubby...and a good one! If you are 20, single and pregnant and not wanting the baby, may I suggest adoption rather than abortion. There are many families wanting babies!
That depends on the maturity level of the 20 year old and yes it matters if you aren't married. According to statistics children born into a home with two parents who are married to each other have an advantage over those who don't. Also if a man is willing to commit to marriage it's more likely he'll be mature enough to help raise children. I think that matters.
Everyone is different. My friend always knew she wanted kids and wanted them while she was still young. She was lucky enough to meet the right man and they planned their first baby. She had her aged 18 and her daughter is 8 now. She's still with her fiance and very happy.
Er no and no, matters not if you are married, its only other peoples perceptions anyway - who gives a monkeys what anyone else thinks?
Go for it.
No it is not to young, but you have to consider can you support this baby and give it all that it needs, I have a daughter that has 3 and unmarried and she had her first one at 21 and she does fine, because she has a good job and can support them on her own, be sure to look at all the concerns that you will have before you decide
no its not 2 young to have a baby, my friend had a child at 19 , she is a single parent and is looking after her son, and also goes uni, and she is good at her course, so there is not a right age for a having a baby, and whats the point having a baby in your 30's you wont be as close to your child / and it dnt matta if your married, unlesss you are a from a STRICT cultuer
Yes and most of the time yes. I cannot see how a 20 year old can provide a stable environment for a child and give a child everything they need. Did you know that it costs roughly $20,000 a year to raise a child?
The person who said 50% of marriages end up in divorce obviously did not look at the statistics. MOST of that 50% that do end up in divorce are between the ages of 20-25. From what I remember, I think it was 65% of people who marry or cohabitate between 20-25 will get divorced or split up. The number goes down significantly if we enter long term relationships later.
as long you feel mentally mature and stable enough.
I don't think it matters if your married or not. Getting a divorce is just as easy as getting married now a days! You should have a child when you are ready. They are a lot of work. You should have a good paying job, finish school, and feel very comfortable with your partner.
20 definatly isnt too young, and if having a baby is what you want, and you are able to take care of it spend your time and energy and give unconditional love and recieve it back then you are in the perfect position to have a baby.
everyone is different. if you feel you still have some wild oats to sow, than no definitely not. but if your mature, know what you want out of life and are ready. then yeah. you will know yourself. you cant let other people judge you. i have two great kids. one is 8 and the other 2. i wasn't married when i had them. we just got married in may. so we did it backwards and we are none the worse for it.
I dont think its too young I was 21 when our daughter was born I was married, but I have a few friends that have babies and are not married. But it just really depends on if you are ready to have a baby, money wise and maturity. It takes alot to be a mom. So the question really isnt about the age its if you are ready and if you can handle it.
I was 20 when i had my little girl
and i'm not married to him,
were still together and now three children together and
still
not married but it's your life and depends on the guy your with. And other things you want from life.
Your still young , Have a life first Good luck whatever decide
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