I am trying to get some advice on child support before a child is born.?
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I wish I could help you, but before anything is done I believe you will need a DNA test to prove it is his. Most likely he won't sign the birth certificate.
I would keep contact information on him and his immediate family. This way you can have him subpoenaed for the test then you have to take him to court once it is proved to be his baby.
I don't think there's an easy way. Its going to take time, maybe even years. Good luck, its going to be hard!
If you are unmarried, you will have to do a DNA test before any judge will award you support.
As soon as you get out of the hospital go to the Domestic Relations in your area they will find him wereever he gos and form day one he will owe you back pay until they get him.
You need to get a lawyer and file a lawsuit against the father for support. If you cannot afford a lawyer, contact your local district attorney's office or state social welfare agency that arranges child support. They can get the information that you need from the parent.
I went through the same thing you can't get child support before the baby is born but if he leaves all you have to do is go to child support and they will track his *** down and make him pay 17%of his income. Belive me hunny you will get that money exspecally if he is running away from his baby. What a Jerk i hate dead beat dads!
You can go after him legally. After it is determined that he is the father, using a DNA test and not your word, then he can be held legally responsible for providing for your child. Even if he moves, he can be tracked and even have his income altered to help you out. Sorry you didn't find a guy that is worth having a child with.
Whatever info you can get even if you dont have the social security number. It can be his current job, his address, his mother's address something where they can trace him.
Poor girl, this is suposed to be exciting for you and he is being a drop kick about it.
Contact a solicitor!! straight away dont let him run away
If he is questioning if it is his and you have no doubts get a court ordered dna test if you have to and still after that wants nothing to do with the baby let it be that way there are plenty of better guys out there.
Remember it dosent take a genius to become a father but it takes a man to be a dad.
If you can, get an attorney. Or if you just need the legal answers for your state, call one for a free consultation. Most will meet with you and give you the options, and tell it to you straight, even if you don't like what you hear. Just keep this in mind though ( i don't know your exact situation) Decide if your child will have a better life with out the measly minimum wage support he may or may not send you. Because once paternity is established, he has rights. Right now, he has none, none at all. And once visitation and support is established, you cannot withold visitation if he chooses not to pay the support. Yes, he COULD go to jail. But you have to file petitions, go to court, and it takes forever.( depending on your state, but the courts are soo overloaded these days)
If you can't get an attorney, your state has programs to help you find him. But they may not be in any big hurry that's for sure. Keep track of that man if you can. And try like heck to get his social.
I consulted a few attorneys, and weighed my options. I chose NOT to take him to court or even establish paternity. My sons life was so much better without forcing some loser to be in it. Now i am married and he has a real father. And he can be adopted without any problems at all. A little blurb goes in the paper and after a few weeks, he can be adopted. No rights have to be signed off or anything, because the scum never had any. Court battles, jail, time,money, just weigh the pros and cons.
Good luck!
***someone above said you DON"T have to get a DNA test if he signs the birth certificate.. That is WRONG. If you are not married, it has no revelance if he signs the certificate or not. If he ADMITS in court, however, that he doesnt deny paternity, then that is a different story. But if there is not marriage, then DNA testing will need to be done before the state recognizes him as the father.
I dont know.. I went to get medi-cal and they made me give his social security #, hair color, eye color, birthday, height, weight.. so much detail.. Luckily he gave me all that info before skipping out. I hope you get some info on him.. Good luck
i was in the same position, you do not have to get a DNA if he signs the birth certificate he will pay every time he gets a job they will get your money when he files his taxes it will go to you guys are so stupid they think they are running from there responsibilities but they are just making it hard for there self in the long run. Congrats on the Baby!!
know how to spell his first and last name... middle name too if you can find it. what bank does he deal with? can you find out his drivers licence number. Is he staying in the state..etc. Personally, I let my ex run. I was worried that if I forced him to pay up that he would try to 'get his moneys worth' and see the kid for that reason, not because he wanted to or even loved it. I was worried that he would be there and not there. That he would be inconsistent. At least with hiim gone, he is consistent and my kids knows what to expect. One good loving home. That is me, it is not for everyone. If you want to track him down, find out if he is doing the same type of job.. where is he moving to? But if you have his name spelt right, he might be stupid enough to put it in the phone book, if not an p.i. could track him down real quick.. .and boom.. he is served
well, the honor system doesnt work, thats for sure. thats why they made state/federal laws for child support.
if he leaves the state, trying to avoid child support, it is now a federal offense.
1) send him a letter (regular mail and certified RRR) telling him that you are preggers, and he is the father. i know you already told him, but this way, he cant claim he didnt know.
2) when the baby is born, you will go to court to establish he is the father; more then likely DNA test will be ordered, which is only right to do.
3) when the results are in, they have a hearing to set the child support amount. they go on both parents income to get this amount. if the baby is small, they may not consider an amount for you (all states are slightly different about this). and if they calculate an income for you, ask for daycare expenses from him while you work.
here is the calculator: just click on your state and fill it in.
http://www.divorcelawinfo.com/calculator...
4) contact your local legal aid office. they are in every state and most counties. they go on a sliding scale, so its free to most. look in your phone book, call your county court clerks office or your states Bar Assoc for the number. they may be able to point you in the right direction.
make sure to tell them he is going to flee over states line to avoid child support. they may be able to do something about it.
here are some more links to help you. just click on your state and find the section you need. the last few are to help you.
stay strong and stand your ground mommy... your baby depends on you to do so.
http://www.wantedposters.com/deadbeats_u...
http://www.deadbeatjustice.com/list.htm...
http://www.divorcelawinfo.com/
http://www.divorcelawinfo.com/calculator...
http://www.helpyourselfdivorce.com/child...
http://www.divorcehq.com/deadbeat.html...
http://www.lawchek.com/library1/_books/d...
http://www.acf.dhhs.gov/programs/cse/...
http://www.acf.hhs.gov/programs/region2/...
http://www.supportkids.com/
http://www.irs.gov/taxtopics/tc422.html...
http://www.irs.gov/faqs/faq4-5.html...
http://www.irs.gov/localcontacts/index.h...
http://www.singlemoms.org/info/main.htm...
http://www.singlemotherresources.com/...
http://www.angelfire.com/nj4/njcomputerc...
http://www.parentswithoutpartners.org/ch...
http://www.mowaa.org/
http://modestneeds.org/
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dudes going to run away and its a good idea for him hes stupid because he told u about it so you will be able to find him
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