Should stay-at-home-fathers be expected to keep a clean home?
I'm just curious. There's no way my husband could be a SAHF but it's fun to wonder what our lives would be like if he was. Thanks!
Answer:
If he was strickly a house husband . . . yes, it would be his job to take care of the house hold needs. It is the same house wives . . . stop complaining women . . . I am telling the truth. In this day of equal rights, women are complaining about their lot in life.
This was the ideal for married life, the husband goes out . . . earns enough for the entire family to live on and to put some away, and the wife takes care of the children and the household. I am not saying a wife's duties are easy, in fact . . . it is difficult . . . but it is less stressful and won't give you a coronary like the husband's duties.
In today's age . . . both the husband and the wife needs to work in most cases (thank feminism for this), and thus who does the household duties. It should be shared . . . split 50/50. I am hearing alot of ladies saying, "Yes!" Quiet! I haven't finished yet.
If a man makes 80% of the family income and his wife makes 20% . . . then a man's household duties is 20% and his wife is 80%. Now women are saying "but . .. but." Fair is Fair . . . each member of the household heirachy puts in 100% combined financial and household, no ifs about it.
So if a husband earns no money, and his wife is making 100% of the household income . . . and there is no need for him to work . . . I expect him to take care of the household 100%. No ifs-ands-or buts about it.
I think you would be reasonable to expect more house cleaning out of a stay at home dad than a working one...not that getting guys to clean is easy no matter how you look at it, right?
I think that the house should be kept reasonably clean, regardless of who stays at home.
In any case, the SAH should be the primary housekeeper and the other should help out when not working.
I think that should be the job of the father if he stays at home, he should cook dinner too. He's gotta have something to do right?? LOL
I would say yes. If he is going to stay home then his only responsibility is not the kids. It is the house, the laundry, the kids, the grocery shopping. Everything women are expected to do. When I leave my hubby home with my kids the house is a disaster... no matter how long. Why should I have to clean it up if he gets to stay home all day?
it should be spotless no exceptions do not want to talk about it anymore!
I think so, yes, the spouse who stays home should tend to the home in part, because it is more convenient for them to do it. I don't feel like the gender makes a difference.
Yes, I think he should. We are. Even when my hubby is off, he cleans and does laundry. He makes a better house-husband than I do a house-wife - lol, but I know that's the exception. Most days he can't believe how hard I work, and I have a work-at-home position, too.
I did it for 4 years, I did housework which sucked but I did it.
My relationship split later over something but I think it helped because my kids see me as a better dad because I spent the first 4 years bringing them up
Of course any Stay at home dad should do all the same chores as any mother would. That is just the way it should be.
The first priority of the at-home parent is to parent, not clean a house.
Any at-home parent is going to have to manage the household to a large extent, which involves doing a lot of chores. The working parent, however, should certainly clean up after him/herself, cook and clean on the weekends, and put in time with the children.
After all, stay-home moms work nearly 24-7. Hopefully not on cleaning, tho.
Yes- he should have the same responsibilites that you would have if you were a stay at home mom. Why should you work all day and then come home and clean the house?? He can clean just as well as you could.
He should help a bit with the cleaning and kids! No biggie just find the time to help him at points and everything will be good!
if your husband is going to be a stay at home dad then he should be in charge of keeping the house clean.
Yes. If he expects the wife to clean while he was a working father, the same should be expected if he becomes the stay at home parent.
All stay at home mothers are expected to keep a clean home no matter how many kids they have or what their lifestyle is like. I say that no matter who stays home they should keep a clean home. Male or Female
Depends on the kids, or the kid. Makes a difference if there is two. They should do a lot of the household chores, yes. They are strong and have all day and they should get it done. Maybe not a perfect house as long as the kids are happy and he is not grumpy and some laundry and cooking and some cleaning gets done you can pitch in on days off or at night and get it all done together. That would be fun. lol Good luck thinking about it.
A stay-at-home father should do his part with the housework. After all, he is home all day and you, the wife, are not.
Most stay-at-home fathers DO do housework.
If your were a stay at home mom would he expect you to clean?
Exactly!
I am a stay at home mom and my husband says he'll trade places with me any day of the week. (theres just no way)
My husband works very hard to make enough money buy the bacon the least I can do is cook it for him!
If the role was reverced I would definatly expect him to cook and clean too!
Yes he husband should be in charge of that. I understand they are doing other things with children but they are home all day, the least they can do is keep the house clean, eh?
A SAHD would have the same expectations as a SAHM..my husband works over 40 hours per week, I'm home, my son is four years old and goes to preschool 3 days a week, for 2.5 hours.
Therefore, there is no reason I can't clean the house, do the laundry, cook, grocery shop..however, when my son was younger it was harder to get these things done.
My daughter is due in three weeks and he'll have to help me again for a while.
I have three friends who are SAHD...one has 4 kids under 4 (two sets of twins) so his wife has to help a lot more as he is far busier than I am with one.
Absloutly! Thats part of being a stay at home partner. If you can be home and clean the house and run errands and do all that thats the responsibility. Does your husband come home and clean the house, no, he would a) probably not notice or if he's a jerk b) say hey didn't you get anything done? If you can do it he should do it.
If you were a stay at home mom you would be expected to clean and everything so why wouldn't a stay at home dad ?? I think he should still have to clean and take care of the baby. But you are right, a guy probably couldn't do all of that . lol
yes he should
The person that stays at home should be the one to do most of the chores BUT the working spouse should help out as well. The working parent just does not get the rest of the evening off when he/she gets home while the stay at home parent is still continuing his/her duties. Both parents have parenting and things to do ALL the time.
What is up with you girl? Your man is making you work for him? Oh hell no i would not be letting my man tell me what to do. I have my masters in buisness and in nursing but i am chilling out right now to raise and be with my child.
If that day ever came where i just worked and my husband stayed home then yes he should have to keep my home spotless.
Yes! Simple answer. If he is at home and you are out in the workforce making the money and bringing home the bacon, he is responsible for all of the home front chores, cooking, cleaning, daycare, preschool, soccer practice, etc. My husband works and I stay home, and we have a very clear line of duties-- I am in charge of the home front, and he is in chart of the work front.
he will be at home so therefore he is expected to keep the place clean any man in there right mine would now that
Absolutely and without question.what makes the man so different then a woman staying home with the children, chores, laundry, breakfasts, lunches, dinners, dissaplining, and more..
I am stay at home mom of a 4year old and i have 2 one year old that i watch. I do everything that is involved in the house. I think that heshould kept is clean afterthe baby. The dusting and washing should be done by the mom. He should at least do 1/2 of the work, I believe that's fare. Hope this helps you.
yes if you are working and all he does is sit home then of course. He shouldn't expect you to work and then come home and work some more by cleaning the house and dishes and laundry and all that other stuff. he is there all day and he should pick up and help you out since you work all day or night whatever your shift is. If he don't like to help out around the house tell him to get a job then
Definitely a stay-home dad should clean, cook and everything else a stay-hom mom does. Personally I think is best if the mother stays home but maybe you are able to make more money than him. Whatever you decide is between both of you for the benefit of the kids.
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