I need help plz!?
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Sounds like he doesn't want a baby and it's hard to make someone be a daddy when they don't want to. You should be more careful about who you sleep around with.
You either get an abortion, or have the baby, and somehow, a father will come along! I know you're scared, but that guy is definitely not worth your time! You can make him pay for parental support. =)
You can't change anyone's behavior no matter how hard you try.
This is why it is never a good idea to have sex with someone you don't think would make a good father. But I am not here to lecture you.
You can only be the best mom you can be. And try to get with a man who will be a good father to your child.
You can't make someone step up and take responsibility.
Sorry. Good luck.
Have you tried going to his parents? They might be able to help him take responsibilty for his actions..
Tell him exactly what you just said & stick to your guns...don't bugg him about anything just back off & let him come arround...the baby aint born yet so he has little responsibility it's all on you right now...once that baby is born ask him to be more involved.
you can't force someone to be a daddy if they don't want to be... good luck and congrats on the pregnancy; hope everything works out ok for the two of you.
What you do is go over his house and explain to him what you are going through.
You told him and you might just have to leave it with that. He might or might not come around. YOu grew up with no daddy but didn't choose well for your kid. Hopefully he'll come around, but don't push him or call him, he will just resist even more.
Sorry to say you cannot make him be a father-I wish you could for your sake and the babys though.He is required to pay child support though-even if you don't need the moneyShow him ultrasound pics-bring his baby over after you have it-maybe he will soften and want to be involved in his childs life!
You could always give your baby up for adoption. There are thousands waiting to adopt a newborn baby to be there own. They even offer open adoptions now to those who want to be a part of the baby's life and just not raise it. If you are too attached though and can't let go enough for adoption, think about how you grew up and do you really regret not having a father that much? Was it really all that bad? Talk yourself into it. You can do anything you put your mind to.
DO NOT have an abortion. If you don't want this baby there are many people that will be more than happy to give him a happy home.
If you want to raise the baby by yourself, stop this bullsh*t "friends with benefits" business and be a proper example for your kid.
With regard to the father, whoever really wants you and loves you, will love you with or without the kid. Whoever wants to use you, shouldn't be around you or your child.
And this guy... well, you're better off without him. You can't force someone to be a good parent. And sometimes it's better for a child not to have a father than to have a father that doesn't want him.
Move along. Do you know how many good step fathers there are out there. Men who can't have children and men who can have children who would love to take care of you and your child. You got to stop crying over spill milk. Now that you know the predicament that you put yourself into;don't put yourself into it again. You don't want to have baby number two without a daddy either.(If you have more children). Make sure the man that your with is some one who loves children.
I understand how you feel. I am in the same situation. Except not only does the guy not want to be a father or help do anything, he likes to add in how it might not even be his. I'm in my 17th week now and he still hasn't come around. The best thing I can tell you to do is don't bug him about it because like everyone else said you can't make someone do something that they don't want to do. But don't stress about the situation because it's not good for you or your baby. Just surround yourself with the people that love and support you and you will get through it! And maybe eventually he will come around. And if he doesn't then he is the one missing out on something very special.
You can never force anyone to be a parent until they are ready. I experienced being a single parent. Men sometimes feel as though women are trying to tie them down with the responsibility of being a parent. They also feel like we try to keep them by getting pregnant. You done your part by telling him you're pregnant. Its left up to him to decide which path to take. Sometimes they think we are making up our pregnancy. Sometimes it takes seeing that beautiful child's face to see the beauty of a child. My child looks just like her father and now it claims her. At first it didn't want the responsibility. It didn't come overnight though. It was years before he saw himself in her. He finally grew up and realized what he was missing. You need to pray about the situation. Prayer works everything out. I don't know you,but I'll say a prayer for you.
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