How do you know when your ready to have kids?
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A lot of factors go into the decision. . .my husband and I are were married for a little over three years when I got pregnant.
We waited until we were financially secure and bought our first house.
I was 30 so the age was right timing-wise for us. If you got married young, you may want to wait until your are older. How many children you possibly want can factor into when to start as well.
We waited until we were ready to focus on someone besides ourselves full-time.
Don't let anyone pressure you. No one knows what is right for your family but you. Our decision to have an only child gets questioned all of the time but we know that is right for us.
When you feel you are strong and secure as a couple as well as individuals and feel that you can totally change the focus of your life to revolve around another human being and his or her wants and needs, then you will be ready.
Good luck!
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I dont think anyone is ever really 100% ready. When your 85% ready then your ready. If you and your husband both are ready then give it a try but you both have to be on the same page. Babies are a huge commitment and alot of work, so if your having to much fun right now and not ready then wait another year. Who cares that people ask when you plan on having babies. I was asked that for 5 years and finally just had my 1st child. Enjoy each other then have the kiddos.Other people can just wait. ARe they going to be the ones waking in the middle of the night with a baby? So have one when its your time. You will know..Have fun!
My husband and I have been together for 7 yrs (married 2) and we have gone through the same thing. People have always asked us when we were going to have children. It wasn't until recently that we have decided that we are ready. I can't explain exactly how we knew we just felt like the timing is right. We know that we love eachother and that we can finacial support a child now. We both just feel ready to take the next step in our lives. I new I was ready when I wasn't nervous about getting pregnant; I'm actually really excited about it now.
A day may come when your holding someone elses child and wish you had your own or one day you may feel like something is missing. There's nothing wrong with waiting and it's a good thing you both know that you aren't ready just yet, having a baby is a huge deal no matter if your single or married it's life changing. Have fun with just you and your husband for now, you'll both know when it's time. Everyone wants to see you have a child because everyone loves babies but that doesn't mean you have to have a baby right now! Everyone says that to couples that have no children. You'll know when you're ready.
if you dont feel ready youre not..think about your daily lifestyle and whether or not you would be willing to change it.drastically.if you guys go out or are used to sharing your time with one another only and are not willing to give this up yet then you probably should wait.consider your financial status.now would be a good time to start setting goals for yourselves in this aspect as to when you will feel comfortable in having children cause i can tell you it aint cheap.dont feel like you are being selfish for waiting...selfish would be having kids to boost your ego or to please others...remember its your responsibilty - not theirs.this is your time right now and you and your husband are still newly married...three years is not a long time when you guys are alone but have a kid and not be ready and 3 years can seem like forever
You will know. You will have the desire to create a baby together, be financially prepared (meaning able to live without worrying how you will pay your bills).
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