Would you/ were you comfortable with your husband/babys father being at the birth?
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I felt the same way it's a normal feeling because after seeing how unattractive it is down there in those birthing videos the only thought in your mind is how could he ever find me attractive down there again right? I felt the same way but when the time comes and you are in labor and the baby is coming you really don't care who's down there Brad Pitt could be down there and you wouldn't bat and eyelash. You are so overhelmed with worry, fatigue, and excitement that really will be the last thing on your mind. If he wants to be down there let him because you get the joy of carrying the baby and being the baby's life support let him watch the miracle of a life time.
Good luck
I felt that way at first to but once you go in labor you wont care whose down there just as long as the pain stops. Also that is something he will remember and cherish forever seeing his child be brought into the world.
Of course I want him there. I would be so scared of going through that without him. I do not think he is going to want to watch down there...
yes
you should have him with you
it is a miracle of birth
My husband stayed by my head the entire time I pushed, but he could still see everything that was going on. I think at the point when you are pushing something out of you all you can think of is the little life that's now in your hands and you kind of lose all your dignity and shyness about your body.
Absolutely!! My husband was NOT comfortable with seeing blood and all and was staying up top with me. Once my sons head crowned he took a peek and was GONE down there lol...it's such a miracle and he was enthralled. We just had our second and my mom was there as well and it was awesome. Do whatever you are both comfortable with!! Good luck!
Heck, my husband HELPED! He helped the nurse push my legs back and even cut the cord. All 3 times. He wanted to be a part of it, and I was okay with that. And his seeing what happened down there did not affect our sex life at all.
I was comfortable with him being there...I needed him there actually to remind me to breathe!
He held my leg, did everything the midwife asked of him, even though he was ill with a raging migraine and was a patient in another part of the hospital, and watched everything that happened, but kindly waited until about a week afterwards to tell me I did a poo on the delivery table thingy...how nice of him!
My hubby was with me when our son was born a few weeks ago. He helped hold my leg up and fed me ice...he stood by my head...but he also could see what was going on. He watched our son be born and then went to the incubator after he was out and stayed with our son until the placenta was out. It was very special.
It really depends on what you both want. If your hubby isnt sqimish let him watch,mine did he thought it was amazing. If you really dont want him to watch just tell him. Dont be worried that he wont see you in a sexual way afterwards because that isnt true,he'll treat you just the same.Good luck. Watching a birth is truly amazing .
what the hell? of couse he should not watch. Gross
I had the father present at both of my births. With my daughter, we weren't together any loner, but honestly I wanted him to see what I was going through, and wanted him to know that she was more than just a baby, that she was a person whom I had to work hard to bring into this world. With my son, Frank was by my side, holding my hand, and supporting me in everyway possible. Yea, he did look even though he didn't want to, and ok, he was a little freaked out by it...but he told me that night that I was the strongest, most beautiful person he had ever met, and that he had more respect for me now than for anyone he had ever known. That was worth it.
You bet 'ya. My husband was there for the birth of both of my children (by C-Section). I don't know how I would have made it through either one of them without him.
It is important for the father to be present...not only for you as moral support...but to know what you are going through to get this baby into the world.
My husband had better be there, otherwise he will not be fathering any more children. I figure, he has seen all that mess before, that is how I got pregnant in the first place. I am not so much upset by everyone being down there as I am about potentially pooping on the table. I don't want anyone to see that! I guess they have all seen it before though.
who would you yell at if he's not there? after all it's half his fault. if you don't want him to look, tell him NO LOOKY
or just keep at your side counting and helping with breathing!
My husband was THERE. Right there holding my leg 3 times. He got to see it up close and personal and I really didn't care who saw what at the time. With the pain and focus on bringing a child into the world it doesn't really matter. It was an experience that brought us closer together as a couple and I think created a closer bond between father and son.
i had my b/f my mum and my dad there dad waited outside though coz he couldnt stand seeing me in pain and was crying my b/f had one leg my mum had the other with her head shoved right into my cha cha shouting "its coming lisa i can see its hair its coming" lol then she came to the shower with me and had to wash me from head to toe coz my ribs were so sore (from release of pressure ) that i couldnt move... to this day i cringe whenever i think of the role my mum played but at the time i really didnt care and theres no way i wouldnt have her there again she was fantastic
Totally, I needed him there for extra support. And you can ask him to stand anywhere you would like. I personally had my hubby in a headlock during the whole pushing thing with my second baby, so he couldn't go anywhere even if he wanted to. If you aren't with the babies father anymore then maybe it would be uncomfortable to have him in the room. I don't know your situation tho. Just remember that it's your choice as to who you would like with you. You shouldn't feel bad about it if you have to ask someone to leave the room.
my wonderful hubby was my rock at both of my girls births & i felt the same as u, i told him he can`t go down the business end of thangs, but in the end that was`nt an issue, he looked & saw our 2nd daughter being born & was incredibly glad he got to c her crowning & being born, he say`s it was amazing, he also loved cutting the cord, Don`t worry about it, he won`t find u any less attractive & may admire u for going through what u r going to go through if he see`s.
Talk to ur hubby about it & if ur uncomfortable with it let him know.
Once you're in labor you don't care who is in there. All you can concentrate on is the contraction and getting through it. You definitly want your husband/baby's father in there so you have somebody to take out the pain on, you know, somebody to yell at during those contractions.
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If he can see down there without feeling like he's going to faint then fine. I'm 22 and I had my baby 3 months ago. Having your man there with you, sharing that with you it's great, amazing, cause even when you're so busy gving birth you know he's there to support you both. It's a great thing to have them there. If he wants to go then be happy cause you will live together the greatest thing.
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