Are we being selfish??
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Truthfully, you probably are being a little selfish. That being said, a child (as you know) is a huge responsibility. I don't think you should have another ONLY to give your daugther a sibling. A sibling is an irreplacable person in one's life, it is usually the person that one has the longest relationship of their life with. They teach a kid many things that no one else can.
Again, if you REALLY don't want another child, don't have one.
of course not, dont listen to what other people say you do what makes you and your husband happy.
Of course you are not being selfish. How many kids you have is strictly the choice of your husband and yourself. Only children do just fine. If she has a lot of family members and friends, she is not missing out on anything. Don't have another child to please others. That would not be fair to you.
Number of children is an individual decision and nobody can make that for you and your husband. Single children can develop well as can children with siblings.
You are not being selfish! You need to do what makes you and your husband happy! That's all that matters. If she seems to be ok with socializing with other children and being considerate (like sharing her toys and things), she will be fine! You are definitely not being selfish!
I think you are being responsible and intelligent--definantly not selfish.
I don't think you are being selfish. If you both don't want anymore then why have another to please everybody else?
Do not allow "other people" to dictate what goes on in your household, because these "other people" will not be responsible for ONE THING in your life. They will not life a finger to pay ONE BILL! They will not buy not ONE pack of diapers, they will not fill your gas tank not ONE TIME!! And importantly, they will not be the ones to help your Dr. bills, nor the pediatritian bills if one of your children should get sick. So live your life for YOU! Not for everyone else!
No - you could argue that introducing a second child would be selfish - it can have a very negative impact on the first one. Don't worry - just do what you think is right for your family. Nobody has the right to influence your decision apart from you and your partner - not even your child. Good luck!
No you are not. Only you and your husband can make the decision as to how many children you want to have. No one has the right to tell you otherwise.
You should tell the people that don't agree with you that you feel it is selfish to have more children than you want just to get others to shut up.
No you are not being selfish. but I think your daughter would love to have a bro/sis.especially when you two age and die ... atleast she'll have a real bro or sister.
No, you're not being selfish. Keep this in mind- people may choose to NOT have babies for "selfish" reasons, but people also HAVE babies for "selfish" reasons. In other words, people have babies because they want to. People don't have babies because they don't want to. What's the difference?
There are benefits to being an only child, and there are detriments, too, but if you do your best to combat them then she is no worse off than any other kid.
NO, that is not selfish that is having solid views on your parental responsiblity to your child and any children you may or may not have in the future!
Your family needs to realize you are not a baby factory, dont get pregnant if you dont want a baby and be done with it!
tell them to mind their own business. family members will always have an opinion about how you are raising your family. she's surrounded by lots of family, that should keep her grounded. your doing a great job.
I'm a 26 year old only child and I've always HATED it. Yes, I think my parents were selfish. I would never do that to my kids, I plan on having two. I was so lonely and I felt awful - used to cry myself to sleep at night praying for a sibling, never happened though.
no u r not being selfish a all,dnt listen to people's talks,is u r happy and ur husband is also happy then dnt go for any unwanted thing.and let me tell u i m also single daughter of my parents and they r very happy and me too coz i get all the things alone,all the attention of my parents so according to me its very good.
bst of luck !
I love large families but it is wrong for me to enforce that on you. You are not selfish. Raising you child well can be done with or without siblings. I think people need to mind their own business. There are many well adjusted only children who have very happy, fulfilled and successful lives.
I encounter the opposite scorn. Many people ask when I will stop having kids. (Don't you think that's enough? - I only have three and this is coming from strangers sometimes!!)
How many kids you have does not make you selfish! Enjoy your child and tell everyone to mind their own business.
No, you're not being selfish. How many children you have or don't have is a personal choice. My husband and I are planning to raise our daughter as an only child. I was an only child myself, and I personally think that it had a lot of benefits. I had more privacy, I had my parents full attention when I was upset or had a problem, and I learned how to enjoy my own company. I've never felt cheated by not having a sibling. As long as your daughter has plenty of opportunities to associate with kids her own age she'll be just fine.
not at all,you don't have to have another baby if you don't want too,it would be selfish to have another baby that you weren't ready for or didn't want just because other people told you too.
I know many people who only have one child and are completely satisfied with that and don't want anymore,you decide how many children you have not everyone else...ignore them
I think that from reading the other people's responses that you get the idea that choosing the number of children that suits you and your family is YOUR decision!
I am an only child, both my parents work... I have to admit there were times in my life that I wished I had a brother or sister to play with, but my mom (who is 2nd of 8 siblings) would tell me that I would wish I didnt have any siblings to have to share my things with.
So is the glass half full or half empty? because really there are pro's & cons to every decision we make in life, but we choose what is best for us.
As for me, Im pregnant right now with my second child, because I wanted a bigger family then the one I had.
Another thought, a elder friend of mine once pointed out to me, that once my parents pass away, I will be an orphan without siblings to share the greif with and childhood memories, and that was tough to swallow. But then again My husband and his brother barely talk, and when they do they dont get along...
Do what you think is best in your heart!
No, you aren't being selfish. It would be selfish to have a child that you didn't want. Don't do anything that you don't want to in order to please others. Do what is best for you and your family.
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