Im pregnant by a married man but didnt know he was married he wants me to have an abortion what should i do?
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Do whatever you think is best for yourself and your baby. He is obviously pressuring you because he knows that his wife will find out about his cheating if you have this kid. I don't want to get into a debate about abortion, but you should never get an abortion to protect a cheating husband from being caught!
thats YOUR decision his problem
Close your legs and quit being a homewrecker for one. Did you think this would make him leave his wife for you?
If you want the baby keep the baby. What he want doesnt matter at this point. You can choose to keep the baby and have nothing to do with him or seek suport after the baby is born. He shouldve thought about all this before deciding to have an affair. You and the baby will be ok. Good Luck honey.
your choice, he shoulda told you, f*** him.
If you want to keep the baby I say stay away from him and raise the child on your own. and file for child support! Make him submit to a DNA test so he cannot deny it. If his wife leaves him it is his fault. Good luck!
This is your choice to make, not his. He should have told you he was married before you two got involved! If you want to keep the baby, then do so. If you don't - please think of your other options instead of abortion.
Do what's right for you... abortion is a choice that you have to live with for the rest of your life...
You have to be prepared to raise this baby on your own though... don't be thinking that he'll leave his wife to be with you. If you do keep this baby, many lives will be affected. If you don't keep it, only your's and the baby's will be affected (He doesn't care now, and won't later)
Sounds like he has some 'splainin' to do! Keep the baby and take him to the cleaners. It's HIS problem. If you don't want an abortion, DON'T! Don't expect emotional support from him or many other people though! Sounds like a long tough road for you and your baby. Sorry to hear this!
If you are not comfortable having an abortion, then DON'T. If you are, then that's your decision. You do not need to man to raise a child. Plenty of children have been raised by single mothers and turned out just fine. Either way, you should join a support group.
Sweetie, it is not about what he wants. Put that right uot of your head. This character was insensitive enough to lie to you about being married and now he wants you to abort your child. Just forget him he is not worth considering. This is your decision to make and only yours.
I have pretty strong views on this myself so I'm not going to say here what they are because this is your decisiion and you are the one who will have to live with the results of it whatever you do.
However here is a little advice for either case.
1. If you decide to have an abortion, make him pay for it and every other thing you can think of and MAKE SURE HIS WIFE KNOWS ALL ABOUT IT.
2. If you choose to have your baby, tell him you are having an abortion and then move away so you never see him again. This is to protect you aganist custody attacks later on. Just in case, it's a sensible precaution.
Take your time on the decision. Remember whichever way you choose, you will be living with it for the rest of your life. No it isn't fair.
Good luck and whatever you decide I pray that it turns out well for you.
I agree with Bodie, personally I don't think you should have an abortion (no just b.c I don't believe in it but he is pressuring you) That's wrong that he didn't tell you he was married, do what you think is right, with or without him. If you don't want to keep it, adopt it I know many want to be parents that would love to adopt a child (myself included) please don't abort it. If you want to raise it, go after him for child support, even if he is married. His wife should know, and she should dump his sorry self
this is only a decison you can make..he is not going to be there for you after you have the abortion..he can go on living his married life while you are in agony over killing this baby and losing him b/c trust me he is not going to stick around, while you are going to think abou it every day he won't be.after all he owes you nothing he is married and has another life outside of you.he is not showing you any respect..does he want you to have an abortion so his wife does not find out when you try and collect child support from him? Show your self some respect! Show your body some respect...if you really want this baby go for it..but do not expect anyhting from him at all...know you are going to be a single parent..you can love this baby by yourself...it is a tough road so think long and hard.I wish you the best of luck.
He forfeited his right to tell you what to do when he lied. Have the baby if you want to and sue for child support.
He may want you to do something, doesn't mean you have to do it. That dirt bag shouldn't have played around in the first place. If you keep the baby, its entirely up to you! Do not let him pressure you in any way. He probably doesnt want his wife to find out, and once the baby is born you can go for child support. He probably wants the easy way out! Do whats best for you and the baby. If you decide to keep the baby, its your choice. Good luck to you!!
Sadie obviously can't read... That's a crappy situation, good luck to you no matter what you choose... his opinion doesn't matter.
have the kid abortion isn't right (that's my opinion) if you don't want the kid put it up for adoption, give the baby to a family that can't have kids
He sounds like a real "winner". Ditch him and do what you feel is right. And take him for all the child support you can. He just doesn't want his wife/family to find out that he's a sorry scoundrel.
It's all about what you want, he may be stuck with child support (maybe ailimony too) forever but you'll be stuck with a baby forever.
If you want a baby, well here's your chance, if you don't want a baby with no father, well you better get your butt to clinic quick.
It depends on whether you're inclined to have an abortion or not. If you don't want to, either wash your hands of this guy or pull out the big guns -- tell his wife, file a paternity suit, etc. The latter will be hard, but it will be harder on him and will also help you support your child.
If you don't want to have an abortion, then don't. You also have the choice of either raising the child on your own or releasing the baby to be up for adoption. You're welcome to get ahold of me if you need to talk. K?
He wants you to have an abortion so you don't go back on him for child support. If he is fooling around on his wife do you want him in your life? Do you want this child? If he wants and you want the abortion get him to pay for it all and then don't bother with him again. Do what you want to do. And be at peace with your decision.
Follow your heart dont let anyone convince you to do anything you dont agree 100% to.
i would tell his wife because i would hate to be her and i would want some one to tell me if i were her.
he should have to deal with the consequences of cheating on his wife and lie and hurting you
You need to follow your heart and what is best for you. Really think about it and what YOU want. Don't have an abortion because he wants you too. Having an affair was his mistake, don't make it yours. But if you want to have an abortion that is up to you...but don't let others, especially the babies father make the decision for you, because he obviously does not have decent judgment.
Bodie said it perfectly,whether you are pro choice or not,that is a disgusting reason to kill an unborn child.If you want this child,raise him or her the way you see fit.
you have other options, I personally don't believe in abortion, but the choice is yours to make. If I were in your situation I wold tell the lying cheaters wife., then I'd hire a lawyer and sue him for child support and medical expenses.
You have to decide what is right for YOU. He can't make up your mind for you. Being a single parent is hard, but it can be done... you just have to get your mind right. But do what is best for YOU. Don't listen to him, he is a liar and a cheater and no one listens to people like that anyway.
GOOD LUCK
he lost his right to make this decision when he
impregnated someone not his wife. if you want to
have this baby have it and best wishes to you. file
for child support and demand a DNA test. if his wife
leaves him over this that is his problem. he had no
business messing with you in the first place. he has
made his bed, let him try to sleep on it. you do what is
best for you and for your baby.
It's not his choice it yours! Do you really want to kill your own baby? If you don't want a baby right now then give it up for adoption.
If you want the baby then keep it. But there are also plenty of loving families that would love to adopt.
This is not just a problem that will go away for him. He needs to take responsibility for his actions. How do you know he will not just do this to the next girl?
Also, do more investigating with the next guy. There are signs to look for to find out if someone is married.
Hope it works out for you and the baby.
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