For Those Who Have Children Already: How Long Did It Take To Adjust To Being A Parent? Were You Ever...?
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Everything that happened with my first son was a major crisis. If I could have put him in a bubble I would have. Now, with 5, people probably question my 'relaxed' attitude when my child falls, cries, screams etc.
Your friends are great actors! Being a mom is never effortless. They may have it together in front of you but I bet they pull their hair out at times just like the rest of us.
You can never be prepared, know enough or know everything. There is no right and wrong when it comes to parenting and we learn as we go. We learn from our mistakes and that means we have to make some.
Once your child arrives some instinct takes over, the rest is doing what you think is best. There will be moments of panic, indecision and meltdown. That's motherhood and that means you're doing it right.
If you do anything 24 hours a day, 7 days a week, you get good at it real quick. Don't worry. You will be the expert on your child because no one will know him or her better. If you do get overwhelmed or need help, ask for it. Some babies are more trying than others!
Still learning!
as you heard earlier you are not made for the role the role makes you ready because after the child is brought into the world almost ANY whimper that child makes in the night will wake you..i don't care if it is across the house from you your ears will lock in on it and you will IMMEDIATELY snap awake to tend to the child as far as tending and nurturing your kids that is a lifetime operation my kids are 14 and 18 and i can hear them snore oddly or cough at night and i am awake wondering if there is something wrong
My son is almost 14 and I still wonder if I'm getting it right. At every stage there's different circumstances and problems that arise that I'm never quite ready to deal with, like him growing up...lol.
I think to some, it can be natural, especially if they were raised in a big household and were the oldest amongst the group. Some people do have a natural knack for it. For me, it did come easy. I take to children well and visa versa. But I'm always learning how to be a better parent.
Others, it doesn't come as easily, but that doesn't mean they won't be great parents. It's just an adjustment and something that some have to grow comfortable in doing.
When the time comes and you're ready, you'll be able to handle it like you see everyone doing now..
"mommightknow" is exactly right! I have 2 boys, ages 3 and 2 and they are the lights of my life. There are a lot of parenting classes you can take, but they are just practices. I took none, and still have no trouble dealing with my kids. I did have those feelings of not being a good parent when i had my first one, but those feelings subsided shortly after. Being a parent is truly great! You will do fine when you do decide to have them. They are precious gems!
I was eighteen when I had my first. I don't think any of us can ever be ready for the overwhelming love that comes when you have a child. And I also think alot of us are just faking it when it comes to knowing what we're doing. I have great kids. They are respectful and disciplined and they care for one another. We are a family.
when you're pregnant you read and read and talk and talk, but until you actually have that baby in your arms, you'll never know.
The moment my child was born, i said to GOD, this is IT. No going back. I'm a MOM.
It is not a hard adjustment, it will just come naturally. It's not anything that you can prepare for, you usually just make it up as you go along. You will know what's best for your and your own children and will do anything to make sure that they are happy and safe. It may seem difficult when your are dealing with your friends children, because they are not yours and they are experts in dealing with their own kids. Every child is not the same and they don't come with instruction manuals. LOL. If they did, we would still probably get it wrong.
a few months. Yes i was worried that i would mess up, belive me after awhile you get into "your grove". I didn't do it easily, but as your bound of mother and child grows you'll know what to do I have complete confidence in you. Good luck, and (even if your not religious) God bless you. If you have more questions email me day or night it's lill_angel_07_88@yahoo.com.
You have no choice really. There's another human being relying on you for everything so you learn quickly what works and what doesn't. All parents make mistakes but then we learn from those mistakes and try to do better. That's life in a nutshell. Good luck.
My dear, I don't think anyone is REALLY ready (or prepared) for children. Too many of us romanticize kids. Being a parent is the MOST challenging thing you will ever have to do. When you have your first child it's the most frightening thing in the world and there are always people to give advise. For me, I took parenting classes when I realized I was struggling, I read many books, I watched many programs...basically I educated myself. However, a lot of parenting is common sense and intuition. Once you have your second child you are much more at ease.
I wouldn't consider anyone a pro at parenting. These little people don't come with instructions. I had my first child at 18 then second at 21 my third at 25 now facing my fourth which is not planned at all and still don't consider myself to be a super mom.
Each one of my children are different. Personalities and the whole development. When they are your own children you seem to have a sense of what they need, and sometimes they leave you pulling your hair out not knowing what they want or need. You fall into a routine but you never adjust. Something is always changing and you just have to change with it or fight trying. People always say they are waiting for the right time to have a child but really what is a right time? No one is every really ready when it happens. You just love every moment because it all goes by so fast...
I hope that you will accept an answer from a Father...smiles.
The Birth of a child is an exciting and wondrous event. Nothing can equal the birth of a Child in my mind.
I was very anxious in caring for our New child. I bathed and fed my daughter at 2:00 am. I never really got accustomed to changing diapers...smiles.
My spouse did most of the daily routine with my daughter.
Our Pediatrician was always on call and would answer all of those questions that new parents have.
I must say that The Mother had natural instincts concerning our new baby girl.
In a few weeks we adjusted to the feeding schedule and the diaper changes...Those diaper changes..lol.
My life experience has shown me that the bond between a child and the Mother is almost God Like. To watch the Mother holding our child in a rocking chair, still makes me emotional today.
Over time we had two beautiful daughters. The birth of each daughter presented its unique challenge and opportunity.
Today, I have five grandchildren...all under the age of nine years.
Of course, I was move experienced and more relaxed when I cared for the Infant grandchildren.
Yes...we adjust to parenting. The children adjust to the parents...more smiles.
There is no simple answer to raising a child..Except unconditional Love and affection.
Thank you for the chance to answer this question.
parenting is like life,you can never adjust to it.There're always new issues to adjust to ...so that goes on unabated.But do you know the wonderful thing about parenthood? It gives you some sort of life and mould you into being responsible.
please do not get scared, but
people two hundred years ago are still not adjusted to having their children.
I do not think you ever actually get completely adjusted...
it is always a new something happening at different ages of their growth..
then you say the move out and grow up..HA HA..it is ALWAYS something no matter how old they get..the stuff just changes with their age.even if they are 60 and your around there still are stuff going on...
all a prat of life...but is an enjoyable part..really it is.
just laugh a lot and smile..
good luck
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