What do you do if you hurt someone while trying to make them feel better?
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give her some space. and after a few days, maybe send her a card/flowers/gift, to leet her know that she is not the reason for you quitting. Let her know exactly how you were trying to be considerate of her and so on.
This might be an emotional thing for her, but you can't feel guilty nor should you apologize for being pregnant. Give her space, there is nothing YOU can say to help her. She will have to figure it out on her own. Give her time she will come around.
Well, she is emotional, not reasonable at this point. All you can do, is write her a card to appologize. Whether she accepts or not, it's up to her. You've done your part. She's just projecting anger on you because of her problems.
It's sad that she can't get pregnant, but it's not your fault. Talk to her, or give her a card.. something that will tell her she still means something to you.
make it clear that she shouldn't feel bad, and that maybe she should adopt or something.
This is her issue, not yours! If you ask me, I think she is totally out of line! What you decide to do is your decision, and what's best for you and your family. If she was TRULY a friend, she would understand and support your decision. Don't feel bad because she can't have kids, it's not your fault in any way. God just made some people unable to reproduce. She needs to deal with her own issues of insecurity and not make you feel guilty for her problems. If she won't let it go, perhaps it's better she stay away. You don't need a "friend" like that in your life! Congratulations, I hope everything works out for you!
I'm sorry. It sounds like she really has some problems right now and no matter how much you want to help her. Nothing is going to make her feel better except for herself making the decision to be okay with herself. It's not your fault. Try to back away from the situation and make yourself a little more distant. She is being selfish by putting this on you with two cute ones on the way. Protect you and those kids and best of luck.
she probably feels bad for you wanting to quit because of her. from her view, not only can she not conceive, she's making her friend leave. she probably feels like everyone is leaving her; like she's a black cloud. she's the reason everyone is leaving her and she can't do anything about it. her husband might be the one who wants children so badly and he might be on the verge of leaving her because she can't reproduce. we have no idea what's going on in her life.
have a sit down with her and tell her how sorry you are that she hasn't had children , yet. tell her you want to know how she feels. you cannot be empathetic until you know how she feels. you can be sympathetic to her not being able to conceive, but there's a difference between sympathy and empathy.
Your co-worker has a problem an you're not it. She needs to come to terms about not being able to have a baby and stop blaming you.You are doing a good thing by leaving this job because it is stressful on you when she is around. She made this whole thing about her and not about the fact that your doing it because you need to be with your babies and that you didn't want to be a reminder to her about her problem. Get out of there and stop trying to please her, you did nothing wrong. all the best with your babies.
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