But this is a product of rape!!!i want an angel, a baby but not a product of devil act!?
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I strongly believe what ur heart tels u follow it, god neva eva forces somethng on u,when anythng is 4m god u always have peace if u dont have that do what u have2!2get that peace! Children r a blessing from god but after marriage, jus always rememba god knows ur situation he understands ur pain, dnt do anythng ur heart doesnt want u 2.jesus luvs,he came us normal people not the righteous.tk.
Its not the babys fault...
Think of it as a gift from God. You didn't have to get pregnant, but God wanted it that way. God has a plan for you, but if you murder an innocent baby, how will that plan end??
i would have an abortion. The baby will be better off. My friend was the product of rape and she has on many occasions attempted suicide because of it. She is also on medication because of it.
Adoption. I agree with the 1st answer. It is not the baby's fault.
I'm sorry for your mis-fortunate circumstance. Rape is hard enough to deal with. Some women decide to keep their babies and are happy with their decision. But the baby is half you. I've known women who have had abortions and they have a harder time getting over it than they do miscarriages. It is very mentally draining to think about the morality of it year after year after an abortion. I suggest to save yourself the pain and carry on with the preg. and decide when you deliver if you want to keep it or adopt it out.
It is not the baby's fault there fore is innocent. I know 2 women who were raped and gave their baby up for adoption. They said they were very happy to not have added to such a horrific situation with blood on their hands.
Devastating emotional situation. But the child has no responsibility for its conception. If you want to be a parent, then go through with it. But get some counseling to help see you through all the emotional ramifications, to get some advice about what to tell the child at an appropriate age, and to point you toward allowing yourself the happy heart you want.
this baby is who ever raises it think about adopted children they are their adopted parents children not the biological parents children change your thought process this is YOUR child not the monsters change your thinking you have 6 months to come to terms with this you will never regret giving birth to a baby but you will regret killing what is yours take back your life and lead it don't let the monster control it any more babies are not what/how they were conceived but how they are loved and bring love into our lives
I used to think that same thing. BUT.. then I met a friend on here that had the same thing happen. And she is only 16. And it was her ONLY time with sex. She is due to have her baby any day. Even if it is a product of a devil act it is still a part of you. The chances for a couple who is trying to get pregnant are only about 25% every month. For someone to get raped and get pregnant.. slim. I think you were meant to have this baby. Good luck and congrats on your miracle.
One of the things you are going to have to think about it. what are you going to tell the kid when they ask who their daddy is? I understand both sides keep or abort. Its your decision. If you do keep the kid you need to start thinking of what you are going to tell him/her, and how they might deal with it. What will you do to help them deal with it. But on the other hand everything happens for a reason. Children are gifts from God anyway they are created. Adoption is always a choice too. I am sorry you have to make a decision like this, no one should have to. No one also can give you an answer to that either. Good luck with making your decision. I hope everything works out.
ok, are you drunk? Form you sentence better next time. If what you mean is you don't know if you should abort or not, then continue to read. Even though this child is a product of a rape does not mean that it is evil. Good can come from this. The decision is yours as to whether you keep this sweet angel. Good luck!
It's not the baby's fault. I think God gave you this baby because He felt bad after you suffered and wanted to bless you with something that evil man can never take from you, your own angel.
IT IS NOT A DEVIL BABY!
Yeah, it's not the baby's fault, but its not your fault either. But I do not at all agree with abortions because your pretty much killing an innocent child. When you were raped...did you report it? Cuz if so, you woulda been checked out and I think the hospital would have gave you the morning after pill..God Bless You in whatever you decide and good luck...
I am not telling you what to do. But if you really don;t want the baby give it to someone who might love it .
you might also fall in love with the baby with the first kick first ultrasound.
it was not your fault that you were raped and it should not be taken out on the baby.,
Do you know the actual statistics of a conception from a violent rape? A woman's body is designed to shut down reproductive capabilities during a violent act being committed. Also a huge flush of fluids and even an early period is normal in such cases of forced sex. For you to have actually conceived a child during such an act is RARE and part of a very low statistic. This child is still half of YOU, and you want to kill it. Why not give to adoption and create a family for a childless couple? Sure you can abort, but you will be tormented for life wondering what that little part of you would have been like...but no one will ever know.
I'm not saying what you are going through is easy. It's got to be the single most hardest thing on the planet to be in the position you describe. There are organizations like 1-800-Bethany who will, for free, counsel you, support you, help you psychologically (you'll be hard pressed for any free counseling from an abortion clinic) and also allow you to CHOOSE the parents for your unborn baby and even have contact with the child if you wish.
I know it's your CHOICE, but look at ALL the choices.
The choice is yours to make. Think of the consquences of either choice. What a question like this boils down to is everyone's personal beliefs. This is not a question that really needs to be answered by anyone else. I know it may be hard, but try to objectively look at both situations. If you're like me, then you'll try to convince yourself to do the thing you wanted to from the start.
When you make a choice, stick to it. No regrets. Never look back.
Rape is a coward's man act. But loving and overcoming on how this child was conceived is an act of a person with a strong and courageous heart. I know that my words may not help you but i hope that you find someone you can confide in. Please know that you are in my prayers.
Carrying and delivering the baby probably isn't an easy thought, but think how guilty you could feel after the fact if you got an abortion. Some people can come to terms with what happened to them and raise their baby and love it always... other's can't, and that's understandable. There are many people in the world who can't have children and would love to adopt. All children are a blessing to someone. You have an innocent life to think of.
the way the baby was conceived doesn't change the baby. :) if you truly want a baby, keep it. if not, abort it. <3
My step daughter was raped back in August and is pregnant from that rape. She is keeping the baby and dealing with the rape. She knows that it's not the baby's fault. She realizes that God must have a purpose for the life inside her. She felt the baby kick for the first time on Christmas Day. Get into counseling and try to find a way to come to terms with it. I wish you the very best.
I agree, the baby is innocent. Babies cannot choose their parents and it is not your baby's fault how you conceived. You are obviously very torn about what to do, and I think you would be very upset later if you aborted the baby. Like others said, you can always give the baby up for adoption. There are many couples out there who would do jut about anything for a baby to call their own. These couples can't have children of their own and would be thrilled to have your baby. Please, please think long and hard about this decision. Once you abort, it is final. I really think that in the long run, you will be happiest if you have the baby. I wouldn't take anything for my children...nothing compares to the first cries of a newborn. In the very least you could make some childless couple very happy. Good luck...I wish you well.
the baby is innocent in all ways! I am sorry this horrible act happened to you and I suggest you let your heart show you the way.my best to you.
Thats so hard to know what to do-my hubby and I were actually talking about that the other night-should you keep the baby if you are raped.I do not believe in abortion-so I think I would have it and give it up for adoption-at least it is a tiny life and can grow up to hopefully be a wonderful adult!
The choice is yours-can you manage to carry and feel it move in you knowing what happened.It is a part of you but also a part of something bad that happened.I would seek counseling-and make a choice after that!I am so sorry for you!
I'm sorry about this trauma your going through. You have to put your mental and physical health first. If you don't believe you can be a good parent at this time then you should abort or go through with adoption.
I'm 30 yrs old and have terminated a pregnancy you may feel guilt you will be depressed.
>Go to Planned Parenthood 1-800-230-PLAN,
or Department of Health Women Center they are both free and will help get counseling and not be judged.
>Go to the police or the hospital see if you have a rape crisis center in your town. This organization can help RAINN [Rape, Abuse,Incest,National Network] http://www.rainn.org
The baby that is in your tummy is a gift from God /Mother Nature. The Evil of the rapist did NOT come through you into the child. You survived that rape; you are strong. You are much more than what happened. You are making a life in your tummy and it is a good life, a beautiful life, a sacred one. It only comes from you: There is no soul in DNA and that's all that he left. Anyway he only made ONE CELL for that baby and YOU have made hundreds of thousands of new cells to create something wonderful. She (he) will be an angel. A wonderful, cuddly, loving, warm, beautiful angel made from your body. That's pretty cool!
If you want a baby, this one is waiting for you with open cherub arms.
but only if you want and can take care of one.
I notice that a lot of people are suggesting you adopt, but I think this baby is for you. Again I am assuming you really want and can take care of a baby. I notice other people really arguing against abortion so I have too say if you have to do it, you have to do it. Although we are all saying baby, at this point it's just an embryo, not even a fetus. It has POTENTIAL to become all that I have written but I have to defend the choice of abortion.
Well, first, an abortion clinic is the FIRST place you'll find free and HONEST counselling about all the possibilities. Actually the second one. The first is Planned Parenthood. They are wonderful. They will help you out no matter your income and they have professional counselors. Many other 'pregnancy counselling' groups don't tell you the truth. They make up lies to scare you from having an abortion. For instance, women have a far lower death rate with abortion than with pregnancy. A dishonest place will say abortion is dangerous, but it isn't at all. Have a counselor help you to make a decision; don't let the counselor make the decision.
No-one WANTS anyone to have an abortion. These therapists counsel you and talk about all the other options and really make sure you are sure: You can even back out at the last second and that would be fine. No one is ever FOR abortion. Nobody LIKES abortion. But just like nobody is FOR cancer surgery, some still have to have it and it is a good choice. If you cannot be a good parent and you don't want to go through the act of making and bearing this embryo into a baby, abortion is a safe option and you will NOT necessarily feel guilty as long as you go into it with a clear mind and are sure of your life choice. A woman is not a baby-making machine (remember that), and is not obligated to go through the pains of pregnancy and birth if she doesn't want to. That's the point of Choice. You choose what is best for you.
I got pregnant when the doctor said what she was giving me was a contraceptive (her mistake) and I had to make the decision with 2 days. It had been a complete surprise for me that I was almost 3 months pregnant. I was in another country and they actually mandate three days of counselling before you can get one. But I was only 2 days before the deadline so they helped me out. I was sure of my choice after talking it out with my best friend and I knew what I was doing. The actual reason that I could not have a baby at that time in my life was my boyfriend was beating me and I swear no one will ever do that to my child.
Natasha
I know now a lot of anti-choice people are going to start railing now, but I had to give you this honest knowledge. Email me and we can talk about it.
Oh Sweetheart, I feel for you.. I really do. Whatever you decide to do, I believe is the right decision. I think you should speak with a proffessional about it, and make the decision that is right for you. A counciller who is not opinionated. Maybe a rape councellor, or go to a local womens shelter for councelling. my thoughts and prayers go out to you.
i think you should keep it because that is a human life. after the baby is born you should be able to look at it as a gift and YOUR child, not his. join a support group too. they help
If were going to abort, it sure better be soon. If not, give the child up for adoption since you are already codemning the child as an act of the devil.
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