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Hi Sweetie first of all he will have no choice but to help out once the baby comes. Child support can be deducted right from his paychecks and sent directly to you. I have four children of my own my first two were from a previous marriage so i went through the same thing. You may have to go to court and all legal costs are free for you so don't worry about that. Good Luck with your baby and Congrats.. You are going to be a GREAT mom. Your already made the best decision for your unborn child and that is to give him or her life. My prayers are with you!!
Well, if he is the father he will HAVE to pay child support. As far as emotional support, you could take the approach of maybe no emotional baggage for the two of you as a couple, but do it for your child together. This stuff happens everyday, so just let him know (if you want him in the baby's life) that he should be there for the baby, but he doesn't have to be for you. As for the child support, if he is proven to be the father there will be a court order for him to pay. I hope this helped!
if you are preg. I would let him know that you are and tell him, we can either do this the easy way and get along for our child and you can help support it, or I can take you to court and demand child support! first I would take a preg test or go to the DR. I have 3 beautiful kids of my own. if u need more help, email me at ashleyfritz@cox.net
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Just tell him once, "walk like a man" typically this will work because it will take a bit of time for the stress to set in and let him adjust, however, dont waste your time trying to make him help you, if he is a deadbeat jerk he wont be worth much in the future anyway, he will just cause problems. Dont abort, it causes way to many mental problems, and ask the government for help if you need it, dont be scared thats what it is there for.
If he is the father of your unborn child the law is that he must pay child support, is he refuses to take it to court the law is the law. For you, if you are in university get a part time job that flexes around your schooling, and if you cannot find a job or whatever you can go on wellfare and they will pay for your child and your college fees.
Firstly, you need to find out for sure if you are pregnant or not.
Second, if you are, you have to decide what you are going to do about it. There are options.
If you decide on termination, get the guy to face up to his responsibilities, and help you out financially. Who does he think he is to leave devastation in him wake without taking responsibility for his actions.
If you decide to have the child, you have the option of adoption.
If you decide to bring the child up yourself, you will probably find you are very much on your own in terms of the support you can or will get from the father, which may well be a blessing in the longer term.
tell him that it's his child and that he needs to help you with your son/daughter that you want him to be there for his his child becuase that kid has no fault on not having a dad he needs to have both parents because your child might blame you for not having a dad and you don't want that do you so tell him that its his if that's the last guy you slept with and that he needs to help you
The first thing you need to do is think about what you want do. Things that need to be thought about is how will you finish school,where will I live after my baby is born, how will I take care of my baby if the father decides that he does not want to be apart of my babies life?Can I do this on my own if there is no one there to help me. When you have the answer to these questions then you should think about him and his role, you can't make someone be there if they don't want to be there.Take care of your self.
first and foremost, find out if you are, indeed, pregnant.
you have 3 choices that i see.
he can pay for termination
he can pay for the rest of his life (financially and emotionally)
you can opt for adoption
the choice is YOURS. not his.
most schools have help for mothers. check it out.
i FEEL FOR YOU. i have a client who was in the same situation. she opted for adoption (open) and loves the family who is raising the child. they all get together for holidays and birthdays. i'm sure this situation isn't for everyone, though.
remember, you are on your own, with help.
open to an open adoption to a loving family that can't have one? Open adoption meaning you pick the parents and the ground rules about being sent updates and pictures and things like that.
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family support. emotional, physical, and financial. I would even go so far as to ask his parents if they are interested in this child's life and let them help also, if they are.
Well first you need to know for sure, I would of had facts before I went to him. If you are you take his *** to court, he doesn't have a choice. It is his responsibility too, not just yours. The court will see to it you get help.
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