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Many parents are like that. Mine were, too, when I was your age (ugh, I sound old). They're not doing it to make your life miserable. They're doing what they think they need to do in order to keep you safe. There ARE things and people out there that will do you harm. Your parents are trying their best to keep you safe from that.
As you get older, they'll probably begin to give you a little more freedom. Remember, at worst, they'll have to let you go once you graduate high school (it really isn't that far away; trust me).
Kill your mom. Problem solved.
I can see why she makes you come in when the street lights turn on, but why doesn't she let you go to parties and sleepovers? I'd talk to her and see if you can agree on a compromise. But remember, any compromise you make you have to follow or she might get even more strict.
My parents are the same way. But really, she only wants what's best for you. Just try hard to bring your assignments home, and you won't have to worry about it happening anyway. Plus, it will help your grades.
XOXO- RENA
well she just wants to protect her but tell her how u feel because some day her overlyprotectince mabey could save ur life
i say you talk to her. You should show her that ur responsible enough to go out with ur friends and chill.. Tell her that you are old enough to have a little freedom.. but also dont fuk up on her because if you do then she wont trust you.. but ya try talking to her..
Don't listen to James.
Your mom is just looking out for your best interest. She probably doesn't want you to get hurt in any way. Set down a time when you can talk to your mom about what's on your mind and try to write down independence goals for you that she may agree on.
Hoped that helped.
My father was very protective when I was 14, now much older. You will eventually come to appreciate all that she does for you. Do not take it for granted. There are SOOO many kids who have parents who could not give a darn. Try to show her how responsible you are but do not force the issue. Most parents, like myself, tend to overcompensate for what was lacking in their own childhoods. Sorry, but you need to look at the positive, at least she is paying attention and CARES.
Calm down. Mothers worry, sometimes it seems over protective. If you can't talk to her, sit down and write her a letter and then give it to her. Perhaps the two of you can come to an understanding. She behaves this way because she cares, not out of evilness towards you. Communicate more with her, please, for her sake as well as yours.
maybe your mother just wants to see you do and be the best u can be and as far as handling yourself dont forget there's some real monsters out there but couping u up is just going to make you rebel against her wishes
Hey, your Mom is trying to look after you. What an ungrateful brat you are. You are not a super hero and you are not old enough to know what is best for yourself. What till you are older and you will thank your lucky stars your Mom cares so much about your well being and your LIFE. Good grief.
My Mom was very similar with me. You know why! OVERPROTECTIVITY! It's just insane. All I can tell you is you're not missing a WHOLE heck of a lot, just a little heck of a lot - sorry. I'm 35 now and I'm thinking I need to be the same way with my 13 yr. old who has already started to disappoint me. Try talking and reasoning with your Mom and GENTLY speaking to her fear of the unknown. She has some cause for awareness ... its crazy out there. Look forward to embracing your freedom knowing you have given yourself an excellent education when you go to college in a few years. Good things come to those who wait. Look for some school related extra curriculars as that's gonna be your best bet for socializing. Also, ask her to escort you... a couple of times of that and she may trust you to send you out on your own. It's worth a try! Best wishes to you darling.
Well, I think you should really sit down & speak with your mother, because I feel it's big mistake to not let a young adult experience somethings while their young. Due to the fact that when they are aold enough, they usually go buck wild. The best thing is talk to her, don't keep it bottled up inside. Good luck..
im only 11 but i feel that 2 sometimes ima tell u ya mom is the boss you should stand up though in the most politest way u can what i did was i asked my mom every day could i go over my friends house finally after a week she gave in and allowed me 2
p.s. i kno u love your mom but u r almost an adult u r a young adult u should stand up and make ya point
Maybe she is just scared. Just look around even on this site. Their are 13 year olds talking about being pregnant or aren't sure if they are pregnant. She is probably worried that if she doesn't keep a tight leash you will be out there too. She is a mom and that is what they do, they want to protect you and keep you safe from harm. When you are older you might look back and notice all the mistakes she made sure you didn't make and you will be glad.
I think your mother just wants to make sure you don't get hurt. I am your age, and surprisingly, my mother is unlike yours. But, she is protective. She says everyday," I love you, and if I seem mean, I am only trying to protect you."
Your mother loves you very much. She wants you to be successful and go far in life, unfortunately she may be a bit overbearing. Please remember, your mother has been where you are right now, a 14 yo teenager. She is probably so terrified of the "what if" scenarios that she feels she has to be strict. Your mother knows what's best for you but if freedom is what you want, try and work something out with your mother by asking her to allow you stay out 5 extra minutes or to allow friends to come over to your house for a sleep over. You have to understand that if anything happens to you in a negative way your mother would never forgive herself - She mayn seem overprotective but you'd be amazed how many 14 year old girls DONT have a mother like yours. Be thankful you have a mother who loves you.
my mom was the same way i completly understand you i went trough the same i never went to a slept over and i spend most of the time in my room because my mom was like yours i gain weight because its not fun being in your teen and not been able to do teen stuff i know how hard it is but hang in there if you want talk to a techear in your school and try to let her know how you feel and maybe if she talks with your mom maybe she listen you shoulkd talk to her to maybe if she hears your point of view she understand i spend my teenage years mostly in my bedroom alone and its sad so speak up with a teacher or your momn
I have to disagree with Kiki, who said "u r almost an adult u r a young adult ". Fourteen is not a "young adult", it's a young teen-ager. I also must take issue with even younger people on this question posting their age on line, do you realize there are vultures out there shopping for you? Especially if you say how much you are wanting to get away from your protective parent.
This shows how much you NEED to be protected and not the other way around.
Ask your mother to take you for an evaluation with a therapist. If she reject the notion, ask the school psychologist for an appointment. You must talk in private about your frustrations of dealing with life and mother, and the need for self expression mom is denying you.
As for the weight gain, ask her to let you join a gym to help lose the weight. If she refuses, then she is contributing to child abuse and the school must be told of this, particularity the social workers at school.
Hey,
My mom was that with me..One reason why I think mothers does that is because there are so many young girls around your age who is having sex, and getting pregnant, dropping out of school, doing drugs, etc...Your mom doesn't want you to do that, she wants to make sure you are safe, that you ain't doing anything you not suppose to be doing, or getting any diseases.I will let you know one thing though, when you turn 17, you probably going to go wild.I know me and my sister did, and settle down when we met the right guy!! As far as not letting you pierce your eyes, and all that, she knows that it would make you prettier, and the boys would definately be after you..Plus, I think people's natural looks are the prettiest...But that is my opionion.Just sit down and explain stuff with your mom.Tell her that she can hang out with you, she might watch you and then let you go by yourself sometimes.Who knows, it will be worth a try...When you get older, your mother will be your best friend!! Good Luck!!
If all you say is accurate she is over protective. I am a mother of 5 grown adults. We have to allow our children into the world so if they are going to error and learn it is younger not older. Talk to her and if she continues if you go to church talk to your minister and get advise on helping mom so your helped. Is dad around? If so talk to dad. Maybe grandma.get help before she pushes you away.
You feel that your mom is being overprotective but she just cares and loves you very much. She worries that if you let your grades slip once it may become a habit...It is so easy to get caught up in the wrong things when your young (not knowing that there wrong). Your mom knows how other people can be, and how they can influence you easily, and can hurt you and take advantage of you. I agree tell her how you feel. Maybe if she gets to know one of your friends they can come to your house. Don't be bossy or pushy it will only hurt this issue..THERE ARE A LOT OF CRAZY PEOPLE OUT THERE WHO KNOW JUST WHAT TO SAY TO GET TO YOU GET WHAT THEY WANT FROM YOU AND CAN HARM YOU.. These people are not just dirty old men ...That is why your mom worries she knows what this world is really like.Be glad she loves you so many kids have parents that don't give a crap
Hi Whatsup? I see most people responding are parents like me. My daughter is 13. Like you, she has excellent grades (good Job!) But her mom is also overprotective. I think what is really happening is that my daughter is her mom's best friend. Her mom has several other friends as well but she loves to be with her daughter and as a result, tends to want her home with her. Perhaps It is not a question of trust. We do allow her to sleep-over selected friends houses and go to dances with her friends because we know they are good people. I know as well as you that there are kids that can influence her to smoke cigarettes, pot
and other things to be cool. But we have suggested ways for her to avoid those situations and have confidence that she will. Again, your excellent grades speak for themselves. Ask for a compromise. If you don't miss your assignments, will she allow you can go to a dance. If you mom allows, you can easily prove you trustworthiness. Tell her all about what happened. Once she feels comfortable with it she is more likely to say yes. Your mom will soon see that a circle of good friends will be protecting you against influences better than she can at home. Good Luck!!
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