Having babies in your 50's?wrong or right?

The other day I meet a couple who had just had their first baby a few weeks ago. They are in there mid 50's. How can this be right? I, as a mom, can understand wanting to have that feeling of becoming a parent. Of giving life to another being. Its incredible...BUT, is it fair to the child that his mom and dad could possibly miss out on beautiful moments...such as the daughter getting married and having her baby. The son getting married. Seeing them graduate college...whatever the moment is. These parents are going to cheat their kids out of som much. Yeah, yeah, yeah the parents while they are alive it will be great and they'll be loved very much I'm sure. But isn't it a little selfish? The child will grow up knowing that their parents could be dead before their life actually really truly begins (as an adult).

Answer:
First of all this baby stands a greater chance , a much greater chance of being born unhealthy. The older a woman is when she gives birth ( 40 ish on up ) the greater the risks.

And being raised by my grandmother i have to agree with you. It is not as good for a child to be raised by older people in many ways. In many ways i suffered for it. In some ways i am better for it.

If i had to say for certain one way or the other, i agree with you that they should not be doing this. But if she is already pregnant then it is too late now.

I am in my 40s and wont try having one because of my own health risks and also the risks to the unborn child.
i think its wrong because the baby has a higher chance being born with defects in his/her DNA and it's just not safe
I agree it is wrong wrong wrong.
If you think about it...do we EVER really know how long we have left...I've seen younger people than myself get killed with an infant at home...so ~ is ANY time really a good time to have kids?! I think that it's beautiful that they can enjoy this time..cause time is a precious thing...and it should NEVER be taken for granted.I had my last son at 39...is that fair to him?! I love him with the heart of a 20 yr old...and I still chase him and do all the things I did with my 2 older children..both mid teens...and I don't feel like I'm robbing anyone of anything.Just wearing myself a bit thin with the energy that I used to have..that's about all!
Its ok with me. Maybe this a good time in their life to have a child. Most people these day live past 80.
I think it is not only stupid but selfish for people that age to have a baby. They are not a good age to raise a child as they will not feel like attending sports events or other things with their child.
Our bodies are not what they used to be and their babys health may suffer because of this. I know it is possible for a woman to get pregnant during the change of life and I assume this must have happened to this woman or she surely would have had the good sense to not get pregnant. Also there is a real possibility that either parent or both may not live to see this child grow up.
I guess they do not care what happens to this child if they should die.
Having a child is a wonderful thing no matter if you'r 20-30-4-5-60 whatever age you might be, if god blesses you with the opportunity, & your in good health then go for it!

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