Does anyone know if I as a first time grandma, if I can stop this girl from having an abortion?
Answer:
Oh, what a terrible position to be in...
I'm not sure if there's much you can do legally.
Talk to her. Tell her your feelings and remind her of hers.
Offer your support as much as you can (even if it's not $$$) to help them. Or if you're REALLY upset by this, in good health and in a good financial position are you able to consider adopting the baby? (Maybe if that was an option she'd change her mind about ending the pregnancy?)
Also, I don't know much about abortions (don't really agree with them personally), but at 3 months are you supposed to still do this? I mean to know she's pregnant she's already at least 4 weeks right...
I don't think an abortion would be very pleasant for her at that point and if she's already got a baby that's (unfortunately) a product of rape then could she be bluffing to get your son on track with what she might see as his "fatherly responsibilities"?
I wish you all the best, and I sincerely hope this works out.
Take care!
Mind your own business you old bat
Help your son get a job.
First, prove that the child is actually his.
Second, get some kind of police intervention as this can be construed as blackmail
Third, where's mom and dad?
If she doesn't want it, then have her put it up for adoption.
She sounds like a manipulative *****. I would let her have an abortion and tell your son to date normal women, or keep it in his pants until he is married. God, people are so trashy.
Unfortunately, no.
All you can do is plead with her and pray to God for intervention.
Nothing, nor should you try. It is not properly any of your concern.
Let her make her own decision, and you stay out of their lives, and you just get on with yours. Leave Them Alone.
There's nothing you can do to stop her.
I would have your son help her find a place to live , make sure he keeps a job to support them aswell, try and talk to her about the baby, encorage her to do the right thing.
sounds like this women has some screw loose in her head... she keeps a rape child, but threatens to abort a love child? It is either her tactics or she is just insane. Do you really want someone like that as the mother of your grandchild?
It sounds like she is very scared. Raising one child is hard, let alone be a single mother. (Who's with me on this, ladies?)
Unfortunately, there isn't anything that you can do. You can't force her to carry a baby to term if she doesn't want to. Try to be patient with the situation, and remove yourself and your wants as much as possible. Your son and she will be the people who have to raise this child and they must be the ones to decide what to do.
I wish I could help you. I don't understand how she can be strong enough to keep the baby of a man who hurt her, but won't keep the one of a man who loves her unless he gives her something....that makes me wonder if she's really pregnant, or if she's using that to get her own place.
start praying, Im really sorry to hear that she is manipulating your family like this. But really with someone like that all you can do is pray.
What if your son married her, would that be good enough in the mean time (while he is looking for accomodation and a job) ?
Help your son find a job or put pressure on him to find one if he is just being lazy. Dont support him yourself so that he doesn't need a job. Help him find a place for the mother to feel safe and the child to grow up in. Provide as much emotional and practical support for the mother as you can while your son gets his act together. AND, buy your son some condoms to use until he is ready to be a father.
.Why not worry about more important things like innocent animals going extinct every day Stop being selfish for a grand child ....Also I think there should be an abortion clinic on every single block of the city...I think
really there is nothing you can do, just be a stand by, ask your son to get a job, or offer to let her move in for the nine months and then be deciving and take the kid from her, how does your son feel? I mean what else is there, I know how you feel. I really don't think she needs to even have the baby she has now, she sounds like a B**** ? just my opion.
there is nothing u can do. stay out of it, let them solve their problems.
maybe your son should grow up and get a job, but no, you don't have any legal rights as a grandma, sorry
Help your son find a job. Frankly he is going to need to support the baby in the long run anyways. Does she herself have a job, because she herself should have one too, not just your son. If she was being true in the beginning then hopefully she would never abort the baby.
well first your son does need a job and a place to live if he is going to have a child. In most states the Mother has all the right til the child is born. sorry good luck
Yes there is! Kick your son up off his lazy behind and tell him to get to work. He can finish school at night if he has to. Tell him that it was his butt that put his nose to the grindstone. You can also let them move in with you so they have a place to stay. But I'm still saying get that boy up and at'em. She ain't no princess either. You could watch the little boy she already has so she could find a job. I wouldn't go around saying her first baby is a product of rape so why did she keep him. Why don't you ask her to her face instead of putting it up for all to see like Jerry Springer?
Sadly there isn't anything you can do. It's her choice. That's the country we live in. I suggest you help him get a job. She may just be using "scare tactics" to get him off his rear. He really should have been working and had his own place all along if he's old enough to engage in activities that produce children.
I don't think there is much you can do except try and talk her out of it, be nice about it.. Your son needs to get a job especially if he has a baby on the way.. He needs to learn responibility.. Tell your son to get a job to save the baby's life... GOOD LUCK
It really depends on the laws in your state.
Good luck with your situation.
Probably empty threat only meant to scare your son so that he will move, she probably was very upset over your son. It's not a good tactic, but some women tend to act that way. Just talk to her, maybe you will know what her intentions are.
Whether it's true threat or not, find your son a place to live and/or a job, he going to need them to raise his own family. Just make sure that your son isn't going to be taken hostage by his couple.
It should be noted that there's no guarrante that child is your true grandchild, but I assume whoever that child is, you want to take care of it as your grandchild.
There is nothing you can do. Either help your son find a job or say goodbye to the grandbaby. Its her body and her choice and if she refuses to have it nobody can make her. No women/girl should be forced to carry a child they don't want, the stress and depression alone can do horrible damage to both the mother and fetus. It really sounds like she's scared to me, she already has one child and she knows she can't take care of a second without him working and helping out. The only thing I can think of is for you to ask her to have it and give custody to you. But then she is still going to need help with the prenatal and hospital bills, not to mention you would have to be willing to raise another child.
She's probably bluffing to "motivate" your son. I wouldn't worry about it as much as you are. She sounds like a very immature person, but she is who your son chose. Too bad he couldn't have picked better.
The answers post by the user, for information only, FeelBaby.com does not guarantee the right.