How Can I Ensure My Baby (Son) will be Tough??
We took him out for a walk and he walked the whole time even though it was a pretty long walk.
It was so funny, cause I could hear him breathing from all the walking, but he never once cried or whined.
So that made me think I want to have a son like that.
I can't stand whiny babies that cry all the time. I mean, I can understand if the baby cries because it's really hungry or something major, but some babies just cry constantly for no reason or just because you put them down etc. I don't like that, because that means he will grow up to be a wimp.
I want my son to be like my girlfriend's friend's son.
Is it all just genetics or is there something I can feed my girlfriend to make my son tough?
Answer:
It's a matter of personality mostly. But don't spoil him. Boys become men through deprivation and suffering. I'm not saying to make him suffer. But push him don't baby him, ignore him when he cries, Only give him what he wants when and ONLY when he earns it. help him learn and encourage him in everything but don't ever do it for him, let him learn the hard way. If he get's in fights let him handle it, if he get's beat up then all that means is that he learned. Teach him that violence is not going to solve anything, but to never back down. The Most important thing I've learned as a man is SELF CONTROL and devotion to loved ones. Don't ever let him give up on anything...
Feed? No. You can't do anything to "ensure" that he "tough" until he's born. And it depends on how you raise him.
My dad always wanted us three boys to be tough.
My older brother was but I wasn't. By the time I was in high school and working on a brick crew, I got pretty tough.
Tough enough to tell my Dad if he laid another hand on me I'd kick his ***.
Already did that with my older brother so proof was in the pudding.
When he backed off and realized only he saw me as not being tough, and after he learned I respected him instead of feared him (why I never hit back)... That's when he knew I actually was tough but I didn't like resorting to being that way.
Anyway, you can't teach someone to be tough.
It is partly genetics and partly how they are raised.Nothing your girlfriend eats will make the baby a certain way.
Your an idiot. I hope your son does nothing but cry and whine. How selfish must you be? ITS A BABY! Its given right is to cry etc. Just becuase a baby cries and whines as an infant or toddler doesnt mean its going to be a whimp as it ages. Get a clue buddy.
its all about how much of a puss you are. if your not educated and have no real job forget it he'll be a loser. it all depends on what kind of man you are. if you dropped outta school cause you thought it was to.. anything. then your a coward and your son will be also. have a nice day. remember the choices you make now will follow you all your life.
well i have a 4 month old and he stands and trys to walk a little and the way that i got him to start doing that is i put him in a little walker that i will put him in so his feet will touch the ground some babys really like that i know mine does so now when you hold him he always wants down... so your best way to have a strong baby get a little walker that you can put close to the ground so his feet can touch and i pretty sure in a week or two he will be going backward or something...
I think its funny that your major concern is raising your kid "tough".
Not raising him to be smart, or raising him to be happy, or raising him to have a better life than you.
You can beat him up every day. That'll teach him to be tough. You can teach him to be mean to other kids. That will teach him too.
Please don't have any more kids.
I know what you mean, it is actually a concern of mine too.
A lot of times it's the child's demeaner. Sometimes they start out whiny but then they end up tough by watching you and seeing that oyuare tough and you are not complaining or whining or you are a go getter. Now my son is just tough, that's just how he is. I don't know if it his nature or because of me. Maybe it's a mixture of both. When he first started walking and he would fall, I would just hide or just ignore him and say it's ok get up and he never cried about falling.
When he does something wrong I yell at him and spank him so that he knows it is unacceptable. If he continues to cry about it I tell him "stop crying, that's enough, now you know not to do that." I'll give him a hug if he's really upset but I basically tell him to get over it.
Also, if a child wants something it is not bad to deny him or her of that. There are many times I sound mean or liek I don't care, but Iwhen he wants something he can't have I just "well that's too bad. Be grateful for what you already have." Even though he is only 3, he will eventually understand what I mean.
being denied of the things we want is a part of life, some parents give their children anything they want and never say "no", they think they are the only ones that are ever going to be this nice to the child so why not do it. BUT the problem is that i feel that a parent's responsibility is to prepare their children for the real world.
You don't give them tough love then they won't learn to be tough and they won't survive. No one feels sorry for you in the real world, and if they do there is nothing they can really do about it, you and only you can make yourself happy and satisfied with your life.
Honestly from reading your other questions you have a lot of growing up to do and a lot to learn about life, making your kid tough should be one of the last concerns
P.S. It's important to always spend time with them and tell them you love them
You are sick. You are talking like you won't love your son if he isn't tough!
Crying is a natural part of a baby's life. You can't change that! You can't guarantee that your baby will be tough if you don't let him cry! That is just stupid. Learn to love the precious life that you were given to protect. If you are really that idiotic, enlist your kid in sports when he gets older.
My 4 boys are very tough, very creative and very smart. You can be all of these at once people. There is nothing wrong with tough. That doesn't mean the kid is gonna go around wooping everybody's tails. Tough is GREAT, that breeds into a strong 'tough' mentality in achieving his goals. I call it extreme motivation. When my boys fall off their scooter or bike or skin there knees and hands, I tell them to "shake it off". They do..no crying aloud. I can tell if it is something worth warranting a lot more attention, like more than a scraped knee or hand. Thats how it was for me and I became successful for being so strong. I waqs also a very successful athlete in which I am handing that oof to my kids.
My advice is to just not baby them too much. That doesn't mean I don't love my babies, it just means I have a different philosophy on how to raise a child. I am tough on my boys, but they can take it. And as they get older, they are not going to be intimidated by people. They have me as the ultimate intimidator. They are going to laugh at people trying to bully them.
BTW, there is no lack of love in my household. We are a very happy and fun family who travels and sightsees all the time, but I have incorporated a LOT of discipline for my little soldiers.
Also, I think less time in front of the Boob Tube helps little ones become more active early. Also, do not shelter them in the house. Part of learning in life is taking falls and recovering and moving on. Same thing for a 12 month old just beginning walking. Don't always run and coddle the baby for a littlefall.
My second born was colicky and cried until he was 2. He is amazing now, and the toughest of them all.
My 1st born waled at 12 months, but my 3 others were all walking at 7 and 8 months. Babies need a lot of stomach time on the floor and they excel physically much faster. Put a blanket down and let them play around with toys or just trying to roll around. Start this in the second month. This also helps to strengthen their neck muscles faster.
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