How to protect my children from sexual predators?
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Unfortunately they dont usually go round in trenchcoats and false moustaches. there is really none at all, I know of 2 pedophiles, one was a high school teacher, now a web designer and a lot of fun to be around and just a great alround fella (so we thought) and the other was my grandmothers 70 year old south african boyfriend. Just keep an eye on your kids and there attitudes and behaviours, if they really dont like a person and freak out about seeing them, there is possibly a good reason (not just the usual 'ohhh i dont wanna go to nannas it smells like old people'). It is pointless to say that they are people who will try to get close to your child, because being little kids everyone wants to cuddle them and stuff. I hop ethat all makes sense
Sad but true. Most predators are within families. A child's guard is down because they (think they) know their abuser. There is no safe guard other than hypervigilance.
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First of all it's never too early to teach the self defense. And tell them how important it is to know the bad things they do to children. I had to honestly scare my oldest for him to stop asking strangers for hugs. He was 4, now he's 10 and I haven't had a problem. I taught my 2 yr old to not talk to them or even let anyone he doesn't know touch him. Also, they need a safe house to go to in the neighborhood that you know and trust. If they needed to call you or the police then they could go there. # 1 keep them in your sight at all times.
just watch for strange behavoir and educate your childern as to what is ok and what is not and to tell you if something is strange and to ask you questions about people so you are aware if something is not right. don't ingnore them but don't chase every ghost there is either not all things or people are out to mess with your kids. some just like kids and want to play and have fun plain and simple
if u catch one kill them!
it's a tough one this as you want them to be aware but not scared.
unfortunately abusers look like everyday people, they aren't necessarily dirty old men in rain macs.
make your children comfortable in talking to you about anything and everything and as and when you feel they are ready you can tell them about stranger danger and also about being in control of their bodies.
i can remember being told about nice secrets that make you feel happy and nasty ones that make you sad - you should tell someone if there is a nasty secret that is making you feel sad.
I don't know what your situation is, such as if you work full time and require daycare or babysitters, but I think you just have to be hypervigilant with your children. I am always amazed at mom's that leave their children with people they barely know or with their sister who has a brand new boyfriend that lives with her, etc. I've always thought that I would feel more at ease, if I had to place my children in daycare, to choose a place with alot of people around, very structured and with no men (not that women can't be abusers, but...) Also, just know where your children are at all times and who they are with. Also, they are also old enough to start teaching them about strangers. I also worry about everything. My oldest is just at the age where sleepovers are beginning and it is scary, but I want them to have a normal childhood also. Good Luck
EDUCATE THEM!! THAT'S THE BEST THING YOU CAN DO. EVEN AT THEIR AGE. LET THEM KNOW IT'S NOT OK FOR ANYONE TO TOUCH THEM. MY KIDS KNEW AT A YOUNG AGE HOW TO GET HELP, THEY ARE NEVER TOO YOUNG TO TEACH THEM OF DANGER.
Explain to them proper and improper touches, that it's NOT OK for any other person to be in their beds at night.
To always tell you when something happens that they feel bad or uncomfortable about... to always tell you no matter what threats or whatever is pulled on the child.
There is no Blue Prints to tell you who is a predator or pedophile.
Anyone can be.
Any child that's easy prey is in trouble.. educate your kids.
Most importantly, talk to them. Though you would love to you cannot follow them everywhere -- especially next year, once kindergarten starts. No age is too young to talk. By the time that kids are four or five, they will have already formed their first sexual ideas anyway. You'll want to influence those impressions.
Here are a few signs, but for the most part, pedophiles can escape detection: http://www.operationlookout.org/lookoutm...
Open up your browser and research your area on the sex offender registry, and talk to your kids, so they know what to look for, and what to tell you. Short of locking them up forever, this is the best way to protect them.
Here's a link to the registry:
http://www.nsopr.gov/
Here's a link to a really great site called Parents for Megans law that covers your question, plus a bunch more:
http://www.parentsformeganslaw.com/html/...
As a mother- The only advice I can offer, Is trust your instincts, If you sense that something just isn't 'right' about someone, Don't EVER leave your children around them unsupervised.
Other than that- As much as possible, Keep your children in your sights!
I think that pedophiles should have to wear some kind of permanant marking or something.
I also tend to be kind of leary about anyone that is just TOO friendly with my kids, Like wanting to hold and hug and touch them all the time (Outside of my immediate family members)...Maybe I'm 'odd' but...*I* don't go around touching and holding and kissing on other peoples children, And I don't allow people that I don't KNOW to do that to mine.
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