Im 23, have two kids and Im happy with them but doctor says too young for it? Is he right?I dont want anymore?
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your right, that is not his business. good luck with the kids
too young for what?
Its your choice when you want to start a family not the doctors or other people
you trust your judgement ask him will he support and help raise them?
i guess if you have to ask that question maybe you are.
Why is your doc telling you that 23 is too young to have 2 kids anyway? Something fishy there..
No, 23 is just fine; 17 or 18 would be too young. That's just your doctor's personal opinion, so I wouldn't take it too seriously.
If you'r talking sterilisation, too young.
I had a vasectomy. Wished I hadn't later. But, there you go.
its your own life mate and if you are happy then thats all that matters and he is probably gay so dont listen to the crank haha!
do you mean sterilisation hunni, its up to you not him
Are you talking about the snip or sterilisation? If you are then yes you are too young. Many older people have had these ops and have come to regret it later in life. You never know what is round the corner and I am not saying your relationship is in any danger, but many do fall apart and people go on and start other families.
2 young for what matey?
who is he to tell u ur too young for kids? i would tell him to go shove it and choose another doctor. if you're happy, then have as many kids as u want. i'm 20 and my husband and i are having our 1st kid in august. my mom started having kids at 21 and had 5 kids in a period of 6 years.so believe me, if u feel that u are ready, go for it. and enjoy them... nobody can tell u how to live ur live, especially not ur freakin' doctor.
time to find a new doctor..he had no right stating his personal opinion to you, what is done is done you have 2 children you have your hands full i am sure. but you are the mom and this is not something to bring up for discussion now. enjoy the time spent with your little ones and tell him to go fly a kite
Im 24 with two kids ages 4 and 2. Im married and we both have degrees. Whats too young? He should just mind his own buisness.
I think you are you talking about tubes tied not too young to raise kids?
just use birth control
You're not too young at all.I am 19 now and been trying for a baby for the last 2 years.If it was up to me I would have 4 kids by the time I was 23.Its your life,if you are happy thats the only thing that matters. Show your kids that they mean the world to you coz there are alot of people like me out there who are really struggling to conceive and who would love to have kids.I admire you so just take it easy and live life to your fullest potential.It only comes around once so enjoy it!Who cares what everybody else says/thinks,you are you and Im sure you are really proud of your two kids!
Get a new doctor. That's not a medical opinion, it's a personal opinion and who gives a cr*p what he thinks.
That is none of his business. In some country, the bride gets married at 13, so imagine how many kids will she get at 23.
May be doctors are right. You can wait for that( permanet sterlization) I hope you mean this only.
By the time Use temporary methodstheir are so many available you can ask to your doctor regarding all that.
Or you can take a second opinion.
All the Best
If you're happy then what does it matter what anyone else thinks...
I had my daughter at 23...and I thought that was an ok age. Some of my friends waited till they were in their 30's to start their family.
But i'm having the last laugh now as my daughter is nearly 15 and doing her own thing where as my friends kids are still wee toddlers and still very dependant.
If you are sure you don't want any more..then again its your choice.But please remember..things can happen (God forbid) that you may want another child later on.
There are plenty of good reliable pills, contraptions and medications out there.
If you don't want kids, you don't have to resort to surgery
Find another doctor who isn't a turd.
I had the same problem - although I was older than you! I was sterilised when I had my second child (born by caesarian).
I simply said that if I became pregnant again, I would have to have an abortion as I did not want any more children! (not true, actually - although I understand abortion is a personal decision, I do not think I could go through with one).
They asked how I would feel if I lost one of the children,, and whether I would want another child to 'fill the void'. I asked if he could replace any of his children!
In some ways your GP is correct - remember that you have probably got 16-20 years more when you are able to bear children. What if you and your partner split up next year and you find someone else who wants children?
A relative had one child and, although she was your age, decided she wanted to be sterilised. She went back every week until he got fed up and said yes!
Why not go to another GP and try again! I also believe that they can use clips that can be removed (although not always successfully).
He probably means your emotional maturity, which, by your last question, appears to be lacking. If you don't want to father any more children (kids are what goats give birth to), then get a vasectomy. Two weeks of discomfort for a lifetime of pease of mind.
Its your life ! However your doctor knows from experience that people change their minds about family size and possible contraception. You have decided that you have enough kids and so , rather than be sterilised you should talk to your doctor about long term contraception methods, This will allow you to change your mind in the future.
Merry Christmas and happy New Year,.
Top ten signs your doctor might be right about your being too young to have so many kids.
10. Did you finish school, or did college plans get "put off" when pregnancy happened?
9. Do all of your kids have the same father?
8. Are you married to your kids' father?
7. Is it a healthy relationship-- no screaming matches, no physical, emotional, verbal abuse? (from either party?)
6. Do you have a job? (Does He?)
5. Do you have a job with responsibility or are you taking up space in a convenience store, fast food, or other lo level job?
4. Do you have to "borrow" money from relatives to get by week to week?
3. Are the kids immunized? Do they have health insurance?
2. Do you cook for them or rely on Happy Meals to feed them?
1. Do you collect Welfare, AFDC, WIC or any other taxpayer funded support?
If you can pay your own bills, provide food, shelter and healthcare for your kids, and if you have a healthy relationship with their daddy, and if you are satisfied with your education and your job, then your doctor is likely WRONG.
If the answers to four or more of the questoions above is "NO" then you doctor may have a point...
I assume youre talking about sterilisation. n yes id agree youre too young for it..you really want to go through the menopaise at 23? what if you later decide you do want more children?. just use condoms .
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