How can I get it through to people to leave me the hell alone.?
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Hi, I just went through this a few months ago, and it pissed me off everytime someone opened their mouth. Usually the ones that open their mouth and give advice just don't know WHEN to shut up, right? You have a right to be mad. You know, after hearing the same comment, oh 10 or 20 times, it gets old as h*** & you don't wanna hear it anymore. i know the feeling. At first, I quietly accepted the advice, then I started voicing how i felt. I told a few people that kept telling me the same thing over & over "Thanks for the advice, but I heard you the first 5 time you told me. Please don't offer anymore advice, alright? I am grown, so I can make my own decisions & handle my own business. To be perfectly honest with you, I'm getting pretty tired of everyone putting in their 2 cents about what i choose to do (or don't do). If I need something, I have a mother I can ask for help."
Thats the nice, BUT VERY BLUNT way to say it. Good luck & congratulations on the little one.
Diffucult, because they care. Just smile sweetly.
hehe i know how you feel. just say to them "thank you for your concern" (as u already say) but then add "i know what is right for myself and this baby so please leave me be"
nice simple and if they dont like it then they can get trucked!
hun jus tell them thanks but no thanks or if want to be blunt tell them to buzz off and the only advice i have fora pregnant woman is this
take all the advice but only use what u want
Just tell them nicely what you just wrote here. Tell them that, with your mother and mother-in-law, you're pretty much set for information, and if you needed to know something you'd look it up yourself.
You could also say the baby's your concern, please stop worrying about me.
Or if they give their opinion on something, and you don't think it's correct, try asking them where exactly they heard it, and if they're sure it's correct. That'll shut a few up.
BTW...congrats!
tell them that you must be hormaonal, but could they please wait to be asked in future befor passing comment, you are doing what you do because you got the ok from th Dr, tell them it is new studies and they have all been approved
start telling them what they should eat or do .. if they are fat tell them them to put the chocolate bar down and go for a run.. if they smoke nag them about that they will soon get the idea. tel the coffe drinker what it is doing to there teeth it could be quite fun
whoa your hormones are running wild, I just had a baby and I ran into the same problem, it sure got on my nerves, It's like hello? it's my body, It's my baby, leave me ALONE! I drank a small cup of coffee on the cold days to warm me up and my son is so beautiful and a very healthy and happy baby. I think it's part of the cons of being pregnant as if we don't have enough stuff to worry about already. all I can say is bite your tongue, not too hard though, :-) people really need to mind their own business and we'd all be happy! oh and a warmest congratulations to you, good luck!
Tell them just like you told us.
I got the message right away.
i would just tell them nicely that you think you have heard from everyone the way they think you should be doing in this pregnancy and you do not really think you need any more advice...tell them you appreciate their concern but it is not needed...
how do they know you shave your stomach, obviously you are talking to them about it. besides thats how people show thier support.grow up and get over it.
just tell them the same thing you just said.
I would tell them thank you for the concern but I have a doctor that advises me inregards to my pregnancy, there is a reason they do not have MD behind their name!
Cuss them out
I know exactly how you feel. I told my husbands family I was pregnant at 12 weeks and from that moment on they insisted on telling me how I could live until one day I looked at them in their face and said you want to tel me how I can do this or not do that why dont you carry the baby or me then you can do it your way. Everyone quickyl shut up and left me alone. Tell them you know what you can and cant do and you wont hurt the baby. I know its hard to stay calm thru it but do it nicely. Good Luck
Smile and say thank you, I heard you yesterday/last week. Or, make a list of people who have tried to give advise and when people come up to you, you can pull it out of your pocket and say, "would you like to be added to the list of people who know how to take care of my baby better than I do?" I know it's a bit direct but people will get the hint quickly.
Half of these people are probaly mothers or fathers, take it in stride. It is one of the "joys" of pregnancy. Everyone will tell you the "best" way, if it bothers you that much explain to them that it is your pregnancy and to please remember that and to keep it to themselves.
Don't retaliate, just take the comments in, and put them in your baby book of the worst advice you received and show them the baby book. I did that to my mother in law. Tell them that it's your new life into motherhood and you would like to have a peaceful memory and tell them that their comments are helpful, but not needed since you have it under control. Congrats on the pregnancy and soon new baby!
Jus b honest n tell them how you feeling when i was preg with my first child i literally wanted to kill everyone who spoke to me specially if they did not know me i mean what an invasion of my privacy. anyhow i also had problem with being nice to people at work and as soon as i got home was fine so i told them "look nothing personal but you really pissin me off at present" they were fine and knew it was my hormones. That lasted for the duration of my pregnancy and i'm still very good friends with them ( allhtough one girl did think about leaving).
so my advice would be to be honest
good luck
wow just com down there just jelious becuse they ant pregnant.
every thing will be alright
as long as you are not smoking or drinking alcohol
tell them to go you know where.
Good Luck with your BABY.
I totally know what you mean. I had a baby last April. I look A LOT younger than I really am, people think I am 18-19 and I am 27, so the comments and suggestions just wouldn't stop! People would say basically "I'm older I know best". I read everything I can get my eyes on, so I am very conscious of how to raise my child and was very perfect with my eating and everything when I was pregnant and people would still say stuff. You can't win.
I remember taking tea to a class I was taking and a woman said that I was hurting the baby from the caffeine in my coffee. I said "no, I am drinking decaf and it is TEA!"
Tell them studies show that the amount of coffee you would have to drink to have a substantial impact on your baby is like 8 cups a day or more.
I used to want to commit murder too, eventually it got to the point that I was so rude, so sarcastic, my face so red with anger, and told them all the research info I could find about how there suggestions were wrong or outdated that people just stopped.
It only gets worse when you have the baby. You will hear tons of info from years gone by like "Give the baby cereal in his bottle he will sleep better" or "you're spoiling him/her by holding them".
There will forever be people telling you what you should do. I just "glaze over" when I am getting unwanted advice. Just say "Thanks, but I am actually very informed and good at judging for myself what is best for us". Then turn the other cheek.
Good luck! and Congratulations!
Don't be too hard on them they are trying to look out for you. But in the end tell the thanks for the advice and do, say, go, or eat any way you want.
Just say that "my doctor said..." and fill in the blank with whatever you want. People usually (or at least they should) feel stupid contradiciting a doctor. You'll need that advice, too when you have the baby. I'm constantly saying "but my pediatrition said.". It sucks. It's endless. Or, if you get really pissed (as I did a few times) just jokingly say you are trying to see how much the baby can take - toughen him up. If you say it jokingly people get confused and don't know how to react and shut up. Works if you just can't take it anymore!!
Who knows maybe someone out there actually knows more than you do about pregnancy and childbirth. Amazing thought! Take the advice and do what you can to have a healthy baby.
These people are only saying these things with GOOD intentions because they care about you and your new baby. It's not like they are saying it to be mean to you. I think your hormones are probably running wild right now, and you're perception of things is probably off. It's not like they are calling you an idiot. But if they really are bothering you, just politely ask them to stop.
telll them this is my baby and i know what to do but thanx lol
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