Whats a good age to have kids?
I'm 18 and Laura will be in November and we are planning on getting married in the next 18 months, we are financially stable and we also want to start a family....we both know that we are ready for the commitment not only to eachother but to a child or children....and even though we're young we feel like now is the right time to do both of these but I am just wondering what everyone thinks about the right age to have kids and to get married is?? and be honest please..
we know we are ready I'm just asking this question to see what everyone thinks about this new time in our lives.
looking forward to reading some answers.
Mitch
Answer:
I'm 19 and I've been married for 7 months, and everything is just wonderful. I've never been happier in my whole life. My husband and I are wanting to start a family as well. I think if you believe that you are mature enough and financially secure, then go for it. Make sure that you want to spend the rest of your life with this person though. Marriage and children are not something to be taken lightly. This is a BIG responsibility. Some people mature quicker than others though, I know this firsthand. At least you'll have the energy to keep up with your children, and your soon to be wife will get her figure back quicker. It's good that you're gonna get married first. Where I live, it's like everyone wants to have babies with no marriage involved. That's disasterous. But yeah, I think if you think you're ready, there's no time better than the present.
If you feel it is the right time, then do it
That depends...do you want to kick them out in time for Retirement so you can travel the world with a walker or hover round...or do you want to wait till after you've had your sports cars and stuff when your 40 or older? That's up to you.
25-40.you need to be married for awhile first...it takes some getting used to, even if you've know the person for years...you need time for yourselves...
Dear Mitch & Laura,
My advice to you is wait. Get married. Get stable jobs and get used to being married. Then decide when it's time to have children. Waiting just a few years will make for a better home environment and increased maturity for you both.
Congratulations and best wishes.
financially stable. i'm guessing you look just like your avatar
when you feel that it is right and you feel you are ready then you are the right age some people it is 18/19/20 others it can be 30 when you are ready you will know
You guys should enjoy time with each other first for a while, its going to be tough after you guys have kids so enjoy yourselves first.
I got married when I was 20 and we are expecting our first baby- I am 22. I don't think there is a perfect age to get married or to have kids, I just think whenever a couple is married and financially & emotionally stable then it is ok.
Anytime you feel comfortable to have full responcibily of children, i would say that 20-21 good age to marry, and that 20-38 good age to have children.remember its up to you.good luck with your sweetheart and possibly children!
I always pictured myself having kids around 26+. That's after I have my bachelors, after I have a career started, after I have a wedding, and after I have a home set up with the things I want/need while still being financially stable. So maybe it will be at least 28. Who knows though. I can't predict my future. I always thought I'd put romance off until after college, but I got engaged at 19 and then broke up 4 months ago. I'll be 21 next month.
You never know what will happen!
I dont think ready equals an age. I think one needs to make sure they are ready to meet all the needs of the child cuz they can get pretty expensive. But if you feel that you are financailly stable enought to support them and you feel that the relationship is going to last long enough to support them as well then by all means go right ahead.
I had my children when I was in my early 20s and it was and has been great.I'm looking forward to grandbabys now and I'll still be young enough to go do all the silly things with them that I did w/my own kids.If your ready go for it.Having children will change your life,you'll love it.I did.Good luck with your new life;I wish you all the best.
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4rm wat io knoe i'm thinkin' 25 and older maybe after u settles down a figures out how much kids u might wat and all da' crazy bills u gonna' have
I think you should wait but if you're so in love then do it.
Seven.
I think the best time to have kids is between the ages of 20-30. Since the two of you are serious and have discussed the issue, I think you should go for it. But I would wait to have children until after you are married.
Here is a piece of advice...nothing can prepare you for marriage and for having children. It's good to have some knowledge of what you are getting into before hand. There will always be good and not so good times.
Good luck to you and god bless
YOU ARE CRAZY....DON'T SETTLE DOWN YET.WAIT UNTIL 22 TO AT LEAST GET MARRIED...I HAD MY FIRST & ONLY CHILD AT 24 2004 & GOT MARRIED TO HER FATHER SEPT 2006. WE HAVE BEEN TOGETHER GOING ON 6 YEARS IN APRIL. wHATS THE RUSH??TAKE YOUR TIME..ITS JUST A PEICE OF PAPER..STILL SOMETIMES I WISH I WOULD HAVE WAITED TO BE TIED DOWN SO SOON & I WAS ONLY 21 WHEN I STARTED GOING OUT WITH MY HUSBAND. tAKE SOME SERIOUS ALONE TIME TO THINK THIS THROUGH, TRUST ME BRINGING KIDS IN THE WORLD & ENDING UP IN A BROKEN HOME IS NOT FUN FOR ANYONE & THINK WHO IS GOING TO HAVE TO PAY CHILD SUPPORT OUT OF THEIR A.S.S. mY HSBAND WAS MARRIED BEFORE & HAS 10 YRD OLD & HAS TO PAY $500 A MONTH FOR HIM.WE BARELY GET BY...THINK TWICE
Be married for a while first.
You both sound very mature and ready but why rush!
Enjoy each other for at least a year before bringing a baby into the family.
Enjoy your "newlywed year"
If you are ready now and you feel that it is right ... then ... guess what ... it'll be right in a years' time too.
Enjoy each other
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There is no right age if you ask me! Kids are such a full on life changing, mind altering experiance! The right attitude irregardless of age is probally the most important thing here - and you seem to have that. The only suggestion i would make regarding having children, is if there is anything in particulair you guys would really like to do together in the way of travel etc, maybe try and fit that in first, because trust me, when they arrive, your whole world changes, as do your priorities. I always dreamt of getting married then having kids, however, i am now a mother of 2 boys, 1 stepson and another on the way, getting married in a couple of months, so things dont always go according to plan. Your commitment, health and happiness is the main issue for you guys, not anyone else's opinions or suggestions (including mine!) Being committed to one another and committed to your family is the main issue, which you cant have without honesty, if you have that, then you will conquer all the trials and tribulations along the way (cause we all get them, just some dont get through them). And with kids, remember to stop and laugh together and at one another every now and then :) All the best for the future and for the begining of a whole new life together.
Well, thats a hard question. I just had a baby when I was 27. I honestly look back and although I was a mature 18 year old, I really changed and matured a lot in those nine years. I have been with my husband since high school, we got married when I was 22 yrs, then had our daughter at 27. I am honestly glad that we waited, it took us 2 yrs to get pregnant so I feel like I would have been fine at 25 as well. My honest advice is to be married at least a few years. You have the rest of your lives together and you have plenty of time to start a family, enjoy yourselves together for awhile, grow and mature together. Having a baby is the absolute best thing in life, but it is life changing!!
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