Anybody else have had a adoption gone wrong?
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I am very sorry about that. Sounds like baby trafficking. You may not have been the only one and if you were there could have been others had she not been caught. What she did was wrong and that just infuriates me. I wish there were more ways to protect adoptive parents from those things happening. I want you to know that there are people who are not like that. My brother biological was one of them. We were looking at adoption as well but ended up pregnant before we went through the process (after 6 years.) so did not. We still plan on adopting when our child is older. I am very very sorry, but please know there ARE women out there who want what is best for their child and not all are like that. It does not make it very easy. I wish you all the best.
My god, that is dreadful, no helpful advice from me I am afraid, but my heart really does go out to you, the adoption process is a rocky road as it is without this to put you off.
Please don't give up hope, there is a baby out there just waiting for you, just believe it!
I don't have any advice, but I would like to say that I'm sorry that you had to go through that. It is so sad and unfair! I don't understand how someone could be that uncaring and do something so heartbreaking. I hope that you are able to get over this and that the next experience you have will end with you bringing home the wonderful baby you deserve.
i'm so sorry for you wrong doing. It is really hard for adopting parents too. my cousin went thought it too. I hope you have better luck next time ( you should try again) and it may take a while for the sting to go away. I would try a different way. there are babies over seas and more in the u.s. I can't tell you a different way for this but i know there are.
My ex-boss told me of her sister's experience. She said that something very similar happened to her twice. They were out a lot of money. You, on the other hand, got it back. Not that it is any consolation for your grief. You see, at the last second, the mothers decided to keep the children. In the end, she adopted from Guadamala from an orphanage and now has a beautiful little boy. He was abandoned so there was no one to contest this. Now, if you want to have an American adoption, you may go with an agency and request that only an abandoned baby be available to you to avoid potential hardships.
A friend of my sister's adopted a child from a young lady who had seven children. She had problems with the biological father demanding custody of this eighth child even though he could not afford the first seven. She was able to keep the child, but not without a legal battle. Now, these are scenerios. And they kept their children in the end, (the adoptive parents)
Hang in there. Do not be afraid to ask for what you want in these situations.
I truly hope this works out for you. I feel that it will in time. Good luck to you.
I'm sorry, I don't have any advice. I'm sorry for what happened. It's so terrible! Good luck though.
You may want to check what the laws concerning adoption are in your state and at the adoption agency. If there is nothing or the laws are vague you may want to write your state representative and see if you can get the laws changed (and get a lot of other people writing to them as well).
If the birth mother was in another state than that's federal law and you should write to your representative in Congress. Banking is regulated by federal laws.
Don't stay angry.WRITE and get something done about it. The more people are aware of the problem then more people who hopefully will get involved to solve it.
I so sorry. You should call the DA, she if she can be charge with fraud.
My brother and his wife was supposed to have a baby, the day they went to pick up the baby, the mom change her mind. My brother said it was like the miscarriages they went through. They need to morn there lost
What that lady did is awful.
Good luck
They go their child, about two years later.
I too, am a waiting parent, and I am so sorry for your loss, that is horrible. While your experience is unfortunate, you know it is part of the "gamble" or emotional rollercoaster we, as waiting parents have to possibly endure until our child is safely ours.
You have to think of it in the perspective that
The right child will come to you...
for whatever reason, this past child for you, was not meant to be. Try to remain patient *(I know! the hardest part!), and continue on your journey..you have not come all this way to give up now. You want to be parents, and you will be, you just have to remain on your course, and "trust" in the process.
I wish you well!
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