Was a abortion the right thing to do?
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i was in your situation and did the same thing stop second guessing your self you did what was right for the family you already have you can not talk away what you don't have to from the kids you already have what you did took strength and courage
dont let others make you feel guilty for thinking of your family first
I would say no you play you pay sorry sounds harsh but gp to abort73.com and you'll see why
no!!!!!! what if that happened to you
i am so sorry for u.that must of been a really hard desision.i am not going to judge you,you did what you thought was right,but f u are posting this queston,i dont think u think it was the right decision.
Having an abortion almost always leads you to question whether you did the right thing, and no one can actually tell you that...we are not walking in your shoes. If you and your husband taked this over and felt that it was all you could do under the present circumstances, then you both must live with that decision. THere may be a time in the future when things are more level for you financially and you can have another baby. Dont beat yourself up over this... you're going to be OK!
personally i would say no it wasnt the right thing, adoption is a much better choice. i am prolife, so would of course say anything is better than that. i do think that if you couldn't afford another child, it is bullshit that you took the life away from an innocent unborn child when so many families and couples would LOVE to have a little boy or girl. but cannot have them. so think that if you dont want or can't have the child in your life then you should at least allow those couples to have the chance to be parents. hell you can even still be involved (open adoption) and a lot of times will even pay for all the prenatal costs and hospital bills. plus give you some money as well
Honestly, what difference does it make now?
If everyone says it was the wrong thing to do, you can't really fix that now can you??
If you are struggling with dealing with your choice, I would suggest professional counseling...not FeelBaby.com.
well if you knew you could afford another one, and that it would have added extra stain to your marraige and family then it probably was the right thing to do. Don't listen to the people who just say go to this anti-abortion site and now feel bad about what yu have done. It's an indervidual choice. I think it's awful when I see these poor kids losing out on essentials in life becuase their parents can't provide for them. Maybe in future use some form of contraception..
just adding in here aswell - to those who have said to adopt the child out.do you have any idea how hard it would be to carry a child and give birth to it, and then give it up? why do you think the waiting lists are so long for adoption, women are emtional creatures, very few ae able to just hand a baby over and be emtionally ok with that. they did carry it for 9 months and already have a bond with the child.
I would think that an abortion would be more expensive, both emotionally and monetarily. IUD's are about $300 and they last from 5-12 yrs. Now you know. I can't tell you whether or not an abortion was right for you, you shouldn't be asking nameless strangers.
I was wondering if you have ever heard of this thing called "adoption." There are a ton of people in the world that would love to have a baby. It's beyond me why someone would abort a child - especially one made in the love of a marriage. Money isn't everything and you could have made it, it would have just taken more penny pinching, a tight budget, and maybe a little more work. But it IS possible - people without money and resources do it everyday. Get your tubes tied if you don't want anymore children.
no
If you did what was right by your heart then that should be your answer. Some regret and guilt is common but it should not overwhelm you.
What I think doesn't matter. Howver, if you made the right decision, you wouldn't even be asking this question.
No. Things have a way of working themselves out and that baby deserved a chance to live. I could never even imagine being married with 2 kids and then aborting my 3rd. This is your family. Its too late now to be asking if it was right or not. Your baby is gone.
I think what ever choice you have made is yours, you have to let it go if you are feeling guilty. Perhaps a better option would have been giving the baby up for adoption as there are many people who can not have kids who want them. This is not really for me to judge though. What's done is done so it's time to pick up and move forward.
The only thing that matters is if it was right for you. you are the only one that know the situation you were in. Don't ponder over it, Its done and over with now, you need to go on with your life. Its a hard thing to do but it was the right decisions for you.
"We women know when it is or is not the right time to bring a child into the world...We act out of compassion when we wait to have a child until the time when we can give it the kind of life every child deserves. We act out of love when we consider what we would be taking away from the child or children we already have if we brought another child into our family now...We women know the truth: That given certain circumstances, abortion is the most morally responsible and loving choice we can make."
http://www.beliefnet.com/story/120/story...
I know it is a tough call , but you know ,some good parents to be; that cannot have babies ,would have loved it. It's done now so lets concentrate on the ones you have and use protection till you are ready. Good Luck!
For all of you people who made rude comments you should be ASHAMED of yourselves. This woman had to make a truley tough decision and is looking towards you for guidance. I am prolife also but that is no reason or excuse to make rude remarks.
I don't personally know what you are going through, but my cousin had to have an abortion, and not because she didn't want the baby. She did want the baby, but carrying the baby posed many health risks for her. Her blood pressure rose to very high levels and she had to choose to abort the baby or continue carrying the baby and risk both of their lives in the end. Also, her and her husband weren't financially stable enough to bring a second child into the world. She had to make a really tough decision by aborting the baby. She was extremely sad about having to do it, but she knew that it was the right thing to do at the time. She now has 2 more beautiful children and had them at a time that was right for her.
I hope that this helps you.
What does it matter now?.. The baby is gone!!..Hope you can afford birth control.. and i don't mean using abortion as a birth control..
What u did was not only right for u but for the child.I know this is a answer people are against but I truely believe that not only your child would of suffered but your two children would of too. I have one child and I'm a single mom.It is hard and u want the best for your child. I wish more people would think about it before they have alot of kids they can't afford.Good luck to u
Sorry you just became a murder don`t matter the situation that is not a human thing to do !!!
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