Crying baby: to pick up or not?
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If its time 4 bottle give him d bottle if he wants to play give him attention but don't pick him up because he will want to be on you everytime he cries if he never stops crying pick him a bit up let him stop and put him back.
I always picked up my kids when they cried. sometimes they just want mommys attention. Babies have feelings but just don't know how to express them.
A newborn? just asking for attention?! You can never hold a baby too much in my opinion!! My sons are all older and I miss the holding them when I want...but a newborn NEEDS to be held and yes..letting them cry without checking on them isn't a good idea...but Letting them know that when they cry...you are still there..is what they need at that age!
Well i would check to see if the baby might me to hot or to cold, and check to see if its hungry or needs to be changed, try rocking the baby for about 5 min, if the baby is still crying then try to put the baby in its crib but watch it, and see if that will work, but that is true you do not want to get the baby used to being help everytime it crys.
Why wouldn't you pick up a baby that just wants attention? Imagine that baby being too busy to attend your 75th birthday party because he learned form early on not to get too close to you.
I always picked up my newborn. You can't tell if they are hurting or not with out picking them up to see what is going on. Now when they get a little old that is different.
First of all a baby cries when it needs something. It is the parents job to fulfill that need. Yes, sometimes that need is for attention. Please explain to me why it is wrong to provide attention to a baby who needs it? It is ridiculous to ignore a crying infant. It is ridiculous, neglectful and cruel.
Second, this is not new. I remember having a similar discussion in a child psychology class that I took almost 10 years ago. Ignoring a baby when it cries leads to that child have trust and bonding issues. This is not new evidence. Plus, it is common sense.
Also, studies have shown that a baby who is attended to and PICKED UP when it needs attention is less likely to be clingy. Why? Because that child is secure. That child knows he/she will be attended to. The clingy children that always want to be picked up are the ones who are usually NOT picked up or whos parents are so inconsistent that they never know if their needs will be met or not.
stick to a schedule, babies will cry for a reason, not just because they're crazy. And I mean newborns, after 11 months...believe me they know if they cry you will be there to pick them up (mother of one) etc, they are very smart babies. With newborns, you know they will cry either for hunger, wet diaper, colic or disconfort, if you stick to feed them and then burp them and change the diaper all at the same time and do this every 3 hours or 4 depending how much formula he takes, you will learn to know what is bother him. Worked for me!!
A baby can't ask for attention...they simply need it. It's part of their make-up. If you feel it is time for your child to learn to self-soothe never let them cry for more than 20 minutes at a time and then only when it is actually bedtime for them. Other than that, I would recommend trying the child out in various places. Tummy time on the floor, put them in a swing, put them in an infant bouncer seat situated so that they can see you, if old enough, standing in an exersaucer. I remember rotating my son through various activities throughout the day. Because he actually didn't tolerate being held very well (he was a preemie) but he would fuss if left doing any one thing to long. So he would watch the mobile in his crib, watch the ceiling fan from the floor in the living room, sit in his bouncy seat and watch me work.
Honestly though, I strapped my other child to my body because it was truly the ONLY way that she was happy. On an encouraging note though, both of my children are very independent now. By giving them the attention they needed, when they needed it and how they needed it, allowed them to become confident in being separate from me as well.
It's a freakin BABY. They need LOVE. They cry for the parents. This is the time to shape them emotionally for the remainder of their life. Show them that people can be trusted, by holding them close when they are upset.
If your newborn constantly cries, get over your own non-patience issues, (I know all that crying is frustrating) buy a baby sling, and wear the baby. It's called kangarooing. Good luck! :)
That is ur child, why would u even hesitate to pick her/ him up if they crying. I wish people would stop reading all the bs books from doctors and psycologist that suggest to do this and that, how about having ur own mind and do what is in ur heart...What do u think our great grand parents & great, great grand parents?
a newborn to an 8 month old and theres no obvious problem (not hungry, dirty diaper, etc) - id wait about 5 minutes but really no more than that
older baby- tell em to walk it off. seriously
I am going to yell at you...PICK THAT BABY UP! Hold that baby and love him/her. It is not going to spoil him/her. They need that love. I didn't put mine down for about a year!! Love that child, it will be good for you, too!
You should pick the baby up. Babies cry to COMMUNICATE and NOT to manipulate. At this age, being held or wanting attention is a real true NEED for some babies. Nothing at all wrong with it. Responding to them creates strongly attached, secure and confident children.
just pick up the baby.
We are having the same problem. When hes not being held he cry. When hes being held he stops. I'M sorry, but I just cant be there 24/7 to hold my baby. I agree that you can not spoil a baby because they need lots of attention and love yes, but they DO know the difference! You can tell if your baby is like freaking out while hes crying and loosing his breath, that he really does need attention and needs to be held. If hes just sitting there winning and crying than stopping until he realizes that hes stopped and starts again, than just leave him for a few. Good luck its a endless battle.
Why wouldn't you pick up a baby that wants attention? Sorry, I picked my daughter up when she cried, every single time! Whether she was scared, had gas, hungry, wet or just wanted my attention. Why have a baby if you don't want to give it attention. Plus, yeah all sorts of new research links hernias, acid reflux and brain swelling is sever cases. So, you go ahead and ignore your baby when you feel like it. Hope someone else loves that baby
pick the kid up! my god what are you neglegtful? I mean hell ts a BABY they HAVE to HAVE attention. The NEED attention. I pick my son up when he crys and he doesnt sleep in our bed. he sleeps in his own bed. he also sleeps through the night. and hes 5 months old. has slept through the night since he was two month old. just dont hold him 24/7 and dont allow other people to do it either. when he's calm and happy let him play on a blanket in the floor or swing in his swing. dont take him to bed with you, put him in his own bed and for gods sake, pay attention to him. thats how he learns.
A lot of people seem to be answering this question by saying: "you should ALWAYS pick up a baby that's crying." I disagree. I think it depends on the baby and on the situation. What's right for one parent is not necessarily right for all parents. Take that into consideration when reviewing all these answers. What's right for you is really up to you and your baby, and in some cases, your pediatrician, to decide.
If your baby has been recently fed, has a clean diaper (napkin in the UK), has not just taken a tumble or bumped into something, and has been played with and held so much that your ams are ready to fall off, let your baby cry a bit. If it lasts longer than a few minutes, or if it's a cry that suggests something else is wrong, then certainly attend to your baby.
If you continually pick up your baby at the first sign of tears, that's fine too... most first-time parents do, but by the second or third child, you'll know that sometimes it's more important to let your baby cry it out, as hard as that may be for you.
You can't "spoil" a baby under 6 months old, so pick the poor baby up!! They benefit from close contact and close relationship with their parents mentally and physically.
After that, I'd say use discretion. They usually cry for a reason after 6 months. Are they wet, hungry, hurt, throwing a tantrum?
The doc told me they don't understand discipline til 18 months, though.
of course!
I held my babies all the time, I'll tell you, people say you will spoil them? heck NO! they are only small once, they are only 1 one time, and 2 one time, and 3 one time, and so on, then when they get about 5 you will not be able to hold them anymore, I say LOVE your babies while they are still little, there will come a time that you wish you had.
remember life goes by so fast, enjoy the moment NOW!
my babies are going to college, and I can say with a smile I loved them, carried them, even slept with them, I was a very young mother, but I kept my babies close to me, and it gave them security.
don't let some do'dos tell you different! because when your baby is all grown and moves out of the house, you will never have those 'close' moment memories!
why not give your baby attention? whats wrong with that?
when they are 20 it will be you wanting the attention, then what?
Until my children hit treir three month mark and I could easily distinguish between their cries I always picked them up when they were upset. I now have a 2 1/2 yr old and a 1 yr old who both go to sleep on their own at the same time during the day and at bedtime they are great.
If you spoil them when they are really young they develop a better sense of security and are able to be alone and happy because they know that when something is really wrong mommy will be there.
I would pick them up! Crying is the only way a baby can communicate and you can't spoil a baby with love.
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