If your child got STRAIGHT F's again and..?
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Depends on the age. I would take away everything important to him. Then I would enroll him in tutoring. Hopefully he won't like this and prove to you that he doesn't need it. If he is failing because of laziness it might work. If he is failing because he has a problem, they might be able to identify the problem and help him. I WOULD NOT reward him in any way. Good luck.
Umm, how about sit down and teach him something? Forget shopping.
I wouldn't do anything. His school work is HIS responsiblity, not mine. I already did my time in school.
no, i wouldn't buy them anything because they don't deserve anything. i would take away somethings though. video game time, time with friends, whatever it takes. obviously they don't have enough time to spend on their studies, so if you take away everything fun that they do, they will have the time. also i would talk to the teacher about what they think the problem is and ask them to give it to your straight.
I would take everythinhg out of his room but a pillow and blanket and tell him. This is how you are going to be living if you keep getting F's in school! And make him earn his stuff back.!
Well he definitely would not get rewarded for the Fs. I would not take away the new shoes b/c he is going to need them to go to a tutor and to school on Saturdays until his grades come up. Maybe he has ADD and needs meds, straight Fs is pretty bad, talk to school counselors and teachers, good luck.
I apologise for the other YA person's snotty answer. Most of us on YA are very nice people.
I would have a conference with his teacher. He may have a learning problem and would need to be placed in a special education class. I would not take away clothing and shoes but I sure as heck wouldn't allow him the use of any video game and I would take television away from him until classwork improved. My parents grounded me for having a C which is way too severe but straight Fs deserve grounding.
You should definitely not reward him in any way shape or form. Go to the school and ask that you get all of his homework information from the teachers. Make him sit in his room until he finishes the assignment for the day. And he can't come out unless he's done. Check if over to see if he's actually doing it or not. If you are a rewarding type of person the rewards would come after the homework is complete and correct.
Your kid needs help go get him help and see why he can not learn do not award him for not doing good. He need help how is he going to get alone in this world with out getting tru school.Good luck
If you consistantly find your child failing you should- Punish.
NOT phsically,this will teach your child to be abusive and/or become a bully to his classmates and possibliy children.
I have always punished by taking away cell phone, post-poning allowance. I have taken away computer privilages. I have also taken away the home phone privileges.
YOu need to take away things that your child uses most often and finds to be a great need. You also just need to talk to your child about this, not yell. Maybe get him a place to write down his homework and test dates and have his teachers sign it.
Depending on how old the child is, either grounding or revocation of privileges (no TV, video games, etc) would be a start. Sit down with him and make sure he understands that he needs to do better if he wants to pass the grade. How would he feel if he was held back a year and all his friends were in another class?
Talk to him. What is going on.? Not shopping though. Also communicate with the teacher. Is he lazy or is he really having trouble? See what the solution could be and go from there. And stay on top of him, our daughters grades dropped, so we started "babysitting" everything she did to make sure things got handed in and that she did what she was supposed to. We also talk to the teacher at least every other day even if by e mail.
I would have him tested for drug usage. He could be depressed or ADHD or just plain oppositional. This is why you may need professional help. I do not see the connection between bad grades and clothes. However, if he needs clothes I would take him to good will. It may be more appropriate to have him to school work as soon as he gets home from school and take away TV, Computer, video game, etc,until school work is done. I would also get his teacher and school social worker involved.
Id take away his life, television, phone friends, money, everything that brought him pleasure, make him do chores, wash the dishes wash the car, do all the laundry, and on the weekends make him do the yard and id take him to work with me, and make him earn his priveleges back, id even take the door off of his bedroom and steal his privacy that really works,and until his next report card came out, this is how it would be, he can watch whatever you are watching, and mandatory homework every night and check it afterwards, do not give in, you are the adult and you make the rules here NOT him, thats whats wrong with these children no one is firm like our parents were,everyone is afraid of dcf well screw that i Will spank my child like my father did with me, and if the little brat says im calling, i will help them pack, and give-em a dose of what crazy looks like, have ya ever seen foster parents, my god what a bunch of retards, good luck my friend i hope that you follow my lead, i had a similar problem but not so severe, my child is in honors everything and let hers slip to d's i did what i told you and wham straight A's
I feel that he must be disciplined. If it means taking something away that means so much to him do that. Also re-inforce how important it is for him to make good grades. you get involved...don't know how involve you are right now...but get more involved. check his homework every night. go to the school and tell the instructors there to call you directly when they are having problems with him. or you call the school each day to ask the teacher if he has homework.
next, talk to him and see what's really going on with him. he could actually be dealing with some serious issues that you may not be aware of. are you paying attention to him(not to offend you but he may be demanding more of your attention...especially if you are a working mom and most your time is going to work. be active with him. if he has all F's, I'm sure there is something going on that needs immediate attention. he could be having a hard time understanding and don't want to try because for some reason he feels he can't grasp the concept. Just do all that you can to help your son because he can only go through elementary, Jr. and high school once. if he goes through those yrs having a hard time and never gets help, that's just time wasted. and what's after that? he'll be too intimidated to go to college then.
Everybody has a job. When you're a kid, your job is school. If you're a grown-up, you have a career. Now, if a grown-up doesn't do his/her job, he/she doesn't get paid. If a kid doesn't do his job and fails all of his classes, he doesn't get "paid".
No, I would not buy him new pants, shoes would go away, and all activities (including phone rights) are curtailed until he starts doing his job at school.
With no education, your son has the following options as an adult:
- Cleaning crappers
- Flipping burgers
- Jail (because the illegal "jobs" will get you there eventually)
Get help for him (and yourself, as your situation sounds very stressful). Is it his so-call friends that are causing him to fail his classes? Does he have a learning disability? Get to the root of the problem and best of luck to both of you.
I would have to figure out why this was happening. Maybe the school work is too hard for him and causes him frustration and that is why he is acting up and failing. Maybe, the school work is too easy and he is bored and that is why he is acting up and failing.
The grade he is in depends a lot too. Little boys especially have a lot of energy and it is hard for them to sit still in a classroom. This is developmental, lately lots of people want to label all children like this as having ADD, but this is not the case. These children simply need a way to expend their excess energy. I would take the money that you were going to use for new shoes and put him in some sports programs, or karate (teaches disipline and self control) Something that will involve him physically. Yet is also structured. I would also use that money to invest in a tutor. This way you can find if everything is just too hard for him and he is not understanding what is going on, or if everything is too easy and he is just not being challenged.
As far as buying him gifts or anything like that, why would you do that? Unless he needs new shoes and new pants, he shouldn't get ANYTHING at all, until the grades and the behavior improves.
What has he done to deserve such nice things? The only things that he should get right now are things that will help him, and a way to make him understand how important it is to have goals and to do well in school, and how the choices he makes right now will affect his future.
Good luck to you.
I think it really depends on why he's failing. If it's because he's distracted, then take away video games/TV/toys until he starts doing better. If it's because he just doesn't understand, help him with his homework or hire a teacher. If he's just not doing it, have his teacher sign a homework planner or something every day. Also, check his grades online or, if that's not available, ask his teacher for a weekly progress report, and go over every homework assignment he did badly on. However, it's important to use positive reinforcement as well. If he gets an A on a test, give him twenty more minutes of TV time or something similar.
If my child got straight F's, I would blame myself for it for not being a part of my childs life. With that said, I don't have any kids but I do have nieces and cousins. All of them make A's B's and C's. My niece made a D several times because she didn't understand the subject so I took time out of my day to help her (social studies). I not only helped her, but I also explained why each of these subjects are important in life. Why is world history important? Short answer: To make sure the mistakes that happened in the past don't happen in the present/future, Why is Geography important? Short answer: To learn about different cultures and different views from around the world, etc.
When they sense that you like something (especially if they look up to you), they'll follow suit and it'll be that much easier for them to strive to get an education. When they mess up on purpose on the other hand, then a punishment has to be layed down to show them you will not tolerate it. No allowance, no electronics, no sugar, or they can't go over a friends house. My sister actually took my nieces stereo, computer, television, cell phone, and videogames out of her room for a week because she was interrupting classes. Try that.
Why would you even think about rewarding your child for these grades? However the real question is. It took him nine weeks/quarter in school to get these F's. Have you spoken to him during this time about his grades? Or have you contacted any teacher to see how your child is doing? That is part of being the parent.
I would put the belt to his butt so he can know I mean business.no new shoes.no new pants. until I see improvement in his work.Than he will know your not playing games with him.
Have you met with the teacher(s)? Ask for a weekly update of his work completion, grades, participation, behavior. When parents and teachers are on the same page, kids have a harder time getting into trouble. I also agree with the other responses - no mall, no video games, etc. Kids only see school as important if YOU see it as important.
I certainly would not thumbs down on that question. It is obvious you need help. I don't think right now is the time for new clothes unless he is desperate for something to wear. I would take computer, TV, and those things away until he started to prove he wanted to do better. I'd start using that time to sit down with him and find out where his problems are. I'd work with him and see if he couldn't get the work or if he was ADD had other problems. I'd say the school needed to be checking why he was failing. Naturally if he can't get the work he is going to act out to get attention.Gradually give hm back TV and other things as you see
effort. I'm sure there is a reason for that behavior.
DO NOT REWARD him. Take him to the docs and get referrals to see someone and also get his hearing checked and his eyes site and then find some one who is strike and get them to tutor him also talk to his teacher to see if they have any ideas that might help. I know exactly how you feel, my son is the same. It is hard, very hard but stick to your guns and stand up for your self.
Sometimes, school is not for everyone and can be either really easy for some kids or really difficult. Maybe he has a learning problem? Talk to him-- ask him how he's doing in school etc. (everyday chatter), if he likes his teacher, if he has any friends etc. Go and speak to his teacher and see what he/she has to say. No shopping for him... the next time he gets another F all he'll think about is getting new pants again. GOOD LUCK!! :-)
sit down with him and ask why he got the bad grades or set up a meeting with the teacher and see what happened
take away all his privilages cause making straight Fs does not need to be rewarded ground him for about 2 weeks no tv no computer then after the 2 weeks give him limited time on the tv and computer this will somewhat teach him that it is not ok to make Fs and tell them that you will get a reward ( go somewhere special ) if he gets those grades up
Again? If my childs got straight F's...that would NEVER happen again.
The boy's room would get emptied out: no toys, books, games, etc. He would be on strict restriction and spend hours writing essays attempting to persuade his teachers to accept make-up work to positively impact his grades.
He woulds get an attitude adjustment and private tutoring (by me), until he acts like he has enough sense to be trusted.
If a child gets straight F's, there is definitely something wrong with his parents. You can't blame all that on the child.
Don't reward the child for bad behavior, I would take privelages away and for the child to get them back they have to prove that they deserve them.
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