Parenting help please!?
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Man, I don't envy you! That being said..you know that if you ban ANYTHING to a pre-teen, you might as well just give her the house, credit cards, etc.so that she can torture you even further! LOL. (or become sneaky)... Let her know that although you respect her independent spirit and fashion sense, she has outgrown her clothing and suggest a trip to the mall where she could find something that fits more flattering to her frame. Also request that if she insists upon listening to explicit rap music, that she obtain the clean version of the songs she fancies...compromise is much easier for teens to adhere to then out and out banishment! Unfortunately, you have to compromise a little too.
I wouldn't be TOO concerned at this point. She is still involved with girl scouts and you seem to like her friends and her popularity status. I like alot of my sons music (it grows on ya after a while)and when he started to wear his jeans around his knees (ughhh.really dislike THAT look!!), we worked it out. I know it would have been different if we didn't discuss it rationally (and yes),,respectively! Shoot, after all, I used to drive my parents nuts with blaring Pink Floyd and Aerosmith (not to mention miniskirts and hip huggers.) Payback is a b*tch sometimes! LOL
Good Luck and Hang in there!!
Yes! She is rebelling at a very young age. You should give her a more appropriately aged wardrobe.
Well, you and your husband are the parents here. I know that you know that. I can only tell you that my husband and myself would not allow our daughters to dress in that manner. Just, take the clothes and the cd's away. That's what we did. Explain that it's inappropriate and why you don't like it. Tell her that she doesn't have to dress provocatively in order to get boys to notice her. Tell her that you don't approve of the rap music that she is listening to. If she can't listen to rap without the explicit lyrics, then she doesn't listen to it all. Take the cd player away if she doesn't comply. It is important that you let her know that you mean business. Stick to your guns. Do not lose this battle. If you do, you will have a hard time controlling her from other issues down the road. It's your house, your rules...Tell her that. And, make sure you assure her that you love her very much. Good Luck
You should sit down and talk to her about her "rebelling" and tell her how you feel about her dressing up all "rapper" maybe she will listen and stop listening to all the R rated rap songs and stop dressing inapropiately for her age. Glad to help good luck!
Would you rather her wear pretty pink dresses and conform to how the majority of society wants her to be?
So she's 11? Enough said. Is she breaking any laws? Is she having sex? Is she being disrespectful to authority figures? If the answer is no to all of them, then what's to worry about? If she likes rap music she likes rap music. Let me ask you this. How are her grades in school? If she gets decent grades and isn't a trouble maker, what's the harm in letting her have some independence and her own style? She's not "crying out for attention". If she DOES start getting in trouble, being disrespectful, ect, then you should start to think of some punishment and restrictions. But for now just let her have some fun being a preteen!
No but I'd talk to her about at least wearing longer skirts. theres nothing wrong with rap if you ask me I like it but she should still respect her body and cover some of it up!
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