How do you handle a teacher that picks at a child?
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I am a recently retired elem teacher and following the "chain of command is necessary. First of all, if you can or have someone go to school with the child, if the child is young, or have witnesses to what is going on so you have a leg to stand on. Then make an appt to talk with the teacher and try to go in neutral so you can hear both sides. If you are not satisfied, make an appt to meet with both the principal and the teacher and hopefully the student. Work with the system. Principals will often defend their teachers because they are so often attacked with lies because parents believe every word that comes out of their child's mouth or at least the interpretation the child has. Yes, there are problems and problem teachers and they should be dealt with, but entering angry won't get you far.
I would go to the principal, and maybe you could both talk to the teacher one on one. If nothing changes I would suggest to the school that they should let the teacher go.
First make sure it is happening, absolutely without a doubt is not a situation of the child exaggerating, then have a talk with the teacher. Then have a talk with the Principal, if you have to. Go to the school board if it escalates. Seems like there's a whole lot of angry teachers these days.
Yikes. I've been there. Not with my kids (mine's only 2!), but myself. I was in high school when I had a teacher seriously pick at me all the time and go out of her way to embarrass my in front of the class. I wish my parents wouldn't have just dismissed it like it was my fault, or like she wasn't really doing it. I look back on it with disappointment that they didn't really help and that I dealth with it with back-talk and rudeness and ended up getting suspended for it. Not the best way to deal with it, but as a 17 year old, I didn't care - no one else was on my side, so I felt I had to stick up for myself. I hope that in your case, you are on your child's side and can help him/her deal with it in a better way than I did.
You should first talk to the teacher, very pleasantly explain your concerns, don't attack ..if this doesn't work the principle is your next step, once again, explain your concerns, this should do it if the teacher chooses to ignore you.
Report it...unless your child is giving her a reason then it is called discrimination...you could sue her/him...make sure your child is telling the truth and listen to both stories. Good luck...it is sad that everyone cant be treated equally in the school these days...
Request a meeting with the teacher and express your concerns that the child feels picked on. Nine times out of ten this will end the problem.
If the child continues to complain - have a meeting with the principal and the teacher. Keep a log of specific complaints and do bring them - and take notes as well. You don't want to sound like you are taking your child's side automatically but that you are concerned as to why the child feels that way. "I'm having difficulty understanding why little Johnny would feel that Mrs. So and So treats him differently that she does the other children...can you help me to understand that?" That way you put the problem squarely in their lap. Make it clear that you will continue to pursue the matter as far as you have to until you are satisfied.
I had a teacher that made my life a living hell in 4th grade - I remember her to this day and made a vow I would never let a teacher do that to my children. Good luck.
As I teacher myself, I am a little appauled that a teacher would actually pick on a child.. in my experience....sorry but you aren't gonna want to hear this,,,,,,,,, it is usually something in particular that the child is doing while at school.... I am a mom and a teacher, and I can tell, if the teacher says my kids are misbehaving or not working properly, I listen! Sometimes it can be hard to find out bad things about your kids, but in the long run, your child may benefit from you actually listening to what the teacher is saying.
I think you do need to talk to the teacher, counselor, and principle about this. I use to have a teacher judge and choose favorites in High school and she would grade those papers according to her feelings upon that person. One time I had to write a poem about myself and I was so proud of the work I had done I read it to everyone.I was sure I was going to make an A and sure enough I received like a 50 and I was devastated and did not ever try in her class again b/c I new I would fail no matter what. I ended up passing but not by much. She even try to average my grade at the end of the semester to a 69 and not pass me so I couldn't graduate, but my boyfriend now husband calculated each grade himself and brought to her attention that my average should have been 72 not 69, and she had no choice but to change it. So most definitely bring it up to her managers.
I was picked on as a kid by a teacher in grade school and my parents did not believe me. My sister many years later after I was grown was being picked on by a teacher( my sister was not a very intelligent teenager mainly my parents fault) that called her a dummy all the time. We were in her line at a store, the teacher's second job, and she called her a dummy,we had her removed from that class and later the same teacher caused so much trouble she was fired.
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