My 7 yr. old step-son has no respect for women. What should I do?
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Even though you're not saying anything, he may be sensing the hostility with his mom. My parent was an addict, and she was never there, but I was explained to that my mom was sick and couldn't always be there. When i was a young child it did make it easier.
Don't tell him his mom is coming to get him if she tells you she is, until you are certain she is. I would reconsider visitation with her if she is in fact a drug addict. I would only do supervised visits. Why not invite her to your house where you can watch her and he can feel comfortable. It will give you a chance to see how she interacts with him, and more about what she's doing in her personal life. Also you don't have to worry about what she's doing with him when she takes him out of the house. I would be super concerned about where she's taking him if she is in fact a drug addict. He may need some attention from dad too. He just needs to be held a little tighter, and not sense the stress about his mom.
If his mom fights it, talk to your lawyer, and tell him that there's a concern that the mom is an addict, and don't feel like the child is safe with her, and supervised visits may be better, whether its in your home or somewhere else. Also the dad should be dealing with her, and the boy, and the whole situation, not because you're doing something wrong not at all apparently you care enough to ask. It's because the mom may feel threatened and may become more difficult when another woman not his mother is involved, that all depends on your relationship of course.
he has no respect because his mother shows him no respect, you need to supervise any time they do spend together, or your husband, and treat him well, explain to him his mother has a problem she is too weak to deal with herself, get him to help you with the two sisters, do things together, parks, movies chuckecheese,whatever they can all do together, also let the church help. good luck to you
He has no respect for women unfortunatley because of his feelings for his own mother. He is so frustrated with her that he takes it out on all females, please get him some help or this will carry on into adult life. poor little guy, so confused
I had this problem with my 8 year old son. Please know some of this is his age. Girls are icky. lol BUT if it's more serious than that I'd sit him down and have a good yet firm talk to him.
This is what I did: [my son was 7 at the time-maybe 6]
I printed up pages from the web that described truly strong and very intelligent women. Madame Curie, Anne Frank [although we didn't go into her whole story], Susan B. Anthony and many others. He read these and I sat there while he was reading to answer any questions and to ask him what he thought about them.
My son and I were living in a domestic violence situation for the first two years of his life. I think that contributed to his feelings. So I discussed that with him [he was 8 by then] and told him how bad it made me feel and how it makes me feel to hear him say things negativly towards women. He got the message, he hasn't done it since and that was last summer.
Also I would make sure he sees you as a strong woman [I'm sure you are setting a MUCH better example than his "mother"]. Continue to be strong.
This isn't a matter that will be fixed in a day or two. He has some serious anger issues due to his mother's behaviour. Maybe some counseling would be in order. This child has been screwed over by his mother and unfortantly he knows it. It's probably very painful for him. At seven years old he doesn't have the control or maturity to express himself properly. He just knows it hurts and it's a womans fault. As he grows older he could have REAL trouble with this. He honestly needs help. He's acting up because he's got a lot of pain in him.
I commend you for being there for him. I know how hard that is. I've been there. Good luck to you!
His anger at women has nothing to do with you. Its his anger at his mother that is causing the problem. Just keep showing him you love him with discipline and caring. He knows he is acting out and expects to be disciplined. You really didnt show any reasons for saying he disrespects women only that he is acting out which I would think is normal considering his background.
There's not much that YOU can do...WHAT is his FATHER doing?
Well it's obvious that he has no respect for women because of his mother. He just assumes that all women are like that because of what he has seen from his mom. Just talk to him and try to find the route of all this misbehavior. It could be something at school, or it could be something at home. He might feel unhappy that you and his dad are together regardless of what his mom does.
Just give him the love you and your husband always have and persevere through this rough patch.
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