What will bring my ungratefull child to his sences??
Answer:
A good swat across his butt. And less of everything he desires.
Try not giving into everything he wants and making sure there's rules and consequences for breaking those rules.
make him volunteer at a homeless shelter. That will straighten him up. He will be grateful for what he has.
My son got everything under the sun for christmas and was still not satisfied. So i got him dress and took him to a soup kitchen at a local church and made him serve the poor. He needed a major reality check of how good he had it.
He needs boundaries. Plain and simple. My neice, who is 17, is like that, she steals from her parents, etc. But, My sister refuses to set boundaries, if you steal your grounded etc. Make simple rules and when they are broken, there are consequences to pay, and be consistent with it.
Having everything I might desire would lead me to getting myself in trouble sooner or later. I would have nothing to work for, nothing to earn, and to much time on my hands. I'm 44 and that holds true, I'm guessing it would hold true for kids as well.
im an insane nut. does he have a ps3? if he doesnt then he doesnt have "everything" . itll keep him so busy you wont even see the kid. he probably hates sharing with his siblings so make sure they have there own rooms and there own stuff.
you may have answered your own question in the details without even realizing it.
sometimes we need to say "no" to our kids and make sure they understand who is the parent and who is the child. they need to understand respect and that life isn't handed to them on a silver platter.
you said he has everything that he might desire. that's no good. there needs to be things that he wants and desires so he learns how to EARN what he wants in life. if my mom bought me a barbie everytime i wanted one when i was a kid, then i would have never learned how much $13 for a barbie really was! i wouldn't have learned that i needed to help set the table, clean my room, clean up dishes, clean up dog poop in the yard.in order to get my allowance which would result in saving for a barbie.
i have a really good work ethic as an adult and i thank my parents for showing me how to be a good person and an upstanding citizen.
my parents weren't always fun and games, that's not a parent's job, it's only a fraction of it.
parents need to really dig in and teach their kids.
so, whatever is going on with your kid.start combating it by putting some fear into him, stop giving him everything and stop trying to be a friend and be a parent.
take care.
My first was very rebellious and she finally came around after she graduated and found out everything doesn't come free.
#1 take everything away drivers license, computer, telephone, if you have a hard time keeping them home. Call the police. Get help for your child before he or she really gets hurt or does something really bad to someone else or something terrible happens to him. Throw denial right out the window. If you think it is that serious don't let it go on any longer. Yes you do have the authority for your childs' future. Good luck!! He or she will not be happy with what you decide but in the future your child will thank you for it. Today my daughter is a manager at a large grocery store and we are best friends. In fact she thanked me for giving tough love. At least I cared enough to know where she was and who she was with. Alot of parents don't take the time or care. It sounds like you are one of the good ones.
Take away everything but the basics (shelter, food, clothes) and make him earn it all back. Love goes a long way and stability is key. Giving in to all his needs and wants is only hurting him (and probably others in your family). If that doesn't work, let him fall on his face and learn from his mistakes, consequences are prevelant in all things and if he doesn't get to face them he'll never understand he has anything to be greatful for.
Stop giving him everything he might desire.make him work for it. Discipline him when his behaviour isn't acceptable.
He only does this now, because he's obviously gotten away with it thus far.
Make him live with only what he needs for a little while, until you both can't sstand it anymore, People who are used to getting everything they want tend to only want more.
even though he has gotten everything he's ever wanted, has he been able to open up with you and talk to you and your husband?...sometimes a child will act out because he feels like he's not getting the attention he wants or feels he should have...if he's the oldest of 4, he may feel that the younger children get your attention, the oldest maybe is old enough and able to talk to his friends about things, whereas he may feel left out.my son was in a divorced situation and he would come home angry all the time from his dads and he would keep all the anger bottled up until he came back home to me (even though i gave him what i thought was more love than i could stand), i put him in counseling and he was able to express his opinions there (he has a sister 4 years younger)...now he openly expresses his opinions in other ways than anger...hope this helps
One thing I learned from my mom was this.She raised my sisters kid and she loved him so much.My mom had a great house,money.She gave him love and everything he wanted.She went to his basball games and attended all his school functions something I don't think she did for any of us.Though I loved him just like a brother.Well he turned out so bad.He talked back,swore at her and then eventually he got into trouble.(My kids) I give them chores and teach them responsibility!But most importantly I tell them I love them 100 times a day.They can take that with them where ever they go.
l He needs some lessons in respect for others as well as self respect.Take away the things he wants but ensure he has what he needs.An ungrateful person appreciates nothing.Make him earn back those things he wants or let him buy his own.Tell him that there is a lot of things you may want but cannot have just because you want it. Set parameters of behaviour and expectations and enforce consequences and/or rewards.As others have suggested take him to a soup kitchen and have him "volunteer" for a day.Remind him he at least has a choice whether he eats there tomorrow, so many people do not have that choice.If he drives your car, take it away and let him all or take the bus.Driving is a privilege that should be reserved for when he realizes it is a privilege.Make him earn his allowance or get a part time job.Let him know that school is also a priority.
stable and loving does not equal well behaved. kids needs a balance of love and discipline. sounds like you home may be light on the discipline side. I recommend a book called "how to behave so your children will too" It speaks about consistency in discipline and being firm with you kids but also about praising them when they behave well in order to reinforce the good behavior. This has worked well for us. My kids are no angels but I find that they behave so much better when we are consistent with them. like all things in like there are ups and downs but this has helped us a lot.
"Has got everything he might desire" There's your problem right there.
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