My 5 year old says that another child is chasing him and trying to push him in the playground what shall i do?
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I would talk to the kid. Just to scare the kid a little bit!
Lol. I think you should butt out. This is what children do, and unless your child is physically abused on the play ground and ganged up on, getting pushed around and having spats with class mates is part of growing socially.
Let him sort it out as much as possible on his own. Its hard when youre mom, but take it in stride.
if it doesn't stop then i would take to the principal about this. if that still doesn't help then i would talk to the superintendent and if that still doesn't help then i would threaten to sue. no child deserves to be treated this way. hope this helps. good luck.
I would give it some time and see how things go. Make sure to listen if he brings it up.
As long as he is not bruised or showing physical harm, I would give the school time to deal with it.
But if it is still going on in a few weeks, I would approach the school about having a meeting with the teacher and the other child's parent(s).
Speak to the school again.
If they still don't do anything about it, then you have the right to report it to the school's governors. Also speak to the child's mother about it when this happens.
I would ask to visit the school at recess time. That is the most effective way. The bully will try to wait til the teacher isn't looking, and they can be told 100 times, be nice, don't chase little billy, whatever, but they will still try to get away with it. Until: the actual parent of the child happens to be on the playground that day, and you will see it so much more easily than the teacher who is distracted by watching 100 other children. Then you go up to the bully and say, hey look, stop that, and they will be afraid, and leave your son alone.
speak to the school again tell them you are going to report it to the police if they don't get it stopped .
First the school needs to be speaking to his mother. I would talk the the mistress in person and tell her that it is still happening, and have her call in the other parent or have a phone conference. Don't let it go very far.
have a word with the school then tell your child to stand his ground,hard as it may be, if he runs away all the time he is opening himself up to the bully,and they will take it to the next school because nothing has been done about it so far.
This happened with my son. I went to school at recess time and I watched w/o my child knowing. Then when it happened I walked up the the recess teacher and addressed the situation to her and then I went to the principal.....Let the school address the parents for some can be very tough to deal with. I would make an appt./conference with my child's teacher, recess duty person and the principal...
I hope you work it out... Good luck..
I would talk to the teacher again. This is very normal and sometimes there is nothing you can do about it. Even if you told the parent the parent probably wouldn't do anything about it. Just tell your son to tell the teacher when it happens. He may not be saying anything to the teacher and if he waits Intel he gets home to tell you than it makes it more difficult for the teacher to handle it.
This question made me shiver. My daughter is 3 and I'm terrified that she'll be bullied at school because I'll be a mad-vigilante-mother-from hell and set up surveillance cameras and stuff in her clothing.
yes you should. the only way to help is to tell the school or the district. ou might also want to ask for the techers or supervisers at resess to keep an eye on you child.
im thinking kidnap and torture.
neither, i think you should thell your chikd to protect himself. because if he does not do it do it, he will never stand up for himself. And he will always be picked by others. If he makes an example out of one child i bet everyone else will leave him alone.
My theory is ...if it is bothering him enough to talk about it...
Yes ..take all the steps necessary to ensure that he can go to school and not have to worry about being pushed around.
Tell the other parents, that it is bothering your son, and you would expect them to notify you if the situation were reversed.
Bullying is not ok behaviour. In fact, it is illegal and should not be tolerated by your child's school.
If the school fails to stop the behaviour, I believe you should keep going up the school hierarchy until someone takes you seriously.
Perhaps if more children were made to understand in the early grades that such behaviour is inappropriate, then it wouldn't be accepted as "normal" by children in high school.
I would put in writing to the principal so you have a record of reporting it. Don't speak to the parents speak to the child who is pushing him. Teachers sometimes don't notice things on ther playground and in my son's school the naughty kid gets time out. I will tell your child to push the other kid back because bullies are only stopped when they get their own treatment back when a teacher is not looking. Time out obviously does not work and the other kid kept pushing/hitting my son till I told him to push/hit back.My son was upset and hurt and the other kid thought it was fun to get time out and do nothing.
tell the other childs parents
cuz that would make it unfair to ur child to get in trouble when the other idiot started it
tell the other child's parents to control him
just make sure your son is able to deal with socialising with other kids on his own. although it sounds normal, it might be your son is being picked on cos he's weak or shy, if i were you (and ive got 2 kids) id find a way of watching him at playtime without him knowing and see if he's able to hold his own, its important because if he is being picked on or bullied it will effect his self esteem throughout school life as he gets older, the worst thing you can do is sort his battles out for him, the best thing you can do is to see if he is lacking and toughen him up to deal with things himself, see how he makes friends make sure he's not alone. id also mention it discreetly to the school and ask if they can keep watch but without letting the kids know you've said something
Some boys used to pick on my daughter... Until I showed up, watched them mess up and yelled at them myself.
i think u should speak to the childs mother if the school isnt doing anything about it
depending on how severe the situation is i think you should take action only when your son feels that he can't take it anymore. but the best thing to do would be to see if your sun can handle it on his own. ( it reduces embarrassment for future reference.)
Find out what time recess is and show up you are allowed to visit and if your child is not being watched or protected then you have the right to. Trust me an end will be put to this immediately.When my sister was in school my dad got the run around about so many kids touch to watch them all etc. All he had to do was show up w/ a packed lunch and head to homeroom with her and suddenly they made it a priority.
unless its really serious dont think much of it kids that age act that way you may also want to set up a meeting with the teacher,pricipal and the other childs mom or dad if it is serious
I think that you have done enough to be honest. remember that your child is only 5. providing it does not get further out of control you should just stay out of it
You should definitely not let this slide by you and your 5-year-old son. Call up the child's mother, and if you can't get the phone number, ask the school. If this doesn't work, I advise you to go to the school and talk to the child himself. This may either spook him out, if you are firm, or it may cause rebellion. Tell your son to stay away from him, and most importantly not to fight back. Two wrongs don't make a right! Be proud of your son that he isn't using violence as the answer. Encourage him to be safe and respectful to others. If none of this works out, you should write a letter to the school district/superintendent, or other administrators.
tell him to stay with a group of kids and should this boy push him down then he needs to report it straight away. It may just be this other child has no one to play with and see's this as a way to play with others. He may not nessisarily be out to hurt anyone. Especially if this other child is 5. Why not get your son to ask this boy to play. Tell him that he should ask ithis boy if he wants to play but get him to tell the boy if pushes them over then he is not allowed to play. It may just be a little boy lacking in the social skills required to join in.
Should this boy push him over while he asks him to play then get him to go straight to a teacher and explain that he never has to ask him to play again
These things should always be taken seriously but don't over-react as children can get carried away when they play and may not mean to hurt. Always report your concerns to school and if it becomes an issue, keep a record and report every incident to school. If the problem remains, ask the school if they would allow you to observe your child during playtime from a place where he can't see you. If, after this, you think there is a real and evident reason for concern, work together with the school on a solution.
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