Something bad happened to my son today...how to handle?
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first thing I want to say is that I am on my mom's keyboard and if I miss spell sme thing or leave out a letter I am sorry...
ok, find out who she was and let him contact her.send some flowers or something. next it is very good that you son shows concern because I have seen a lot of kids that would have told the lady to get off the ice, or would be rude insome other way.
another thing. I think that the lessons for hocky should not be during public skate, talk to the teacher about this.
If possible, send her some flowers with a note of apology.
I would find out who and where she is. He probably needs to apologize for closure. Even though it was just an acciedent.. if she knows he feels bad.. it will give him closure. He sounds like a sweet caring boy
have him write an apoligy letter to her or something. i'm sure you could figure out a way to talk to her. have her send one back, it normally turns out well in the end.
Tell him accidents happen and that lady didn't blame him she is ok maybe that will help or even contact the lady prepare yourself he might be a little discouraged next time at practice
I would try to find out where the woman was taken to. Either you can have your son go and visit her or have him call and just to see if she was ok.
tell him that it was just an accedent.. and that no one blames him or thinks he is a bad kid. and suggest that next time he sees the old women to appologize to her.
Explain to him that it was an accident, and help him make her a "get well" card, even if there was nothing serious.
Chances are there's a bump on her head, especially if they let her drink pop. If the ambulence is called they are required by law to take a patient to the hospital.
Talk to him and just help him make her a card and bake her some cookies.
well tell your son it was just a mistake and it could happen to anybody andto make sure the lady is ok go and visit her and drop of some flowers and let your son talk to her and then he'll feel better.
It's time to have that mother-son talk that every good parent eventually has to have with their child.
Brace yourself, it goes like this:
"Son, you need to know that sometimes in life. . .**** happens."
A good person knows when to take responsibility for their actions, and also knows how to recognize when they are not responsible for something. You can't have responsibility without serenity. That way lies neurosis.
Just remind him he did nothing wrong. He is a kid. He was using the rink in the way it was entended to be used, and stuff happens in a rink. If he wanted to he could find out who the lady was a mabe apologize to her in a letter or in person. The lady may be greatful for that
IT COULD HAVE JUST BEEN FOR SAFETY PRECAUTIONS. LET HIM KNOW EVERYTHING IS GOING TO BE OK AND YOU KNOW IT WAS AN ACCIDENT.
You really need to let him know that the incident wasn't his fault. It was just one of those freak accidents. Maybe, if it is at all possible, you could meet up with the lady to check on her, so your son knows he didn't hurt her in a life changing way. I know how he feels. It isn't fun, but I hope that you guys work something out...
He sounds like a sweet boy, it is a good reaction that he feels bad. Some kids would not have cared as much. Tell him it was an accident. Life is full of good and bad. Today he just experienced bad.
the most important thing is for your son to realize it was an honest mistake. these kinds of things happen all the time (as we know), and the only way to not live with a guilty conscience is to truly understand that it was a mistake. the good thing is that the lady wasn't hurt, and that's a point to make too. he's going to feel bad about it for a little while; that's natural. just keep reinforcing the fact that it's ok that it happened, not his fault, etc etc.
you could also mention that during public skate, if you're going backwards, its a good idea to be looking back, since many people (like old ladies) don't know how to skate. this will help him provide a "solution" to what happened (by preventing it from happening again), and may also help him to make similar decisions in the future, before running into the old lady. :)
and hugs are great!
JUST LET HIM KNOW THAT IT IS OK THAT EVERYTHING WILL BE FINE IF THE LADY WAS LAUGHING AND DRINKING A POP THEN THERE IS NOTHING TO WORRY ABOUT JUST TELL HIM THAT HE SHOULD JUST WATCH WHERE HE IS GOING A LITTLE BETTER AND THAT HE IS NOT IN TROUBLE!!
GO LUCK TO YOU ON THAT I KNOW WHAT IT IS LIKE TO HAVE A SENSITIVE CARING BOY! :)
I would explain that it was a complete accident and that the elderly take longer to heal and are more brittle. It may help, too, to get this woman's name if the paramedics will give out hat information and visit her or give her a call to see how she's doing. This just may help ease your sons mind. Good Luck!
I can only echo Angel and Devil's answer; that is the most perfect advice, and you should take it and follow through with it!
He should feel terrible. If he didn't he would have no feelings and I would be more concerned if were you. Assure him it was an accident and he did exactly the right thing by staying with her, which shows he is concerned which demonstrates responsibility for his own actions.
She could have a concussion. You just have to comfort your son and tell him that it was an accident and that its normal for things like that to happen. Let him know that if he didn't mean to do it on purpose then he shouldn't feel guilty. She'll be alright, her injuries will heal, but your son might be scared for life. Maybe you should get your son in contact with the woman and maybe she can tell him that shes not mad at him and that's it okay. It might make him feel better.
Just tell him accidents happen and thank god the lady was alright. To not beat himself up for it, hes young and has to prepare himself for more accidents to come. Thats life unfortunately.
Reassure him that she's okay and not permanently harmed in the hospital. Just let him talk and listen. He's soon get over the trauma.
If you can find out how to contact the woman I'd let him either deliver or send her flowers.
How wonderful that your son is so sensitive. He is honorable by having fears (compared to some of today's disfunctional youths)and I'd do everything to celebrate the young man he is.
Send her an apology from him...and if there is NO possible way of finding an address for her...then just make your son think you sent it to her and that she said it was ok! I am sure they only took her in to check her out...you know to save the skating rinks butt of a law suit!
Try to find out her condition in the hospital to see if she's ok. He could write a small card explaining it was an accident. If she'sin the hospital you could try a visit, but sounds like she was ok. The skating rink was following procedure He should be more careful when skating backwards and other peopleare around, even though he didn't mean to.
IT WAS AN ACCIDENT - PURE AND SIMPLE !! - NOTHING MALICIOUS, NOTHING EVIL. He cared enough to stay with the lady , that says something about his values and character !
She probably has a concussion , prob shouldn't have been on the ice anyways... Hope you're not in the US , she'll prob try and sue your poor son ! SUE-HAPPY people out there.
Accidents happen and your son will understand this when you speak to him...
Best of luck !
assure him it's okay and that it was just an accident. you know he feels bad but it was just an accident and the lady is fine. if the paramedic's are called they have to take you on the stretcher or a wheel chair by law. the worse i would say that could have happened to her was a slight concussion but that i highly doubt, she probably got a headache. there wouldnt have been any internal bleeding or anything like that so i would bet she is perfectly okay. if you want you can try and call the ER in the town that it happened and just ask about it because your son feels horrible and i bet they will tell you, they cant give out info or anything but they should be able to say that she was okay and they just checked her out as a precaution. good luck
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I understand your son feeling bad about this but if maybe you could help him find out that she is okay. That she went in the Hospital and out, he can then put this accident behind him. It was just that an accident and seems that lady should had not been standing there to start with in her condintion.
It is such a terrible thing to happen to your son. I am sure he feels horrible about it. Sit down and talk with him about what happened and listen to what he has to say and how he feels about the situation. If he feels that he needs to do something to help the older lady to not only help her feel better but him as well, by any means let him. It may benefit him and the lady.
As for what could be wrong with her, who knows. I am sure the doctors are checking out everything to make sure there are no broken bones or a concussion. If she hit her head, she may have gotten a concussion to some degree but should be fine if that is all that has happened.
Maybe find out what hospital the lady is at, if she is still in, and maybe go visit her and bring some flowers to her. You both can go and wish her "get well" and tell her that you both feel terrible about what had happened and if there is anything that you can do to help her at all. Hopefully, since she was laughing and drinking soda before being taken away to the hospital, she realized that it was a total accident and doesn't expect anything but maybe an apology. I'm sure she woud really appreciate you both going to visit her and offering some kind of help even if she turns it down.
I hope this helps and good luck thru all of this.
He would probably feel alot better if he could see for himself that she was alright. If possible, bring him to see her. With flowers and an apology.
tell him, if you haven't already, that it wasn't his fault in the least. he was having a lot of fun and being responsible - he wasn't going fast, right? you did the right thing by calling the paramedics, but the man that threw your son out of the way was totally overreacting. the lady was fine afterwards - hey, her head hadn't cracked open! maybe a "that's okay" from the lady would have saved him some grief - if he is still feeling guilty you could find out who the lady was and send her some flowers with your son's name. and even if she WAS hurt (a verrry tiny chance) she will certainly be grateful and know what a polite, caring young man bumped into her the other day.
see if you can't find out where they took the lady and have your son make her a nice card of apology and blessings for full recovery.
Failing that, encourage your son by ensuring that he knows it was an accident, and the lady seemed to be fine when she went to the hospital. He needs to know that every time paramedics are called for a head injury, they will take the person on a stetcher just to be sure that everything is ok and the lady stays safe. She could get dizzy and fall, and they need to protect her no matter how minor the injury is.
If you believe in God, pray with your son, and have him pray too, that she will be fine.
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