Should I ground my son?
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I wouldn't completly take them away but I would make him study on the week-days them allow him to play them on the weekends.
If his grades don't improve from that method them I would completly take them away.
If it's on his Report Card, yes. But just class/homework,no.
Find out the reason for the low grades this time. Don't punnish right off the bat. If he has no reason for the low grades then he should be penalized but if there is a valid reason then he should not be punnished.
He's a person, not a grade machine. Maybe you should try and talk with him before you take away his things, duh.
don't ground him for something like that, find out the problem and work together with him to solve it.he might just neeed a little guidance, sometimes children can fall through the cracks if not treaed the way they should be. Don't ground him.
I think you should...don't be to hard on him.but show him you mean business. My mom was always tough when it came to my grades and now I have a succesful life and I owe it all to my mom.
Okay, don't get too harsh on the guy. Firstly, (i bet you already did this;) Think about what's been going on lately. Any home issues? I went through this as well. I had A's and B's. THen got C's and D's. This was because I got lazy and my parents gave up on me. Have a good talk with your child. Ask him if anything's been on his mind. And if not, ask him why he was slacking off. It's not too hard. Maybe he's depressed or either just getting lazy. If he's getting lazy, then I would ground him or something like that and made sure he brought home homework.
i say find out if hes haveing problems with his work in that class it might not be his fault if hes really strugleing i dont think he needs to be punished give him till next grade period to pull that d up and tell him if he needs help ask because if he doesnt pull it up he might be punished
If he has a real obsession with it, reduce how much he plays. See what subjects he's not doing well in, and ask him if he had any doubts, questions, or just didn't understand anything it. Ask his teacher too. If he understands the subject, then try finding out if there is a distraction or something. Also, if he does not understand something, help him with it, and just brush through the things he knows and doesn't know. Finally, when he gets back to getting A' grades and B' grades, don't let him play too much videogames, just reduce it so that it won't happen again. ;)
If you haven't. then talk to him to try to find out what happened. Then get rid of the games and not just for a few weeks. Until grades are up and that C and D are gone.
yep tell him he needs to spend more time studying... and when his grades increase he can have his video game back... I stand behind you... you would be doing the right thing... my parents didn't care much and i kind of wish they would have payed more attention and punished me more than they did... sounds strange but kids need to be told when they are doing wrong
If he tried his best, you shouldn't. If he just wasn't trieing, then maybe. It depends. If it happens again, talk to his teacher about a little extra help. You shoud not ground a child for his grades, but make him study harder.
I think you first need to speak with his teacher and find out why the grade is so low. Is it because he is not completing homework or are his test scores low because he doesn't understand the material. Remember the first 9 weeks are largely spent reviewing old material so the second set of grades are more reflective of what is happening. Talk to his teacher and set up a reward system for the proper behaviors . As a teacher I have often recommended an assignment book being signed daily by the teacher. It helps open the lines of communication.
I think before you decide to ground him, you need to talk with him & find out why there's a drop in grades...after you talk with him, you should talk with the teacher & get his/her input...It may just be that the work is becoming more difficult.
After your conversations with son & teacher, if you feel that taking away the video games would help...then, I say GO FOR IT!
p.s.Does he have to do homework before playing the games? That's a rule in our house...no games until homework is done...AND I check over it first to make sure they've put in a real effort to do the work (things should be done neatly)...this would be a good way to make sure he's understanding the work, too!
It depends..why are his grades going down? Does he need extra help in school? If he really is actually "obsessed" with his video games, then it's a no brainer..yes, take them away! Have you visited with his teacher? There may be other factors of why his grades are dropping. That's a drastic change from the first 9 weeks. Could be something wrong. Call his teacher.
I would until his grades improved.
communicate first and know the problem. If he won't tell, then try to soften him up so he can open himself...
Have you talked to the teacher who gave him the D. Is he doing poorly in class or is he not turning in his homework? If it is his homework, tell him that he has to do his homework (and you or another adult) has to review the homework before he can play any video games. If it is something happening in school, you will need to find out what is going on at school since it's not his video games interferring.
Also try talking to him first (before contacting his teacher). Ask him what is going on and that you plan on talking to the teacher. To give him the benefit of the doubt, is he taking classes he's not used to taking? For example, some people are great in one subject (say English), but have a really hard time grasping the concepts of other classes (say Math).
I still get grades too. But if this is the first time he's brought home a C and a D, then just have him study harder. Nobody's perfect, and he's only ten. If he falls asleep in class (like my older cousin did) or there's something else going on, just talk to him. the rest is up to you. You're his mom, anyway.
he might just have a hard time in class and not understand it.
family issues and moving to new places can also cause bad grades.
its really hard on kids and some times it affects their grades.
im not saying you have family issues but yea.
talk to him and ask him how it is.
you could also talk to the teacher about his profermance in class.
i hope i helped :]
Grounding him is not going to solve much. There may be a problem at school. You need to find the root of the issue. Is he being bullied? Is he starting to "like" some girl? Does he need glasses? ---Something may be wrong and you need to find out what it is!
It may simply be that because classes become more difficult each level he needs more help from you, or a tutor. But something is going on. Talk to him. Don't say "come here I want to talk to you," but try to do it while you engaged in some activity. In that manner he will be less threatened and most likely willing to share more.
For goodness sakes.limit the video games anyway! Study after study shows that too much video gaming is detrimental to a disproportionate number of kids. ---All that research can not be too wrong! I think that with all of our modern day advances we are limiting imagination and creativity in so many of our children. ----One day that just might hurt us!
I hope this helps.
Find out the reason behind these slipping grades. Maybe talk to his teacher to find out wether or not he is being distracted in class or legitimately trying to get good grades. Talk to your son about it. See that he doing his homework. Maybe it's something you can sit down and do with him for a while to make sure he is understanding what is being asked of him. (I don't mean do his homework for him either). Just be there as a guide. Most importantly be encouraging.
If it turns out that he is finding the work much harder, i don't think he should be grounded as you need to maintain a good supporting relationship with your son.
If he is being distracted in class or doing the distracting, effecting his ability to concentrate in class then that particular problem needs to be addressed. Maybe more parent, teacher commniaton needs to be used until hs issues become sorted out.
find the root of the problem before you jump to conclusions.. if he has always had good grades and had a sudden slump, there could be something wrong.. either he is having a hard time with what they are learning and not getting help.. or it could be an emotional conflict with a school mate.. etc..etc.. don't automatically assume it's just him screwing around.
Is there a reason he got c's and d's? The work gets harder as he gets older so it may just be he is struggling and to punish him for this is wrong. Talk to him and find out if it is too hard and get him help. Limit his games but only so he can spend more time playing
Don't punish him,but do try to find out what is happening with his grades, make sure he studies everynight and check over his homework. He could be having some type of problem at school try to find out what it is, I am sure he probably feels bad about his grades too, punishing him will make it worse.
DON'T GROUND HIM - talk to him, talk to the teacher and if there doesn't seem to be an obvious answer get him to the doctor for an eye exam and hearing exam. There is a boy in my daughter's class (she's 9) who was losing his hearing in one ear and because of his seat he couldn't hear certain things and had problems. Plus, there's always the chance of dyslexia - so don't just discard it to laziness or the like because that's what the teacher implies. The apparent lack of effort could be covering up for an inability to do the work. I think Henry Winkler (the Fonz from Happy Days) talked about his experience with Dyxlexia and how glad he was to be able to recognize the signs in his son.
make sure he is doing his homework and doing it correctly b4 you let him play games, ever (i thought that was a general rule..) ask him whats up at school; he might be getting teased or not get along with the teacher.. dont just ground him at 1st, let him know he needs to improve or he will get grounded
Maybe the stuff he was learning now he is struggling with. Ask him if he is struggling with the material and tell him to ask for help, not just sit around and strugle. Tell him if something is wrong with him. He might not be doing his homework and just play games instead.
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