Why doesn't the other girls like my daughter?
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no its nice to know you care so much ::;show this posting to your partner , talk to your daughter ,even approach the school (disgreetly)
girls are very bitchy so it's a real life lesson that you can't control. Let her go and see how she handles it. Remember, it's always a reflection of you not them
They are probably jealous of her, so want to make her feel like they do
its probably bcos shes pretty.. girls tend not to like pretty girls :) x
No, you're fine. Kids are mean. It is bound to upset your daughter, and you are bound to be upset if your daughter is. You just see the beauty in her that kids are mature enough to recognize. She'll find her way, and she'll have to do it on her own.
You're making too much out of it...kids are kids and kids are fickle about who they like and don't like from one day to the next.
your not making to mcuh out of it but unfortuanalty this will happen to her for the rest of her life their are girls who are just to snooty to even care about how good a friend your daughter might be and there wil definately be some heartache over friends throughout your daughters life!!
My daughter was the same. It's heartbreaking isn't it?
She's 27 now and she does have friends, but through her school years she was always left out or bullied.I wish I had known what to do then, in the end she finished her education at home. I still don't know what the answer is, seems if you don't fit, you don't fit!
I feel for you...
i know its hard to say don't worry about it, but really don't. I was the same way when i was younger. I just didn't know how to socialize with the others, but i grew up to be prom queen of my school, and have tons of Friends, so don't worry, she will be fine
Kids can be very cruel. They often do not need a reason. If a kids is nice and easy going, other kids tend to pick on that kid because they can. It could be jealousy. Maybe your daughter is prettier or nicer than they. Kids (and adults) will try to bring another down to their level rather than raise their own standards. Reaffirm your child. Their are good people out there. Tell your daughter this and to find a group of kids that will accept her. The most popular kids are not necessarily the best kids.
I wouldnt say bitchy maybe but yeah that is pretty close.
I think its just a thing with girls this age. ( I think it only lasts until we are 40!!)
My daughter is in 3rd grade and she has come to me with this problem a couple of times...and what I mean is when she was having a couple of bad days. 2 days later its a totally different story and she has all the firend in the world.
She is coming to you on the bad days because she feels bad and wants comfort, those days stick out to you. I would bet though if you asked her out of the blue she would tell you how many friends she has and what they play.
Also no offense but even the sweetiest girls can be mean and annoying sometimes around thier peers. Thats a hard lesson I had to learn with my own kids...that they are not always as sweet around other kids. I did overhear my daughter one time (who I thought was just so sweet) become extremely whiney about a soccer ball during reccess. I had to later sit her down and explain that others wont want to play with her if she acts like that.
has she asked if she could play with them? if they say no they are bad friends and dont even get involved with them.
Children can be cruel for no reason. The reason I was not surrounded with friends was that I had such a low self-esteem. I could never make anyone happy about what I did or did not do. Sometimes it is a judgment about the child's family stemming from some cruel thing their parents may have said. Sometimes it is about money, they could feel more upper-class than they need to. (I have a granddaughter who states without reservation that they are rich. I know for a fact her parents work very hard for what they have; I worry she won't.) Teach your child her self-worth, and give her better values and as that teaching begins to shine through, the others will see it and love her as much as you. Maybe your love for her is so much greater for her than the love they receive, they are jealous. It will work out Prayer being the beginning, love/ prayer in the middle, prayer in the end.
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no you are not... i know what you are talking about. kids are cruel..that's the bottom line. they like to gang up on others. perhaps they are jealous of something. just give your daughter extra attention and love any maybe hang out with some of her real friends so she doesn't feel bad.
welcome to the world of girls...it starts in 2nd grade and gets worse..one day your in the next your out..i have a 4th grader..I'm dizzy keeping up on whether so and so is her friend or not..the only advice i can give you is what i tell my daughter..find a friend not in one of the clicks, maybe even a boy and build from there..my daughter is friends with one boy.and before people get offended i don't mean that she has a boyfriend...just someone outside of the catty world of girly clicks
Most of the time when a parent says there child is sweet and doesn't have a bad bone in their body, they don't really know their child. It's like: "My child would never do that"; or "My child would never lie to me". Involve the school counselor by having her meet with the girls to work things out. Ask your daughter or your daughter's teacher what she may be doing. How are her social skills? Girls can be mean for not reason but start with your daughter and move from there.
Kids are cruel and it probably does upset your daughter I don't think you are making to much out of it. I just tell my daughter when she says that people are inogreing her and all that they are just jealous b/c she is so much prettier and smarter than then. While that may not sound good, I want to make sure that her self esteem doesn't suffer b/c of some kids petty problems and make things worse as she gets older.
Tell her to pick one kid that seems like she/he needs a friend to and start playing with them.
girls are bitchy!! it might be that her clothes arent cool enough or maybe she's too pretty and they are jealous. or she might be a tattletale, kids hate that. just tell your daughter not to worry about it, shes a great person and sometimes people are mean for no reason
I had the same problem when I was in Kindergarden. None of the girls liked me. I think it's either because they are jealous from her looks and/or clothing. Girls this age can be bitchy!
Because your daughter is nice , sweet and decent. Girls are horrible at school. They are so mean and I cant stand how things like that happen. You arent making too much out of it. When I was in school, The same thing happened to me and the girls all ganged up on me and everyone hated me. But I was so nice and I never did anything like that to anyone. My mom would just tell me it was because they were jealous, etc..but It never stopped until my mom finally went up to the school and talked to the principal. Then it calmed down. So dont let it escalate to what mine did. I wanted to die because of it. It started out small and got that bad. So go with your instinct and if it bothers you, Im sure it bothers her more. She just wont say much. I wouldnt say much to my mom or dad because I was embarrassed about it. They knew finally when I broke down one day crying my eyes out because I couldnt take it anymore. I now have 3 boys and a daughter on the way and I wont tolerate anyone starting anything with my kids. I dont want it to get out of control like mine did and I make sure to tell them if anyone is bullying them to let me know immediately and not to hide it from me. Dont feel like your making too much out of it, because girls can be cruel.
I am like that too, my daughter is in the 3rd grade and tries so hard to make a friend that I feel so bad, almost like I am going through it too. My daughter is also a sweetheart and very smart too, I know many of the girls don't like her because she is smart, they have told her, I think instead of these other girls trying harder they would much rather be mean to another. I have told my daughter that everyone is not mean and someday she will meet a really good friend that she can do everything with and she seems to feel better when I tell her that, she has come home in tears-just breaks my heart.
Little girls are highly influenced by their mothers. The mothers determine their friends and often prevent daughters from liking or even taking the opportunity to like some girls simply because the parents are jealous. I had a child who blatantly told me my daughter wasn't invited to her birthday party because her mommy wouldn't let her. Just continue to love your daughter and pour on the attention and affection. Eventually she will find her own way. I would also try to get her involved in extracurricular activities such as dance, girl scouts, church, or sports to give her an opportunity to meet new friends!
You tell her to keep her hand strong and slap the little girls in her class!
I agree with other posters, this is a life lesson. AT THE SAME TIME you want whats best for your daughter and need to teach her how to get by in life. Others will treat her better when she earns some clout: Get her involved in activities that she enjoys, like gymnastics, dance or something like that. She will meet others who will treat her fine, and she will gain confidence to show the brats at school who they're dealing with. Also, make sure you work with her to keep her grades high. That will also give her credibility. Sad but true. The nice thing is, as she moves from being treated poorly, to one who influences others, she will always treat others much better than these brats treated her. Good luck!
ur not making a big deal about it. if i was in ur position i'd be wondering that too. encourage her to hang out with more ppl and try and meet the childrens parents and try to help her get more friends. but dont make it 2 obvious cause then she'll probably feel bad. Girls are almost always bad up intil adult hood, so she'll probably have to deal with it all her life. I'm in middle school (6th grade) and some girls dont hangout with me and i dont really care cause they WISH they were me and i have other friends who i know will always be there.
she probabl just hasn't found the right friends for her yet. only time will tell
Girls get nastier as they get older. Try getting your daughter involved in another activity where she might be accepted more.
They say boys are violent but at least when they fight, they hit each other then that's the end of things. Girls are worse because they are bitchy, hold grudges and are excellent at the silent treatment. And, unfortunately, with kids maturing so much earlier, girlie bitchiness is a problem for even young children.
You need to see if this is just a temporary thing or if this is, in fact, bullying. If it's temporary, try to help your daughter reclaim her friends. Invite them to the house (either one at a time or in a group of three or more-- never invite two girls as they do say 'three's a crowd) and organise activities for them to do, like dressing up and make up, before giving them a slap-up meal with all sorts of kiddie favourites. Arrange playdates with the girls' parents to get your daughter into the swing of things. I'd also recommend that you involve her with extra-curricular clubs (Guides, karate, a foreign language, baseball, dancing, etc) so she's mixing with kids away from school and doesn't just rely on her classmates to be her friends. It will also give her more confidence.
If it's bullying, go straight to the teacher or headteacher. Don't brush it to the side because things will just get worse and your daughter will just come to loathe school. Keep a diary of every incident as evidence.
Blah.girls are mean...
thats tough... i have the same problem here ... i have a cousin who is 6 years old. she is the sweetest girl at home but when she went to school no one wanted to let her play or join any games.. when i came to pick her up one day i asked her teacher how she acts throughout the day . she told me that she was bossy and sometimes throughs a fit if kids borrow her stuff. it was pretty shocking 2 me cuz at home she knows her manners like saying thank-u and please.. so when i talked 2 her she said that girls were being mean 2 her . so i told her to talk 2 the girl and ask her "what did i do wrong 2 make u be so mean 2 me?" and it worked like magic :]]]]].. i was watching her from the gate and it was so cute because the girl that was being mean said sorry and invited my cousin at her sleepover... talk 2 ur daughters teacher or talk 2 any adult who supervises the kids. ask how she acts and talk 2 ur daughter .... open up 2 her it will be easy trust me.... it may sound wierd with this idea coming from a 15-year-old girls' mind :]]] lol hope it works!
You have nothing to worry about, it is part of growing up...There are actually alot of girls out there that had mainly guy friends cause girls tend to not get along at all..Your not making to much of it, it is your instinct to worry :}
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