I guess I am old school....because I still believe in spanking.?
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I agree. There is a fine line between a spank and abuse, but since we have had a very effect parenting tool taken from us, our children have become terrible.
Not mine, I never submitted to this spank is abuse crap. There is a difference between beating a child for your pleasure and spanking a child rear because he/she misbehaved. And people need to learn that if the time outs don't work then they are doing their children a great disservice. They will never grow up to respect authority, they will never grow up to respect themselves.
I was hit as a child when I was bad, granted there were times when I didn't deserve it, but the times I did I am glad that I got the punishment I got. It helped me grow into the adult I am today. But being spanked and watching my sister get spanked doesn't make me want to use that method as the first method of dealing with a problem. So that theory has been disproved, not just by me but by many other adults who grew up just fine after being spanked.
I hope these these other parent's enjoy supporting their kids into their 30's and beyond. Because that's where they are headed.
causing pain to a child, is child abuse
Keep it safe and legal.that's as far as I delve into other's parenting choices.
Different strokes for different folks.
The "belt" always put fear into me,even when I used my hands to cover the belt from the whippings.
It was a way to be taught right from wrong.Funny ,I remember the "belt" ,but do not remember why I was being belted.
I am from the old school also. I believe in trying to talk to the child first and then if that does not work then the old swat across the rear end is in the making. I don't see time outs as being a punisment for bad behavior.
ok all that , just to cover the fact that you're kinky and like to be spanked , as part of foreplay and / or during the act of fornication..shame on you ...you kinky thing !
DEAR
YOU MUST HAVE BEEN RAISED IN THE 1950 60 70 80 BECAUSE I DO TO MY PARENTS DONE IT TO ME SO I BELIEVE IN IT TO
TAKE CARE
spanking is ok! even though i dont believe in it! but as long as it is with you hand..and doesnt leave any bruises and its on his butt then thats not abuse! child protective services will tell you that! i have had to deal with cps..b/c the kids in my daycare had abusive parents! not just beating them! giving them cough syrup to sleep at nite soo she can watch her TV with out her kids bothering her!! some parents are just soo messed up! it makes me sad
I might not see a problem as long as you are doing it without anger (I am still skeptical). People who were spanked as young children or witnessed their siblings being spanked can see it as a way to deal with anger rather than correction or discipline. If you are spanking when you are mad, the kids have won the battle and it will only lead to them doing the same.
But...if you think of kids as little people their isn't a reason to spank when you can invoke "thinking times" and have the respect of your children to perform "thinking time". It's all about respect and not fear and spankings tend to lean towards fear rather than respect.
Just my opinion...we tried spanking our son (now 3 years old) and it never worked for more than hurting his feelings but thinking time or the threat of going to bed is the only thing that works for us and still allows him to love us and not hit other children when things get out of control.
isn't that why we smack our 18 month old on the hand when they touch something that might hurt them, isn't that how they learn to respect other peoples property by a smack on the hand ,at the same time saying no! you can't give the same lesson to a 30 year old in prison he might smack you back
I am a teenager. My parents spanked me. I turned out fine. I have a 3.92 GPA and am taking all honors classes. Spanking is not bad, it is not a crime. If it was, all people older than 40 would probably be arrested. It gets some sense into the kid. If anyone does get arrested for spanking their kids, the case will be throen out.
I have three small children. While I'm not quick to spank them, sometimes it's the only thing that gets their attention. It's only a quick swat, but that's enough for to get their attention. Most of the time they cry, which gives me the time to calm them down and then talk about the behavior they need to change.
Spanking isn't about dominating, or abusing your child. It's about getting their attention, and solving the problem quickly and decisively, and together.
You're not alone. I know that all of my family (including grandparents and aunts and uncles) believe that if a child is acting badly, don't wait a moment to smack him or her on the bottom. Kids need discipline. Thankfully, my mother has disciplined me, my brother, and my sister. We're growing up to be respectful young ladies and gentleman. However, the kids next door could use a swat every now and then...
i am totally for spanking. that's the problem with America we need to discipline our children more with spankings! that's why they are so dang spoiled!
For me, spanking should only be for discipline. It crosses the line when it is used for more. It then turn into fear and abuse because you as the parent are mad. It then later brings fear and rejection of a parent and usaully brings a pattern of abuse that sometimes is passed on to the next generation. Break the cycle and discipline, don't abuse.
My parents didn't BEAT me - we would get yelled at and given a smack here and there across the butt - but when my mother gave you that look - we knew to stop right then and there or else we would be in trouble. By trouble I mean she would tell my father and he would be angry at us and we would get punished (sent to our room - no TV, no video games)
I think we had a little more pride then the kids today. We cared how we made others feel.
A lot of us think our parents were sooo bad for disciplining us the way they knew how - How come they didn't need these Nanny shows we have on TV?
Good Luck and give your kids lots of love and teach them to care - all their actions have a re-action.
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