When my 10 yr old boy says he has a girlfriend, how do you react to that? Just ignore it?
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First, be glad that he's telling you - My 8 year old also recently confessed to 'having a girl'... Some Moms/Dads have absolutely no clue about their kids and that's where there's the most danger!!
Luckily enough, I am able to take it lightheartedly because my son & I are extremely close and he likes to give me all the details (I just can't tell 'Daddy'). My son is a football player and for homecoming they set up the best players with cheerleaders. Silly tradition I don't see the point in but anyway, that's where this started...
To be honest with you, if you are cautious to what your kids are exposed to, and are comfortable with the relationship you have with your son, you can find comfort in knowing that a crush is just that and laugh it off. I am extremely traditional and don't let my son be exposed to 1/2 of what is out there - I keep his interest up in school and sports so his attention is really stuck on his grades and football (thankfully!) - I personally stay aware of what he does in his spare time, and I take seriously his confidence in confiding in me. Ask them what they do in school, if they have much free time... I think schools should be structured in a way that 10 yr olds aren't getting into something they shouldn't (in an ideal world). If you think school might be trouble, mention it to the teacher and see how much time the kids are left to themselves... Breathe easy - you're doing your son the biggest favor in being aware and being concerned. That's a good Mom!!
I have no clue. my daughter is 11 and I just went through this. I freaked... Stay calm and have her over with her parents so you guys can discuss it together.
yeah, I would just ignore it. He doesn't really know what it means to have a girlfriend...and what could they possibly do at school?
At 10 it means they sit next to each other in the cafeteria. That's really about it.
But if he's starting to like girls, it's diffenately time to talk to him. What you tell him, and how you go about it is up to you. Just remember, what he doesn't hear at home, he'll hear somewhere else!
That's so cute. I think it's innocent and I seriously doubt he is engaging in adult activity at his age. Relax.
it is ok
just ignore him and everything eill be ok
they might just be saying that
they are only 10
there is nothing to worry about
Never ignore anything your child says... I can vouch that it is your child's friends who will help or hinder his progress to responsible adulthood. Years ago a boy was in control (or so he thought) of most boy-girl relationships that lead to heavy petting and eventually sexual experimentation. Now however, the girls are under intense stress to conform to their peers value system, and even initiate a sexual relationship. Age is not what it used to be. Ten years ago my wife, who was a school administrator, had to deal with a 2nd grader who was knocking girls down and pushing his finger into their vagina. The grandfather he lived with was adamant that his grandson not be made to fear his sexuality. My wife thought that was a great line to put on his gravestone after he was electrocuted for the rape and murder of a child when he finally became a teenager. I am not an alarmist, but I am saying that raising four kids to be functional, responsible adults was my greatest challenge in life. I think it will be yours too.
When my son said he had a girlfriend at age 11. I was well pleased.Thats natural.support your children. never put them down.talk with them.love them. they will turn out OK.dont make a big deal about it.Its a lot better for him to like girls then guys.Peace
This is a good opportunity to talk to your son. Try to listen, instead of doing all the yakking. You want him to feel comfortable talking to you when something is important to him, right? I would ask my son what he likes about the girl, how long he has known her, what kind of person she is, etc. Maybe you can have a discussion about how important it is to pick the right kind of friends and ultimately marry the right person. Of course, you don't want to go too heavy--it shouldn't be a real serious discussion-just a good way to know what he's thinking.
Good luck!
i wouldnt worry about it too much, but if you havent had THE TALK yet, now might be a good time to do it. ask them what they're doing at school. and let him have her over for dinner once in while so you can get to know her and keep an eye on them. Be as cool about it as you would have wantd your parents to be, and be the parent at the same time.
I would gently try to find out what he means by that...what makes her his "girlfriend" as opposed to a friend who is a girl?
Do you know her or her parents? How much time do they spend together?
I would be a little nervous, but that's because I just had a conversation with my aunt about "how old is the right age for sex ed" and she blew my mind. She's a teacher in a rural area and she said there were 2 SEVENTH graders in her school who were pregnant this year.
You know your kid, so tread lightly and ask gentle questions so he'll keep being open with you as he gets older.but also keep an eye on who he hangs out with, where and when.
Not much, probably.
My son is 9 and he says he has a girlfriend. I always inquire about her. Ask what her name is, if she is in his class, etc. I want to be sure he knows I am interested in all things in his life, even personal, although I know him having a girlfriend means he says hi to her and they probably play together on the playground. I want him to feel comfortable in telling me about her so that maybe he won't be so uncomfortable when is older and dating for real.
P.S. I have a daugther who is 7 and she claims to have 10 boyfriends (oh boy I say, lol) but I just ask her about them all and tell her that really you should just have one really good friend who is a boy.
I would not ignore it. If he told you, he must want you to know for some reason. And, in this day in age, having a girlfriend can involve a lot more contact for kids then when I (I am 29) and I am guessing when you were growing up. Ask him some open ended questions about it.
say "oh really who?" than he might answer if not ask is close friends and talk their parents about it see what they say it might work see ya later!
Just go along with it. There isn't really much they will or would do. Since he's only 10, he probably doesn't even want to hug the girl. It'll be fine, he's just growing up a bit. You should definitely worry when he turns 13.
Probably just sit in ackward silence. LOL. I suspect the most they've done is hold hands. Maybe a peck on the cheek. Ignore it or congratulate him - but let it go at that.
kids are starting younger and younger my son is 7 and has a little girlfriend in his class i think its just funny i tell him hes too young and all but im not going to make a big deal of it dont you remember being a kid its nothing serious its just playful and im sure the most there doing is sitting next to each other at lunch.
alot of kids at that age have "boyfriends and girlfriends" they dont know what it means they just see it on tv and hear it from older siblings and adults. its not like there going to be having sex..or even kissing for that matter...nothing to worry about
say you think it's adorable and tell him to invite her over to meet you.Then call the girls parents just in case
okay, see i live in la and im 12. at 10, you will have a "relationship" but dont worry, kids are really prude and scared untill theyre about 12. and that age theyre only kissing. so really nothing to worry about cause as much as we do at 10 is hold hands and i didnt even do that.
i say that you should try and tease him with it. don't be mean but say it is cute and stuff and he won't go on dates. he will get embaresed and things will stay calm.
Ignore it. When he says girlfriend he means a friend of his happens to be a girl.
Relax its nothing serious. They probably pl;ay at breaktime. Thats what ny daughter and her friends did. They played with boys.which is great. Now the hormones are kicking in the girls prefer the company of girls to boys and vice versa. It just seems to be more common these daysbecause of early puberty. Make sure you do talk to him though.
I think it is harmless, but a good indicator that you will have to begin discussing with him the values you and your family uphold. What IS an appropriate age to date?
Good Luck!
GOOD FOR HIM ITS NOT LIKE THEY ARE GONNA HAVE SEX OR SOMETHING
you should ask him about it its probabaly nothing just a crush
my six year old had a boyfriend when she was 4.. but they broke up. lol. they are just mimicking their parents or siblings or what they see on TV...
At that age, having a girlfriend is just being able to say you have one. maybe they sit together at lunch.
When my sister was about 12 or 13, she told my parents that she had a boyfriend. My mom was worried until one day my sister got off the school bus, went straight to the phone and called her boyfriend.
The conversation began with her saying " You told me to call you when I got home. So what do you want?" in an irritated tone of voice.
The best thing to do is not make a big deal of it. He will probably "break up " with this girl soon and have many more girlfriends before he is old enough to be really serious about a girl.
thats cute just enjoy the stories of how he has someone totally new in 3 days
i had a girlfriend when i was 10. all we did was sit togather at lunch and we gave eachother presents on our b-days.dont worry bout it
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