How do i tell my children?
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Make sure you explain it in a language they can understand. Say is calmly and make sure you tell them it's okay to cry and that you are there if they want to talk. Let them have access to pictures of her and let them talk about her.Encourage them to talk about their favorite times with her. You are going to have to expect behavioral changes for a while, but dont let them get away with things they normally wouldn't. Make sure you answer their questions about death, heaven and what happens. If they will be attending the funeral /wake tell them what to expect, and how to act beforehand.
I'm sorry for your loss, just remember to be there for your children during this.
The truth and don't hold back the tears. They need the truth.
there are all kinds of books you can get (story books, I mean) for children that talk about when a parent, grandparent, or pet dies. Tomorrow morning, go to your library and see if they have anything. Read the book and explain to them what happened. Tell them it is okay to cry and be sad. It will be difficult for them; there is no getting around that. I am very sorry for your loss. Best to you.
You want to be honest with them... Let them know grandma has passed on, and wont be comming back.. but let them know she loved them and still does.. spend time remembering good moments with her, ask them to tell you what they love about grandma and things they will remember about her. Depending on their maturity level and how well they grasp the situation.. they will deal with it differently. Just make sure to be honest and answer their questions. Let them cry.. but help them understand they will always have their memories of grandma.
It really depends on what you believe in. Where you believe people go when they die. Children handle death much better then adults do. My niece died when I was four years old. I remember the funeral and it was like I was just saying goodbye. My nephew died when I was nine. I was really sad especially because I spent the whole day with him the day before he died, but I think I handled it well and I remember thinking just how precious life really is. Tell them everything that is going to happen and ask them if they want to go to the funeral and the viewing. Let them decide. I think you will be surprised by how well they handle it. My grandparents died this summer and I am still crying my eyes out. Death is a part of life and something you should not hide from them. I hope this helps and good luck!
Let them know that Grandma may be going to heaven soon. You don't need to go into detail about it. Something simple their minds can understand. * Kids grandmas very sick and she may not come home. * explain that it happens to people when they get old. Just a warning kids sometimes get scared thinking it will happen to them too.
Wow this must be extremely hard on you! Just sit down with them and slowly tell them what has been wrong with their grandmother. Also ask them how they feel and tell them it's ok to cry. Then tell them how she won't suffer any longer and she will be in a better place. And how she will always be looking down on them and protecting them, their own guardian angel! I'm really sorry && I hope the children don't take it too hard.
Tell them the truth. By the way deepest wishes. Good luck.
The truth. I know it's very hard I've had to do it twice this year mine are 6 & 7, one with a Grandmother they where close to and the other Cousin who was very young and no one expect it. It's never easy but it's best it comes from you and it's best it be truthful. I basically said grandma passed away and go from there. they will ask questions. don't get too detailed. there really is only so much information that they want to know to satisfy their minds. If you believe in Heaven let them know that is where she went and so on. Just remember all the good times and remind the kids of them too! I know it's very hard but you will do well. Best of Luck to you and your children.
Be open and honest with your children. Not to long ago a friend of a friend told their child that daddy had a headache and went to heaven. Now when he gets a headache he thinks he will too go to heaven. He actually died of a brain aneurism. By the way he is also 5. Just be open and honest with them. Good luck and my prayers to you and your family.
Children know a lot more than we give them credit for. They probably know what is going on already. Be honest with them. Let them know what you are feeling and be open to their feelings.
Tell the real thing
I'm so sorry about your mom. That has to be hard, but you have to tell them the truth. They will be sad, but that's ok. It is normal. It is also ok to let your kids know that you are sad about it. You don't want to lose control of yourself, but its ok to let them see you grieve.
Its not easy, and yes they will be confused and have questions. answer them, each and everytime.My husband and I have 2 kids. One is 7 and the other is 6, he died fighting in Operation Iraqi Freedom.. Now that was hard, the boys understood their dad had to go fight for our country, and they were supportive of him. They were proud and understood as much as they could. When we got the call, I told them that daddy wouldnt be coming home, that he was in a better place and we would see him when we went to heaven. That was Thanksgiving day this happended. They were there at the funeral, and they cried, they still have questions. but I have no choice but to answer them each and everytime..
That is a hard thing to tell children. My grandma recently died on Christmas and it was really hard 4 my mom 2 tell me. But just start off by reminding them the things they already know about this person being ill. then say well it got worse and she got worse so it was painfull 4 this person. then say this perosn is without pain now and is happy in heaven. (hopfully) and when they get the message they will begin to cry and you will 2 but say its ok to be sad and that everything will be ok
first of all i want to say i am very sorry. Try being nice to them and show them that everything will be okay, yet also show them that is okay to be sad. just try not to cry right in front of them. explain to them what happened. Just be nice. Again I'm very sorry and hope you get through it.
I had to just go through this with telling my 7 year old. You have to be honest with them. Let them know how much she cared and loved them. Be there for each other and don't hold back tears from them. It's hard but remember the good times you all had together. I am very sorry for your loss.
Tell them the truth but also state that she has gone to heaven and begin to give a detailed explanation of heaven. State it is a wonderful place and she is doing (whatever the children remember her doing with a smile on her face) all the things she enjoys. Tell them she is watching over them; it is a useful pyschological tactic to use.
The truth is the best way to go. Children are intuitive - and sense that something is wrong (as you noted above), so it's better to tell them. It is a sad part of life, but you'll be teaching them a valuable thing by being honest with them. You can play up the highlights of her life, and especially that your two children brought her so much joy, and that sadness is normal, but it will lessen in time.
tell them the truth and don't be afraid to cry with them. If you are on a church they often have bboks to help kids understand
The truth.
Grandma was sick and she died. I'm very upset and sad like you.
Good luck
When we got the call the night my husband's grandmother died, we called the kids into the room and told them straight out. We told them that great-grandma had suffered long enough and is now free from it. Then any questions they had we answered to the best of our abilities...that was almost 4 years ago so my son would have been 7 and my daughter almost 3.
Is the hardest thing to tell the kids...but ya gotta do it! Its a part of life and if you don't tell them straight up then where will they get the right information?
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oftentimes the truth hurts. but the truth will set us all free from doubts, and another hurt. let them know. tell them the whole strory, be sincere, and they will understand. tell them so that they might help you deal with this too as you help them too. and pray with them okay?
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