My husband and I have two eight year old girls, one each from previous marriages,they are very different?
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I have this problem with my girls, they are 12, 11, and 7. My solution is that at my house everyone has to hang out together. If a kid wants alone time with a friend, they can go to the friend's house. Some of their friends get upset about this, but most accept it and they all end up becoming closer.
they should all play together and have fun
try letting both girls bring there own friend over or rotate i doubt they are gonna have the same friends if there different...but dont shut the other girl out if she doesnt have someone to spend the night with her it would still fill like your lil sister bugging you if you get what i mean even though there the same age
They should all be able to play together,they are in 3rd grade they shouldn't be like in cliques or anything like that yet,right?Why not let them each have a friend stay over,that would be fair!
I would speak to both girls and encourage them to be able to both play together and separately as they want ... since it's always tough to have siblings who are close in age and can share common friends it will be a life long issue. I had a girl friend and a guy friend from the same family and on occassion it would seem to be hard to say I'm hanging with one or the other, but sometimes it happened and sometimes we were all part of a group ... so they need to know that there can be independence as well as common ground. good luck
I'd let the kids decide.
It would really suck to have a sisters friend over who I didn't want to play with and HAVE to play with her.
On the other hand, if I really wanted to play and they didn't want me to...that would suck too.
This is harder than I thought!
As the auntie, if they were all at my house it would not be an issue because I have so many fun creative things to do that they would all be totally engaged in activities and who was playing with who would be a moot point. Maybe that's a good alternative?!? Try getting them all some Sculpey and watch the creative circus begin!
I'm not a parent but I think maybe you should let your daughter have friend spend the night when your other daughter has a friend over for the night. This is fair for both of the girls.
It would be better to talk with each of the girls, and then have them try to get along. If they're all in the same house, the "odd girl out" will have her feelings hurt. It can be tough, but the next time this happens it should work out more smoothly.
well idont think you should force either one of them to play with her if one of the girls doesnt want to then she shouldnt have to whe n they do something they all like then they will all play together letthem both have friends over too that way no one feels left out of they dont all like the same things
Why not do what my mom always did? When one girl had a friend over, the other one was allowed to invite someone over or go out with a friend. That way, everyone was able to be included in play. We would often all end up together by the end of playdates!!
Or, since each was a from a previous marriage, there must be another mom and another dad somewhere in the picture. Why not give the girl not having a playdate the chance to see her other parent? I've heard of families in your situation who've had spilt custody take one child per week and that way the kids wouldn't have to interact too much. This is often hard socially, however, so you may just want to maybe allow the un-involved girl a chance to spend the evening with her other parent.
You don't necessarily have to make the girls all play together, because it's hard with three. Again, try and arrange it so each girl has a friend come over simultaneously, so nobody's left out.
Good luck!
they can all play together but the one thats the friend to the guest will like her more.
Then no one spends the night.
Girls will be girls. Maybe you should try having both of them pick a friend to spend the night.
since they share a room, it seems it can only be perceived as exclusionary to not include both daughters.
this is a sad situation for these poor little girls to have to deal with.
Why not have both girls invite a friend over at some time? Or you or the husband can take the one without the sleepover out for a nice "date"
try to let them switch up one nite one gets a friend the next nite the other or both get differents friends at the same time can have a pow wow and 2 sleep in living room other in the bedroom
Having been the friend of sisters I would recomend letting them be alone. It isn't fair to the two that are friends to have to involve the other sister. It might make it easier if both girls have a friend spend the night at the same time, let the other one stay at a friends, or make special plans with the other one. Have a mom daughter night or something like that. Don't force them to all play together. The friend might stop coming over if she thinks she has to play with the other sister.
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