My daughters kindergarten teacher took her bag of Valentines away yesterday?
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Don't grownups get carried away from eating too much at weddings, dinner parties, Christmas, buffets, etc etc? It's Valentines Day for chrissake! Do I take my husband's chocolates away from him if I think he ate too much? For children, when they start, it's hard for them to stop. If the teacher is so worried about children going overboard then don't have the friggin party in the future.
Anyway, the teacher should NOT have taken the Valentine's CARDS away. That is very wrong! It's technically your daughter's first real Valentines Day- a day which begins to have meaning for the child. Many people think the world of your daughter, and she didn't get a chance to hear the well wishes from her classmates. The teacher is a b****!Your daughter will look back on Valentine's Day with bad memories about it, instead of fond ones.
Did your daughter get the Valentine's cards back yet? If not you demand them back ok? The punishment is OVER. When you get the Valentine's sit down with your daughter and read them to her, since she missed out on hearing her classmates well wishes.
Sounds like your teacher has serious issues when it comes to your daughter. I would insist on a conference. Keep trying to get a hold of the counsellor, principal, etc.
Good luck!
talk to the principal
teachers and counselors are busy people, not that that is an excuse, but sometimes it might take them a day or two to get back to you. i wouldn't automatically decide that it's the teachers fault until you have talked to her directly.
that is so verry rong of the school maby you should go in and talk to that teacher. your poor kid
You'll have to keep trying to track down someone above her in the school. If it comes down to it you may need to visit the school (that way they can't ignore you). If you're daughter was disobeying in class I can see why the teacher may have taken her candy away, however if it isn't the first issue you're doing the right thing in trying to speak with the teacher and/or her supervisors. Good luck.
I would go right into the school and demand to see the teacher. Explain how you've gotten no calls back. If she's "busy," I would walk right down to the class and ask about it there. Don't take any crap from teachers, there are good ones, and there are BAD ones. You have to stay involved in your child's school life.
I would either attempt to call the teacher or go in and talk to her. If you don't get a response from her, you need to talk to the principal. I can understand taking her valentines from her for the time being but she should have returned them at the end of the day and should have informed you what happened. That is RIDICULOUS to treat a 5 yr old that way! I am appauled! If you don't get satisfaction from the teacher, principal, or counselor, call the board of education and explain the whole issue this time and last (I don't know about the other one). It's not about her just taking the Valentines, it's about her not communicating with you!
Well your daughter should have stopped eating the candy, she was told to stop and she didn't. Then the bag was confiscated. The teacher is not obligated to return it to her at the end of the day.
The teacher should give it to you if you arrange a meeting. But you should tell your daughter no matter how dumb, inconsistant, unfair or whatever the teacher/rules are she has to do what the teacher says. That's life.
seems like the teacher was justified taking them away. Your kid was eating the candy and refused to stop when asked by the teacher.
If you are truly concerned about a bag of candy, go buy some at the store.
If teacher does not respond, call the principal, if no satisfaction with these, talk to the schoold board.
Your 5 year old daughter does not deserve to be hurt and crying from events at school. I think that if the teacher has a problem with your child, she should talk to you. Spanking is not allowed in school but is it not just as cruel to hurt a little one's feelings?
I agree with several things that have been said here...Teachers and counselors ARE very busy...if they don't get back to you in a couple of days, and you're still concerned, then try giving them another call.
However, your child directly disobeyed the instructions given to her and then had to face the consequences...I think it's important that you support the teacher's decision on this one or your kid will ALWAYS question authority.
I would go down to the school and talk to either the principal or the teacher. (Or it may take a conference with both). They can easily avoid phone calls and e-mails, in hopes that you will forget about it. Then they can go on their merry way. If you go in and face them, they have to give you some sort of explanation. You should also let your child know that it was wrong of her to ignore what the teacher asked her to do, but it was also just as wrong of the teacher to keep her candy after the end of the day. Since the teacher doesn't seem to have a very good track record with your child, you might want to consider switching classrooms for your child. There's no reason a 5 y/o should be coming home that often crying because of her teacher.
You may want to go in and speak with the teacher directly using the tone of wanting to work together. Something like "I know my daughter refused to stop eating candy in class the other day and I want to find a way we can work together in a way that's best for everyone."
I think it's important to get the teacher's side of things as well. I've had many times when my child comes home with his side and it sounds horrible - not because he's lying but because he's so emotional about it. Then when I speak with the teacher, things start to come into focus and then I can explain things to my child in a way that makes sense to him.
One thing that really helped me was to volunteer in my son's class once in a while so I could observe the dynamics. I did this at one school and actually pulled him out and put him in a different school because the teacher was so bad.
If the teacher will not work with you or you're concerned about how she is treating your daughter, you may want to speak with the principal to see if you can move her to another teacher's class.
That said, I think it's good for teachers and parents to be a team whenever possible. Make sure your daughter knows you don't approve of what she did either - then speak with the teacher about the unfairness of not returning the candy after school.
Go up there and pull her from the class and have her talk to you right then and there. Tell her since you can not find time to answer me, I thought it would be best to have a face to face. Involve the principle and make sure this is resolved at that moment and time. Do not allow a teacher to make your child upset, it is their job to teach and if she not doing her job then it needs to be addressed. This can negatively affect your daughter and she'll begin to hate school. Good luck and I hope things work out.
I'm sure there is a classroom policy in place that the children aren't supposed to eat during class. Your child didn't listen to her teacher when told to stop and then had the candy taken from her. Is your daughter not supposed to listen to the teacher and follow the rules? I'm sure in the classroom policy it states that she will get her items back at a certain time during the year or at the end of the year.
Your daughter should have listened to her teacher in the first place.
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If a child 'has ADD' (which is extremely rare and very over diagnosed) then the teacher was right in taking away the candy because consumption of sugar will cause the child to misbehave.
Don't make excuses for your child or she will wind up like a man I knew, Mr. G. Blind as a bat, had no desire to do anything for himself, collected SSI, had to ask people to help him across the street, came into stores and started reciting what he wanted and someone was supposed to stop what they were doing to help him. Or your daughter can be a Larry, who was also blind as a bat, didn't collect SSI, had a seeing eye dog to helped him out everywhere and he held down a job as a DJ in a radio station.
It's up to you what you want your daughter to grow up to be.
Your child misbehaved in class...what was the teacher supposed to do applaud her?
As severe as it may seem, your daughter should have listened when her teacher told her to not be eating candy. I think that as long as your daughter sees you rise to her defense when she disobeys her teacher she will continue to have problems. Teachers are not the bad guys, they make crappy salaries and put up with kids that have little or no respect for them all for what, for the sake of educating them and teaching them to be something in their lives. Sorry to be harsh, and if this upsets you it is probably because there is truth in it.
The teacher owes you no explanation as it appears your daughter gave you one. She was eating candy she probably shouldn't have been eating in the first place and when she was told to put it away she didn't. Instead of going from person to person at the school, back up the teacher and teach your daughter a lesson in respecting authority and consequences by telling her she lost it because she did the wrong thing.
If the teacher didn't want Valentines candy in the class she should have said so before hand. However, your daughter should have stopped when told to do so. Go in and have a heart to heart, find out what happened. Imagine being 5 with a bag of candy in front of you and then being told you can't have it. Common sence would have the teacher should have all the kids put the candy away out of site. If this is not the first time there was a problem it won't be the last. Don't harass the school just make sure you get all the facts and document everything.
Keep bugging them bc she is scared to confront you obviously I would walk my child to the classroom tomorrow morning and confront her in person and tell her you don't like her treating your child so badly she came home crying she should have returned the candy after school!
report the mean witch to the school board, poor thing
You need to observe in the classroom. You need to find out if the teacher or your child is the problem. some kids behave totally different in the classroom than they do at home. If the problem is the teacher, please put your daughter in a different school. Even if the problem is something your daughter is doing, you might consider that the school may not be a good match for her.
Honestly, it doesn't sound like it was such a bad action from the teacher. Your daughter didn't listen and so something was taken away. It doesn't matter if a child has ADD or not. Rules need to be followed, even if they might not seem that big of a deal to a parent.
What would happen if a child is allowed to eat all of the candy and then comes home hyper? The teacher would probably get blamed for allowing a child too eat too much. It seems at times a teacher just can't win.
We as parents need to remember that teachers are humans and like us all sometimes have off days. I am sure you have made some quick rules with your child and made her cry, not on purpose. I do not think the teacher was trying to make her cry, but just trying to get her to listen to her.
My son is gifted as well and his K teacher said he could've skipped to 2nd grade, but of course a child of 5 needs social skills etc. :)
It is sad that your daughter is having this experience of school. You as a parent need to try and work with the teacher and school and not against each other. Try not to be so defensive and be more proactive with helping your daughter work through her ADD and helping her achieve her advanced learning with you. Perhaps do workbooks and extra things at home and have fun timing how long she can stay focused on things without being distracted. Teach her some skills on helping her follow through and completing tasks.
I think 5 and 6 years old is too young to be labeled ADD. That is something that will stick with her through her school years. If you don't think kids don't get labeled or teachers inform other teachers or difficult children or difficult parents, you are wrong. I would try to patch up some of the bridges and try to be more positive and helpful to the teacher instead of expecting so much from her. Yes the teacher is supposed to teach, but try and see if you could teach a class and also cater to other children on different levels and while you might be having a bad day. I am sure it isn't easy. It really doesn't seem like taking away a bag of candy was that big of a deal. Plus teachers do not have to respond to their email on off hours. They do have real lives. We as parents need to cut some teachers some slack I think.
I am not a teacher, I just know them based on being a parent and I highly respect the ones that try to teach the children. I wish you the best and hope that you can come to some understanding with your daughter's teacher. She does deserve to love school :). Whatever you do, please do not put her on medication (not that you would).She is so young and it seems more like she is very gifted and bored than ADD.
The party was probably at the end of the day and the teacher probably didn't have time to make comments on her sheet. Teachers don't need to cover their *** over candy. The teacher should have given her back the candy at the end of the day. Try calling the teacher and request a conference. Maybe the way your daughter saw it was not all correct.
I think your daughter is bored and might not be ADD. If she is bored you will probably have more issues like this. Please don't make too much out of this, if your daughter is gifted she will pick up on it and she will play you and the school. She will get what she wants because you are willing to fight for her. And you should be. But before you get all bent out of shape hear the other side open mindedly.
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it may take a couple of days for the councillor to follow through. Give it a couple of days. If this continues and the teacher isn't changing you made need to request a student transfer to another class. Sometimes teachers just clash with a student. But if the teacher told your daughter to stop eating lollies and she didn't then she does need to have it taken away. Kids need to learn if they are told to do something by a teacher then they need to do it. Kids are having less and less respect for teachers and you need to back up the teacher in explaining that she must do as the teacher says. Yes there is more to this than the lollies but your child still needs to know whatever the teacher show respect and do as shes told
The teacher shouldn't avoid or dismiss your concerns. However your daughter didn't listen when she was told not to do something. The consequence in your eyes may be to harsh, however I back up the teacher 100% with how they chose to discipline.
All in all, the teacher should have the courage to at least talk with you. That is wrong of her.
It seems like the teacher does have a problem with your daughter. See if there are other kindergarten teachers that you can have your daughter change classes.
I think I would ask for my child to be placed in a different classroom.
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