Is it normal for a child to ask for a happy family from Santa?
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She probably just wants a fun morning and everyone to get along, families tend to arue, I want to know why so many people are against a 10 year old believing in Santa? seriously why should we push our kids to grow up, being a grown up sucks and I hope my kids believe in Santa for as long as possible.
ps... I ate the cookies too.
She might have been saying it in a positive way, like wishing for everyone to be happy and have a good Christmas morning. I'd ask, though.
Give her what she asked for. She will remember that long after she thinks of any gift that was bought for her. Let it go and make sure you make that a part of her life from here on out. Merry Christmas.
its normal for people with bickering families i suppose... its probably not phsycologically harmful but its also not something you want your child thinking is it? do you want your kdi to think you have a disfunctional family before he knows what disfunctional means?....(or she)
Don't talk to her about it because she left it for "santa" and she'll not beleive in santa anymore , but she might of saw you and your husband/boyfriend fighting or something and its going to be Christmas thats why she asked for a happy santa...
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dito the other answers.
is there anything..'not right' going on at home right now? IE-fighting, etc.
if there is fighting that she see's I bet she just wants you all to get along, etc.
you can try to 'fix' that, by not fighting or whatever in front of her, then maybe ask her about it.
she's asking santa though, so I dont think it's something that should be let go.
it's something she obviously wants to talk about with someone & make better.
Good luck!!
Talk to her.
Perhaps she has seen you and your husband fighting, even just a tiff at the sumpermarket and she wants to make sure everything ok
Try to make it a very special day for her, and give her a happy family..then after the festivities die down, try talking to her about it.
She probably just wants everyone to have a great Christmas, but if there's been a lot of stress around your house (and at this time of the year there usually is!), she may be particularly sensitive to it and just need some consolation that everything's ok.
she might just mean to for the family to be happy like it is, or she might hear fightin and stuff all the time or even just sometimes and wants the family to be happy again, either way you shoudl talk to her about it
but why the heck do you still have a kid over 6 who beleives in santa?
My dad left us when I was 4. I once wrote a letter to Santa asking him to bring my dad home. Kids are so innocent and honest, your child was sincerely asking Santa for what she wants for Christmas.
that letter was for Santa and not you... she will feel betrayel by you if she knows that you read HER letter to SANTA.i think you should let it go.
She may feel blessed that she has a happy family and wants it to continue.
Or the family may have issues that are effecting her.
You need to talk to her in a kind gentle way and find out what she is thinking and feeling.
you could break out your bible, & read what a happy family is, then you could teach her to pray for those things. By the way try being less grouchy in the morning.
Think about everything. Could she of heard you and your husband fighting or a resent death? It could be something you dont know about so I would ask her.
Children see everythingand they hear everything. even when you think they aren't listening or paying attention, they are.
She's 10yrs old. she knows what a happy family is, duh. she watches other families, see her friends' families, reads about families in books, and see them on t.v.
It's not invasion of privacy for a parent to know what their child is doing. This how we prevent another child shooting in our schools.
You need to talk to her before the big day, you don't want her crying on christmas. If you and your spouse is under stress, or have been fightin/arguing. She may think that you're not happy. You need to be open with her and honest with her.
My son is 7yrs.old. and I've never kept anything from him. He knows that what goes on between his dad and I has nothing do with him. We constantly reasure him that we love him.
And then I explain to him that no family is perfect, and nobody's happy all the time. Even people in love(like mom&dad) argue and fight over things.
Do this with your daughter and she will thank you for this. Maybe not now but someday, she will.
tell her santa called you as he is concerned about her letter and have a talk with her
If her family isn't happy it is normal for her to ask for a happy family.If she sees you quarreling often or her dad being angry at you or you eing angry at her dad,it's natural to wonder why is that and want to change it.
Why does your 10-year-old still believe in Santa?And why does she write letters?You better pay more attention to your girl and let her grow up.At 10 she should know that Santa doesn't exist.
ur child is sub consciously feeling that her family is not happy.. in the true context.. is there some stress in the family.. if yes.. get her to know that she is not the reason for the stress and yes.. the family is still happy.. better still try removing the strain in the relationship.
ur child is merly manifesting her heartfelt desire to santa who is suppossed to give whatever one asks for.
if u dont have problems around.. then probably u can ask her to share her secret of santa with u.. this way u will get her talking..
If you are going to talk to her, which might be a good idea, then don't tell her you read the letter. If she still believes in Santa, then that'll get the questioning going. Maybe tell her that Santa is worried and told you what she had written. Is your family really growing apart? If not don't worry but kids of that age do write some strange things. Maybe one of her friends families is drifting apart and she doesn't want the same to happen.
And don't mention eating the Santa cookies to her - That'll be the least of her problems right now. Good Luck!
Yes, that is quite sweet. You should try and make it come true ;)
yes very normal maybe things aren't going nice and calm at your house maybe you should talk to him about it and see whats going on. ~good luck and merry christmas!
maybe you're a wee bit bit. opps i mean GRUMPY in the morning. or do you always fight in front of your lil one? if thats the case smarten up, kids blame themselves and try to make things right, dont give her that kind of stress.
no that is not normal especialy froma 10 year old. maybe you and your husband should trie to be realy happy.not fight. and if you don't have a husband she problably missis her dad. maybe it's just a face hope she feels better.
your bad parents!
Sounds like the morning routine may have your 10 year old stressed. Look at things through her eyes and see if there's anything that can be changed. Clothes and cereal, bowls, etc. set out on the table the night before, bathroom schedule, lunches and snacks done by the kids, not you the parent. Ask your 10 year old for some ideas. You'd be amazed at what they can come up with.
It is definitely something you need to talk about with your child...plus, at 10 she SURELY knows that there is no Santa, and she intended for you to find that note and read it, so she is trying to tell you something. How will she feel if you don't mention it??
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