Help i'm a single mom with a 11 year old son who is complaing of pain in his testicules he has to see a female
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when I was younger I had a female doctor. one day I was having some trouble "going" and we called the doctor and asked that the male doctor (who also worked at this office) would see me. there were no probelms with this at all and as it turned out all I had was a UTI, easly treeted and taken care of. call the doctor's office and see if a male doctor works at the same location, or is very close by, and ask that yoiur son be seen by him.
ghorthah yes
just tell him it might be embarrassing, but every man has to go thru it.
sounds like he has love nuts.
Yes definatly stay in the room with him. Tell him to close his eyes or look the other way,that is what they had my nephew do. It helps someone to relax when they do not know what is happening or going to happen.
Why does he have to go to a female doctor? He might feel more comfortable to go to a male doctor.
he just needs too masturbate , this will ease the pain . seriously ,
First, tell him to relax. The person he's seeing is a doctor and she is only interested in his health. All she's going to do is hold his testicles and feel for any abnormalities. Tell him...yes, even though this pain is in an embarassing area...ALL guys have to have that checked by a doctor at one time or another. It's perfectly okay, and important just like it would be if he had pain in his stomach or leg.
This could be a problem that needs attention right away.lady doctor or nurse practitioner. Explain that they will gently examine his private areas, and if he wants you to stay in the room, you will be right there with him. There will be some embarrassment because he is a pre-teen, but that shouldn't keep you from seeking medical treatment.
I would think as a mom of an 11 year old it would be a very simple answer. Let him know that Doctors are there to make sure people are feeling well and are there to take care of us. It does not matter if it is a woman or a man inspecting us, because it is something they see every day and want us to feel good again.
If he is embarrased about a woman doctor seeing his penis or testicles then just ask if there is a male doctor available to do the inspection. And also, may he feel a bit shy because his mom is in the room too at age 11?
My son had some problems from a sports injury, he liked the female doctor he was going to and had no problems going to see her.
She explained what she was going to do and he was fine. He object more to my being there then to her. 'Don't forget Mom, she is a professional, you are just a Mom'
He will have to put a gown on, the nurse will come in and talk to you and him first, she will check his vitals, temp. etc. Then the nurse will leave, the doc will come in, she will have to look at his testicles and possibly feel them to see if there is anything she can feel wrong, she will also have to feel on his skin around them. She is feeling for lumps, or anything out of the ordinary also, to see if and where this causes him pain. They may then run some tests, possibly even blood tests to test for certain things. Then it will be all over. My 10 yr old son had to have this done for a similar reason and he is at an age where he does not like girls they are eeww yuck, and he was really shy about it but, then he realized it is all over very quickly and that made him happy. Good luck and it will be all over before you know it.
The doctor is a professional who sees this type of thing everyday there is no reason to be embarrassed. yes it probably will be an awkward situation for you but this is all a part of growing up. The doctor would rather see you now and make sure that nothing is wrong. As for your mother if she has to stay in the room then just remember that she is your mom and changed your diapers maybe she could turn her back if that would make you more comfortable. I think it's great that you are able to come to your mom for the "guy" things in your life, that shows that you trust her and she is a good mom.
This is what I would say to him. Not a doc. but have a son. Best of luck to you both and Merry Christmas.
I really feel for the kid. i went thru the same thing (alto I'm much older) recently. the male doctor brought in a cute young thing who was seeing practise. You just have to grin and bear it. Think of other things or if necesary go to your happy place. all the doctor will do is shine a light thru the sac and take a look. Then you can tell all your friends that this cute young doctor had ahold of them! so lie.
Our family dr is a woman, when my son had the same problem I called the office and her male partner took care of him, the dr who did the operation was also a male. No way would my son see a woman in this situation and I did not blame him. Find another dr and don't make matters worse for your son!
male or female drs.they are professionals in their field.they dont care about his penis or balls,they are just trying to figure whats wrong with your son.tell him as long as they know what to do,then dont be affraid.i amagine they saw more then 1.
Just tell him that it is really not a big deal, and these things are part of life. Dont be embarrassed because doctors see worse things that he couldnt imagine. :) And for mom, please bring in a magazine or somthing to keep from paying attention to this process. If you pay attention too closely, that will be even more uncomfortable. Tell him that it will only take a minute, and he is going to feel extremely relieved after it is over. One minute and all worries are over. Other than that the only problem I can think of is that he is about to hit puberty (and dont worry, this is totally normal and happens to a lot of people)...his testicules might not have dropped down into the scrotum yet, and if this is the case, they might do a small procedure to fix the problem. Really nothing to worry about.
ask him if he wants you in the room with him. Chances are, there will be a nurse present, and he's old enough to decide if he wants you there. My mom went with me for my first pap smear, it was really embarassing, but I needed her support. I made her stand in the corner, and not look, but it was just as good having her in the same room.
Plus, if you have a guy friend, or perhaps his granfather or uncle, he may want to talk to them about his problem. Mom's are always nice to talk to, but sometimes you need a guy to talk to. My husband was in the same situation...it was just him and his mom, but he had "guy talk" with an uncle, that helped through some of the more personal things.
Yeah we had that last year (my 11yr old son, I mean)- might as well skip the doc's office because they'll send him to the ER for the test to see if it's twisted up in there. That can be serious so I hope that is not what it is. Some people are going to touch, try not to freak out. They are professionals and want to help.
Well, if it was twisted, the damage is done. That must be corrected almost immediately.
Love nuts is a probablility. Right age. A good wet dream or a little hand action will probably take care of it.
Anything else is likely minor, like recovering from a nasty game boys sometimes play where they try to kick each other between the legs. Sometimes, you get caught completely off guard and get a really nasty hit. Can hurt for a couple of days. After that, he might not mind the doctor handling the boys. LOL
take him to a male doctor if possible !
He'll be more at ease and may be more honest with him and tell him what's the real problem.
Glad to know your son can confide in you,being a single mom and all.
Way to go,keep the communication lines open !
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