Parents why do you keep doing this?
lack of disapline is the main cause of your kids acting up.
Answer:
You don't need to spank to have well behaved children. I know this from experience.
Any smart parent realizes that the only way to have well behaved children is to follow through with their threats of punishment, stop making excuses for the childs bad behavior, and realizing that it is OK to tell your child NO and it is OK to expect your child to behave in public. Children behave how they are EXPECTED to behave.
If you parent from the couch and don't get off the couch until you've yelled at the kid FOR THE TENTH TIME (because the child KNOWS you will not get off the couch for at least nine more threats)... you will have children who do not behave. If you get off the couch and help the child to behave ON THE FIRST OFFENSE (first time EVERYTIME) you will have children who do behave. They don't want you "helping" them to behave.
Isn't it really the parents who need to be spanked.??
wow
I agree with you.
Wow, how do you really feel about it? :)
It depends on what you think discipline is. Is it hitting a child?
I have nothing against people who spank. I do agree that there is a lack of discipline in today's society. But I feel there are far more creative was to discipline a child OTHER then spanking them.
Obviously, your parents didn't care too much about you if you cannot even spell correctly or make a correct argument.
Why don't YOU stay out of people's lives who choose not to spank. Surprisingly, many parents don't spank and their children are great.
Many parents (I know) who do spank--their children still have major discipline issues.
AMEN
Much easier said than done. We as parents have the fear of losing our children. Strangers can hear you yell at your kids or argue with them and turn you in. It is very easy to say "tell the government to shove it", it is much harder to do when the risk is losing the most important people in your life.
Glad I don't have that problem
wow
spoken like a true childless person. i am not against spanking but what would YOU recommend when spanking is ineffective? Death, maybe??
Lack of CONSISTENT discipline is the problem.
I tend to agree with you.but respect is a two way street and just because they are children, that does not mean that their feelings don't count. My kids know when they do something wrong, they will get punished...and Im happy to say that all three of my kids are very well behaved, and disciplined young teen-agers. You don't have to beat your kids in order for them to do the right thing. Teach by example.
my kids dont act up they are honor students and always show respect and i didnt have to beat them i just let them know when i say no i mean it there is a way to talk to children without corporal punishment you just have to find out what works for your child and i agree that giving a child a spanking does not hurt if it is deserved
If you have to spank a child more than twice a year it's not working. I only did it once and my girls straightened up. I never had to do it again. I had to use discipline with my son. Discipline takes a lot more effort and planning. He responded very well to it. Take the time to discipline. The results are worth it.
i guess yur rite. Im not a parent. yet.
I AM BEHIND YOU ALL THE WAY! YOU ARE RIGHT 100% (APPLAUSE). I plan on spanking my kids just like I was spanked as a kid.
i do agree, more children need to be diciplined by their parents, but more parents need to take the time to teach their children how to behave, it irks me when your at a nice restaraunt and the child three tables away is screaming his head off because he cant have that dessert. when i was little dessert was a rare thing, and a reward for being extra good. the main problem though, is everyone is in everyone elses business, if a parent diciplines their children by spanking them then let them, dont call the effing cops. if people worried more about how they were raising their children than how their neighbor was we would be a better society as a whole.
I don't think the problem is with the method of punishment (be it a time out, a spanking or whatever). I think where most parents fail their children is by not laying down clear rules, and when they do, by not consistently sticking to them -- and not giving a consistent punishment.
So to get this right:
Step 1: Clearly explain the rules and expectations. Tell the child what will happen if they break the rules
Step 2: When the break the rules -- tell them they did
Step 3: Punish them accoding to what you said you would
One area of confusion is punshing the same behavior really harshly one time, and but not much the other time -- important to be consistent.
I agree with you on this one.. I was spanked as a child and I do the same to mine when they choose to act up which hasn't had to be done in a long time, b/c I started disciplining early on... They already have the respect that children are supposed to have for their parents and I'm damn proud of that.. I'm equally sick of seeing these kids act up everywhere and the parents just laugh it off!! You're right on this one.. Thanks for speaking up
AMEN!!!!!!!!!!...
The Bible says, "Spare the rod, spoil the child!" I am with you on this 100%! People are raising a generation of disrespectful, spoiled, hateful children; that think they say and do as they please, not just with their parents, but with ALL AUTHORITY and ADULTS. Sosiety as a whole is paying for this style of parenting and it is sad.
Time out chairs and "Stop it little Johnny", doesn't begin to cut it, when you have children cursing and hitting at their parents! I realize every week, by way of THE NANNY SHOW, how out of control parents really are, and how many little children are running their house holds! We are talking toddlers here, not even teens!
Bottom line, the bible says to, "Beat the child, for he shall not die"; parents need to get a grip and stop being passive to compensate for long hours at the office, divorce etc.
I have spanked my child before and I find that it doesnt really work all that well, I find he listens better after going on time out or after me throwing out his toys.
and I dont really think that spanking teaches children right from wrong, in fact its the opposite hitting your children only lets them think that hitting is ok.
I used to spank my children, but not anymore. It doesnt teach them a lesson, it just makes them scared of you. I now use a naughty chair or take away movie day and it works wonderful. I will never go back to spanking my child.
i agree, but i dont think hitting a child needs to be done all the time. time out is a good way to deal with it, it works with all ages of kids, even one year olds. which i have experience with.
taking their stuff is a good one as well. it can teach them alot.
although no disapline will work unless the parents keep at it, not giving in.
although i agree that parents should have the right to raise their kids the way that they like, as long as its not a very hard smack that is just not suitable for the age of the child. just hard enough to teach them the lesson.
i dont care what the law says anyway on that subject because if i feel like smacking my child because they just WONT listen!, then i will. although it will only be done when needed, which is not often at all.
people say that children learn nothing from being smacked, but i was smaked as a child, and it did me NO harm, it just firmly lets the child know that they need to behave!! so whats the big deal really, if it does no harm?
smacking a child (as a last resort) is better than having a spoilt child
WHY is it that people who have no kids or shouldn't have kids get on this site and try to shove their views of parenting on other people? I mean if your so strong at standing up to the government we would not have illegal immigrants as you clearly stated in another answer you were against them. So you go right ahead and follow your own words about standing up to the government.
Yes good point! Who's wearing the shoes in the house?? the adults or the kids?
In my home ITS ME!!
Spanking is not necessarily the answer in all cases. I have 4 children and I could spank my son all day and it would phase him. Stand him in the corner, now that was pure torture for him. My daughter, on the other hand, put her in the corner and she would have a ball drawing (with her finger) on the wall.
Every kid is different, but CONSISTENCY is the key.
Gee..I mean don't you know what a period(.) or a comma(,) are. Apparently spanking is not the best choice because it tells kids that spanking is ok. It is very wrong and it is illegal. You should do time outs and groundments. absolutley no spanking for you!
I agree, to be honest. I hate parents who let their kids run amok and do nothing to stop them. I work hard to raise my sons to have manners and to respect others. Sometimes I feel like I;m the only one who does!
Yeah, you're right. It also teaches them that it's ok to hit someone if you're bigger than them and it teaches them that violence is the answer to problems. Hey, that would be great!
I totally agree with you. It seems like in today's world the kids are raising the parents. The kids tell the parents what to do and it should be the other way around. I was spanked when I was younger and I grew up just fine. Discipline is the main key in becoming a strong individual in life.
I agree. People think it is oversimplisitic. But, if done right, spanking makes a real big difference. Those who say it does not work are generally not doing it right. Those who think it is inherently ineffective are basing this on what they think are proven facts. As I have mentioned before the studies finding this are deeply flawed and in fact there are very good studies (that never get mentioned in the mainstream media) showing that nonabusive spanking is not only not harmful but the most effective way to get kids to comply with their parents' wishes.
Doing right primarily means that it is done within the whole context of good parenting and that the spanking be consistent, and that it be more than just a couple of half hearted thuds over a well padded rear.
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