What should the proper consequence be for a 12 year old (6th grader) who called an adult stupid?
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I have taught my daughter that respect is something that is earned, but that even if she disagrees she still has an obligation to be polite. Was your son right? Or was he just being naughty?
With so much arrogance, deception and rudeness in this world, it is wise to teach our kids to question. I dont know that I would punish him, rather I would want to find out what prompted it in the first place. Then I would suggest he use common sense and good manners and warn him that there will be consequences next time.
you can ground him from ALL electronics until Christmas!
Why did he call the adult stupid? Was it justified?
Have you tried to teach him to respect adults? Do the adults around him deserve his respect?
okay did first of all you ask why he did so? and if he had a good enough reason then their should be no punishment. no do not take his presents back that is just cruel. you should make him write an apology letter to this teacher if his actions were wrong doing. and make him hand it to the teacher in front of the class with you present. this will embarass him and he should stop. good luck. and believe me that is enough punishment
Depending on wo the adult was, make him apologize and become that adult's indentured servant. (Sort of) Make him do chores and light housework for that person, culminating in a 5 page essay highlighting the good traits of the insulted person.
The thing with kids at that age is you find the more harsh the punishment the more they resent you and try to justify what they did as right.
Heres some age relevant ones and I use them on my younger ones.
Computer, TV, and video game restrictions for a 12 year old a week should be good, fill his weekend with helpful chores and have him write and applogy or an essay to on how people are different and no one deserves to be called stupid.
Community service. Set him up in an environment where adults know what they are doing and he may not have a clue. Better yet, a volunteer act where policemen are present so they can clue him in on respect. It will build character as well as respect.
My first reaction would have been to pop the kid in the mouth. I think that taking back christmas presents is a bit harsh. Grounding might work...obviously an apology to the adult in question is in order...
hmmm, a 6th grader.
i think he should be grounded.
grounding works quite well if your kids likes to go play with friends or even likes video games or tv time.
i would take away the class christmas party or ground him for a weekend or no video games or tv or computer for a week.
get creative. the punishment doesn't always fit the crime. sometimes, it's just a generic punishment for doing something wrong, like calling someone stupid. that's a big deal and he needs to know it.
take care:)
Yeah, opt for too hard on him.
I got back handed once when i called my mom stupid.
Never did it again. Never called an elder stupid or anything bad like that again in my life.
There was no lapse of time though. "stupid" came off my lips and the back of moms hand met them two seconds later. It was the only time I ever got slapped in my life.
You can bet i never did that again.
Make him write a 4 page report on stupidity.
Make him apologize and then get out the soap.
first of all, find out why he called the adult stupid. who was the adult? what did that say or do? was it truly on the stupid side? in any case, make them apologize to the adult. then make him write a five page (or someting) paper on manners and name-calling. make him really write the paper. dont accept less than what you asked for and make him use refrences. tell him that the last apge is to be written on why he should apply what he knows/.blah blah blah... you get my drift...;et me tell you, a couple 5 page papers and youll have a nive boy on your hands
maybe the adult is stupid. This whole making kids respect people because they are older is wrong, now days we have serious problems by not letting our kids speak out a little. Were you there to see what happened? I would't punish till all the fact are in. By the way taking xmas presents away would be last to me. Take tv privledges away if it comes out he was wrong or talk to him after all he is 12. Let him decide his punishment and work it out.
Im 12 and when i screw up my parents usually ban me from the computor or video games for 2 weeks. Thats why i dont get in trouble because i cant take 2 weeks wit out the comp. I can go wit out the video games tho
Basically, it is wrong for a 12 year old to ever call an adult stupid. If it was done to the adult's face, it is really wrong and the child should apologize in person - after he gets a hard spanking and mouth washed out with Ivory soap.
If the adult was a parent of the kid, it is the same punishment as well as the kid stays in his room after school - with no computer or games, etc. Give him extra homework such as book reports to complete.
As for Christmas presents, do take back some expensive one he wanted such as the new Playstation.
Adults must get respect from kids.
ok if his name is anthony then u kill him cuz i know a sixth grader whos name is anthony and he is so terrible... he has gotten suspended like 5 times this year and like 8 times last year so i say no celphone no tv no computer until 2007
I would first question WHERE he learned to disrespect adults from. If you're always struggling that means there is no discipline plan in action, which should have begun as soon as he could walk. It's too late now to start from square one.
Who's really to blame? The child that said it or the parent that didn't teach the child not too?
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