How can you get a 4 year old to stop being so competitive?
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I am the mother of 2 competitive children, I am competitive and so is my husband. We love playing games, bowling, etc. We all race to the vehicle when we go places. I think that is why I have survived all these years...because I refuse to lose (at life). Competitiveness is a GOOD thing, something you should allow in your child. What you should NOT allow is the poor behavior when he either wins or loses. Address it every single time you see it."that is not acceptable behavior. apologize for being a bad sport." Dont put up with it, but dont squash your 4 year olds desire to win either.
Let him learn the hard way.
When he has no friends because of his behavior, maybe he'll realize it then
tell him "YOU LITTLE **** IM OLDER,SEXIER,AND HAVE HOTT BOOBS SO SHUT THE **** UP"! NO LOL PLZ DONT SAY THAT
Stop praising him when he "wins." Don't make a fuss over him for being first anymore. Somewhere along the way he's learned that these behaviors determine his self worth and you have to help him unlearn it.
Scold him when he is being a bad sport and commend him he is being a good sport. His actions after winning or losing is the problem, but being competitive is a great thing...he might go very far in life with an attitude like that!
He's obviously learned from someone he knows. Find out who it is and keep them away from your 4 year old.
My four-yearold was like that ALL SUMMER. He seems to have grown out of it though. I think it's just a phase they go through. However, you could check out www.mothering.com/discussions if you want to talk to some other moms about it. It's a terrific site. :)
When he is a bad sport when he loses, discipline him in front of everyone. He will feel embarassed and I doubt he will ever do that again. Give him a lesson in humility.
From what I have learned about children at the age they are going to be competitive if they are around competitive environment. Don't praise the child when he wins. Don't make things a competition. Parents like to use that on younger children because it seems to be easier to make them do certain things in a timely matter. Let the child know that there is no race going on...if he is rubbing the fact that he won...act like you don't care...people will need to ignore him. If he loses, let him know it is ok to lose, don't praise him nor feel sorry for him. He will learn. Make sure that you and his father and siblings show a prime example.
get him invoved in a sport
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