Bathing Our Kids Together?
They both have the option to bathe or shower alone, but lately i've been pressed for time and they don't want to wake up early in the morning. Is this still okay at this age?
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As long as they don't have a problem with it, I think it's perfectly fine. I would, however, start making your oldest bathe alone before he's 13.
As for the hair washing dilemma, my advice would be to cut his hair if he refuses to maintain it. Teach him how to *properly* wash his hair, and tell him if he can't keep his hair up to your standards of cleanliness then you will cut it. Sounds harsh, but kids usually wash their own hair (no matter how long it is) around the age of 7 or 8 and an 11 yr. old shouldn't need help from mom when it comes to bathing.
Yes, it's fine. They will be showering with other children at school or the sports club anyway.
I wouldnt. why would they play in the tub at 8 and 11 ?? my sons 4 and doesnt wanna play in the tub no more. plus the 11 y/o will go through puberty soon. I wouldnt want my mom to see me naked at 11. tell him to either wash his hair or cut it. and make them shower before bed then they dont have to get up early
I think anything past toddler age is too old. I would allow them to bathe or shower alone, in fact I would insist upon it. It doesn't cost that much extra. My whole family showers or bathes every day and our bill isn't that bad. I don't know but I felt dirty just reading this. That isn't your fault, it's just my beliefs. Nothing against you!! I think it's time. Are they both boys? God, I hope so.
8 years and 11 years together taking a bath is at their age is not good and especially to protect your youngest kids.Instead saving money on water usage,time and electricity some day it's more serious and perhaps you will not be able to stop them to do so.
yes if they choose to but you should ask their option
Why do you need to supervise baths when your kids are that old? I don't think it will have any bad effects on the children. I really don't understand why your son can't just wash his hair himself. Girls have long hair and can wash it, why can't he? I don't understand how you not having time should interfere with THEIR time. It'd be easier for you to just let them take baths themselves, it saves time. They're not babies who'll drown in the tub anymore.
I don't mean to critisize you, but at their age the shouldn't be into playtime in the bath anymore, especially since they're boys. Also, it sounds like you are enabling the older one to continue being dependent on you for such simple things as washing his hair. He needs to learn to be more self suffeciant. If he doesn't wash his hair on a regular basis by himself tell him you are going to have to get it cut short.
They should be encouraged by age 11 to bathe alone. You are making it a game when they should be concentrating on their hygiene as they are entering adolescence. One could be doing his homework while the other bathes or reading or perhaps watching a TV show. They should be treated as individuals catering to their own needs.
no its not alright to put a 8y/o with a 8y/o its sick that way and the 11y/o will be going through puberty soon. im sure they can bathe alone
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Yea I would start trying to get the 11 yr old to shower by himself and for the first few stand there and show him how he needs to wash his hair.. In the next year he should probably be on his own.. he will probably want to be anyway. Heck you might want to try the 8 yr old as well. All of my friends with kids have them shower. Less water than a bath too! We have friends with kids anywhere from 5yrs old taking showers on their own. Our 3 yr old has just now starting taking them too (supervised of course).. He will get the hang of it after a few times.
In some states, letting your 11 year old bathe with an 8 year old could get you and your older son in trouble. An 11 year old exposing himself (like he would have to be doing in the bathtub) could qualify as sexual abuse. It isn't a big charge at this point, but it could cause your children to be taken away and put in foster homes.
As for the hair washing...my little brother sometimes lets his hair get long too and he washes his own hair. In fact, my 7 year old nephew washes his own hair..but anyway..on Friday or Saturday nights, my brother and I wash eachother's hair. He'll lean over the bathtub, fully clothed and I wash his hair (much like you get it washed in the salon).
Good luck.
that is really strange for both your 11 and 8 yr old to be bathing together and having you wash your 11 yr olds hair. no offense but is he mentally incapable of doing it hisself? i have a 5 yr old daughter with long hair and she can almost wash it by herself and her own body and brush her own teeth.i think your son needs help or counseling, he is almost a teen ager why does he let you see him naked thats strange for you and him.
I think it's ok.as long as their ok with it
sure, it's ok. . . there both boys after all. When they get tired of this they will start taking care of themselves.
as long as the kids don't mind seeing eachother naked in the bathtub i say leave let them be
As long as their both boys (or girls in another family's situation who might be reading this) I don't see a problem with it. If you had one of each, I'd say probably not, as your 11 year old would be nearing, if not in the process of, puberty.
It's fine but you might want to start to stop these things because if someone is over then he might feel uncomfortable taking a bath/shower
At 11 years old, a kid is fully capable of washing his own hair. If you do it for him at 11, when does it end? At that age he's old enough to stay home alone for Pete's sake. If his hair is too long for him to take care of himself, make him get it cut. At 8, a child can bathe himself unsupervised, even if you do probably need to be in the house in case he needs something. An 11 year old is nearing puberty if he isn't there yet; it's NOT normal or even OK for you to be bathing him, or to take a bath with his brother. Be a parent; make them get up earlier, or you can have them do it at night. Being a parent also involves teaching your children how to do things for themselves so they can function in life.
There is nothing wrong with this!! The people who are criticizing you for your 11 year old playing n the bathtub is wrong. GEEEEEEEEEEZZZZZ the KID is 11 not 17 it is okay if he wants to play in the tub. Sorry had to get that out.
The only thing I would do.... I would talk with your 11 year old about his hygiene and show him the proper way to wash his hair. You don't want him to be made fun of if he does smell or his hair is dirty. Kids can be brutal!!
It's all really a matter of your own opinion. If you think that it's still okay, go with that. If you feel like it's beginning to be inappropriate, then they should be seperated. If course, they are both boys so I dont' really see what the problem would be. The main thing is to get your 11 year old to start taking care of himself, he is coming of the age where he is going to start wanting his own privacy, so he should have a basic grasp of how to cleans himself before that time. I'm sure that if either of them was uncomfortable about it, you would know.
Sounds a little weird. You should put your foot down. Seperate baths before bed at night. Your 11 year old should want to be more independant. He shouldn't need his mommy to wash him. Is their father around? Maybe it's time for a talk.
I dunno.To me it sounds like they are a bit too old to be batheing together.I have 4 kids 3 boys ages 6,4,3 and a little girl 1year and am 33 weeks pregant and none of our kids bath together.As a matter of fact the boys take showers and our daughter takes a bath.My 6 year old washs himself and all and once a week I will go in a wash him just to make sure he is doing a good job.Plus why are they playing?Plus if your 11 year old can't wash his own hair cut it untill he learns to take care of it himself.
They are kinda old for that.
An 11 year old should be washing his own hair, even if it is long. When I was an 11 year old, I had long hair and no one else washed it..he is old enough to be doing it himself. Tell him if he doesn't take good enough care of it, then he will have to get it cut off.
I think it is time to seperate them now
Well as for the playing, the ages are fine for tub playing. I mean dang they are still KIDS. I have 4 girls and my 11 yr old will NOT take a bath with her 7 yr old sisters, but will take one sometimes with her 10yr old sister. If I am in a crunch for time, she will ask if she can give her 7yr old sisters a bath(yes they have issues) to help me out but not get in with them anymore.
As far as hair washing goes, tell him to start taking more showers and practice washing all that hair. If not he will have to cut it shorter until he can learn to maintain long hair. Maybe he can shorten the hair and learn to wash longer hair as it slowly grows back out..
Good luck,
Nude is not lewd. When (and if) they desire privacy, believe me, they will let you know.
it is time for each to take their own shower at night before bed if everyone wants to sleep more in the morning
the long hair...if he does not get it clean by himself after a shower...send him back in to do it again until it is clean...if he can't keep his own hair clean then it is time for a cut that is easier for HIM to care for
The 11 year old is too old for this anymore. Puberty will be arriving shortly if not coming on already. His body will start to change and he'll need his privacy away from the questions or remarks of his 8 year old brother and the hair washing of his mom. He may not tell you right away he's feeling uncomfortable because he's having fun playing. He's at the age where they're still really little boys mentally but their bodies are changing so he's torn between . Get him to wash his own hair even if he doesn't do it right. he'll get it eventually. time their showers if you ned to. let them know they got 15 minutes to scrub scrub scrub and get out! Once they get into a routine it may go easier for you
one kid takes a bath a night (the 8 yr old) and the 11 year old takes a shower in the morning -- so he's in 6th grade and doesn't shower? my 5 and 6 year olds take showers and wash their own hair -- they even use "big people" shampoo. they're not babies, stop treating them like it and they will stop acting like it
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