Starting school?
She has my first teacher, so I do know her teacher, but she is not very approachable. I also don't want to go running to her with every little problem, but I am worried my daughter is suffering. What should I do??
Answer:
You might want to get involved in the school if you can - as a volunteer. That can make it easier to approach the teacher. If you can't volunteer, I don't see why it would be a problem to speak with the teacher. It's part of her job to work with parents as well.
I would suggest getting your daughter involved in something that will build her confidence - whether that is karate or soccer or dance. Something she is interested in and good at where she can make other friends. Provide lots of praise for her around her talents and gifts.
Also, you might speak with her to let her know everyone is different and she is perfect just as she is.
If all else fails, you could switch schools but I'd save that as a last resort.
talk to your daughter about what's going on and tell her that it'll be fine if she's not friends with that girl anymore because friendships break up all the time :)
I think you should sit with your daughter,the other girl,and her parents..and talk it over.I'm sure at the end of the conversation both of them(your daughter and the girl) can agree on something,maybe even become friends.Try it..If that is not possible..try putting your daughter in a different class,so she can at least stay focus.
My daughter had a similar situation in kindergarten. She was actually "bullied". It has forever changed who she is. Fortunate for us, we moved and she started a diff school in second grade. I spoke w/ her teacher about what had gone on in her previous school. This current school has a wonderful guidance program that I enrolled her in. About self-esteem, friendships, conflict resolution etc... Encourage her to play w/ other children. Set up some playdates w/ new friends. Regardless of how long she has known the other girl, people change. Time to move on. She will find her nitch in time.
I agree with ladyamydz's comment about guidance groups at school. I think it would be best to talk to your daughter about what is going on. If you are friends with the other girl's parents maybe talking with them, (including the girls) might help.If not then talk to your daughter's teacher and the school councilor. Regardless of how approachable her teacher is I would talk to her about your daughter's problem and how she is losing self esteem and doesn't want to go to school. The school councilor could involve your child in a councling group at school. My son was in a group for self esteem and it helped him tremendously! He really enjoyed the group, made lots of friends and has growed self esteem. The schools usually have different types of counciling groups. I hope everything works out for your daughter and she can soon enjoy school & friends like she should be able too! Good Luck!
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